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DeafGally
06-15-2001, 12:53 AM
Self-Esteem:

Self-esteem was a dirty thought to me to be quite honest. Then I realized that the self hatred I had was one of the most PRIDEful things that I could do. There are many reasons that I hate myself. I could tell you all of the lies I've told, the friendships that have been torn, or why God shouldn't forgive me. But I'm not going to. I'm just gonna shout out a bunch of feeling that are running through my mind.

Scared-I'm scared of being rejected,I'm
scared of being without this ED,
it has been my identity.
Angry-for all the mistakes I've made
Beaten-for all that is happening now
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I feel so ashamed, so hypocritical(I am a Christian and a lot of people look and say "she's got it all together".), I feel so hurt that my father screamed at me the one time I met him, and vulnerable without my mother(she died). The worst thing that I feel is guilty, dominated, and inhibited with the thoughts that the only way someone would like me is if I were the right body size, the perfect body, the "barbie doll." I am so sad and feel so helpless to this disorder. I don't want to :cry cry anymore. Not because I feel as though I lost control.
Thanks to all who were reading and listened to this ranting of mine. I haven't done this in a public way before.

Love,
Amanda
aka
DeafGally

Garth
06-15-2001, 01:53 PM
Dear Amanda ,

How your fears echo in me also . Afraid of being rejected . . . of not being deserving of this life . . . . afraid of a life without an eating disorder . . . . and feeling beaten . . tired . . . and alone in this life .
The only way I know thru this . . . . is to continue on . There will be no perfect me . . . no perfect way to be . . I will never have it all together . If I did . . . I think I'd be an angel or something . . . for I wouldn't need to be here and learn anything.
This leaves me somewhere in between . . . in the middle . . . . I'm not worthless . . . . yet I'm not priceless . . . I'm simply Garth . . . a soul . . . making my way thru this life I have chosen .
What if you were allright just as you are ? . . . no one to be . . . other than Amanda . . . can you picture that ?
It is wonderful you can express yourself here . . . to let some of those thoughts loose .
If there is but one thing I could offer you . . . it would be for you to feel some peace in this very moment . . . . know that there are more beings who wish to help us than we will ever know . Be still . . . tender heart .
:loveGarth:sun