Fessed up to mom

[Monsterpup]

I've been struggling a while now. For the last couple months I've been hiding it and everyone thinks that I'm ok (I guess, even though I haven't gained much weight). I finally wrote a **** page letter to my mom and told her what's been going on. I emailed it to her today (she's off work). Since then I haven't heard from her. I can't imagine what is going on in her head. I'm scared to call her. I thought she'd come to me. Should I just let her go and wait to see what she does?

[meow]

Hey Monsterpup, welcome!!

I think you were very brave to tell your mother, as you said it probably came as a shock to her.
How is your relationship with her in general? Are you close?

I think she might need a little time to process what you've told her. If you haven't heard from her by the end of the day I'm say call her. Don't leave it too long.

Is there any chance she might not have read it yet? That could be another possibility why she hasn't contacted you.

Are you getting professional help?

[laurfish]

i am so proud of you! that is a big step. I think it was good that you told your mom because the sooner you better it is to get help. Also trying to deny everything is just going to keep you sinking farther and farther into your ED. Good luck and remember you deserve help :bounce

[Millificent]

:hugon Monsterpup :hugoff

You definitely took a big step forward by writing that letter! :yay
Give your mom a day or so to process the info. When I sent my parents my letter (we live far away from each other), I think they took some time to talk to each other before calling me. I don't know if your dad is in the picture, but your mom might want to talk to him or another relative she feels close to.

If she doesn't say anything by Sunday, it's okay to go to her and say, "I need to talk to you about this." And it's also okay to tell her how nervous you are. She'll probably be a bit nervous too.

Please let us know how it goes!

:dragon Millie

[stumbleine]

:gimmehug Wow, it's great that you were able to build up the courage to tell your mom what's going on. It's important that you share it with someone- we all need the support! I know it's hard, but you did what's best for you. As laurfish said, you deserve help.

Your mom is probably just trying to think of what would be best to say to you in response and how she can help you. I think Millie's idea of waiting a little while and then calling if she doesn't respond sounds good.

[Monsterpup]

My mom and I are very close. When this first started I allowed her to take me to the doctor and then the hospital. She saw it happen to me. I'm twenty-seven and we've been best friends all my life. I still haven't heard from her :( My boyfriend says that she's probably very hurt and upset with me because I've been lying to her and telling her I was fine. She probably feels replaced by Steve (my boyfriend). She feels replaced by him. I'm sure she does. If he wasn't around I know she would've been part of this and I wouldnt' have been hiding it from her. I also know that if it weren't for Steve, I would've been hospitalized a long time ago. He's the only real joy in my life.

[Monsterpup]

By the way, how rude of me. Thanks for all the warm welcomes and support. This forum is great. I've been surfing around on here for a while but only recently decided to join (after I gave my letter to mom). Why doesn't anyone understand that we just can't walk into a room and say "hello everyone, I have anorexia"? If my boyfriend tells me to "fix" this one more time.............if I knew what was broken I'd fix it. I'm not an engine.