Therapy Styles

[slivas]

Have any of you gone to a therapist who asks you to trust her perception of your size? If you have, has it worked for you?

I'm scared that if I trust someone else's perception that I'm never going to trust my own, and what am I going to do when I'm not in therapy anymore to ask that person? I want therapy to be a permit solution, not a band-aid. I think that I'm afraid that I'm trading an eating disorder for something else that's unrealistic. A therapist isn't there at **** am when I'm having problems... I guess that I'm wondering if therapy has been successful atleast in part for anyone?

My therapist is great and I like her. I feel that she is the best therapist that I could ask for overall. I just wanted some feed back to see if I'm really off. Can anyone give me feedback. The more the better.

Thanks you all!

[ribbon]

I think you're incorrectly assuming that you will always have a distorted body image. I'm recoverED and I spend almost no time in therapy discussing the size and shape of my body and working on the underlying issues. By doing this I was able to recover and have a realistic perception of how I look (and how little it truly matters). You won't always need someone to tell you what you realistically look like. That will come with recovery. You will move past this, even if it doesn't seem like it right now.

[AngelBarbie]

If you were colour blind and couldn't distinguish between red, blue or green, would you accept that other people could see something that you, yourself could not?

Body size is a judgement. It's a comparison. It depends what you are comparing yourself with.

Compared to an elephant humans are small.

Compared to an ant, humans are massive!

Human-kinds size hasn't changed, but what you are "measuring" yourself against has.

You might feel fat and bigger, (compared to what you were before) but that doesn't mean that you are too big or too fat.

When you are ill, you do lose perspective about what it's like to be a "normal" healthy weight. You get used to bones, and looking skeletal. Any weight gain seems significant and you make value judgements about it all.

If you trust your therapist, then why would she lie to you about your size? What good would it be to lie? I am sure that on a rational level you actually KNOW that you are not fat.

I am sure that you know about BMIs and what is healthy?

It feels uncomfortable, and you assume that its fat and bad.

Instead of wondering if you can trust your therapists judgement, think about why you wouldn't trust her? Has she lied about anything else? What benefit does she get through lying?

Take care :love