I fucked up

[gina_rlp]

[moved from A/B to Students]


Politics - E
Psychology - C
History - C
General Studies - C

Yeah okay I passed but how shitty are those grades. People have been telling me I did well, but when you come from a fucking Grammar school where everyone got AAAB...

Gotta resit politics, maybe Psychology and History. But I want to drop out of college. Whats the fucking point?? I'm only going to fail it like I fail bloody everything. I am SO stupid, I didn't realise I had done so badly, I even cried outside on the grass in front of people. There was everyone crying cos they had done SO well, and there was me crying cos these grades have just proved what a complete and utter piece of shit I am.

I think dropping out is a good idea, I obviously don't have a future, Uni is out of the question. I'll end up sweeping the godamn streets for the rest of my life which isn't that long if I'm gonna end up where I'm feeling like going.

I am on a huge pity trip here if you haven't guessed, but then if you got the grades I got you would as well. I know people get lower grades in other schools, but I am at af fucking GRAMMAR for christ's sake, this isn't supposed to happen. I've let down the school, my parents, myself... everyone.

[**princess**]

:hugon gina_rlp :hugoff

I am sorry you are hurting hun but please try to be positive. Those are not terrible grades at all!!!
I know what you mean about the grammar school thing, I went to an all girls private school and they are really pretty fucked up over-achieving places.
You do have so many options open to you do not give up!!! I know it is hard when you are feeling dissapointed like this and is tempting to just give up but that would really be such a waste and shame!!!! :love

[fimbriae]

:hugon :love gina :love :hugoff

i'm not sure what to say, sweetie - i have no idea how :uk school marks compare to :aussie ones.

i'm so sorry you're upset. i just wanted to send you some
:love love :love and :hugon *hugs* :hugoff

take care hon.

lots of love,
emma

[lion]

:hugon Gina :hugoff

Oh, I am so sorry you are hurting... You may not have done as well as you expected but they are good grades!

Unfortunately, grammar schoools are often with high expectations and over-achieving students (I should know, I went to one!) but believe me, your grades are good...

(Let me tell you something.... :ummm they are a lot better than mine and I got in - I have just graduated with a degree!)

I know you may find it hard to believe me right now and it may seem tempting to drop out, but a new door will always open, i tmay not be as we originally planned but there is always one!

Okay, I can understand if you don't want to listen to patronising "It's good, it'll be okay..." lectures so here's a suggestion...
:stars ...maybe you could take a year out? :stars

I just thought I'd put my two-cents, for what's it worth...! :ummm

:hugon Gina :hugoff
I'm sorry you're hurting...

[PinkSunshine]

:hugon Gina :hugoff

U r not stupid. My own grades were C, D, D and a credit for my City and Guilds. Does that make me a failure too?

No it doesn't because at the end of the day, I still got a uni place.

So what if other people got higher grades. ?Stuff that. Be proud of what you have achieved.

U haven't let anyone down Gina. The only let down would be if u continued to be as hard on urself as u were in ur initial post.

Don't use this as an excuse to justify ED thoughts or behaviours.

Try to think logically and laterally about what options r open to u.

Be good to urself sweets.
:gimmehug
:love Hamish xo

[fairy]

:hugon :love gina :love :hugoff

I'm so sorry you're disappointed hon. I too was very disappointed when I got my English A-Level grade the first time I sat it (first time 'round I only took English cos of missing school, with plans to take the others the following year). All my friends did really well and there I was crying in the middle of them all. I ended up wandering around London, with my sunglasses on so no one could see my puffy eyes, in a complete daze for four hours. I was too scared to call my parents and didn't dare go home. However, once that initial shock and disappointment mellows out a little, you can spring into action. Give yourself the day off today, but tomorrow go out and buy all the newspapers and check out what universities still have spaces in certain courses. While you may be unhappy with the results you received they are still good enough to get onto a university course. Screw what your friend's at your school got, you've got to think in terms of the whole population. I was at an academically driven public school so I know how easy it is to compare yourself to your AAAA accomplishing friend and feel like you've failed by comparison, but if you knew how your grades fared against the whole population's you'd see that you've actually accomplished more than most. The universities realize this even if you don't. You still have so many options at your disposal, you just have to find out exactly which ones they are. And the only way to do that is to call around and research. You're the one in charge of your future, more so than any grade on a piece of paper is, and you can do whatever you want to do, even if you do have to adjust your path a little in the process.
Re-sits are an option (I resat my English in November and got two grades higher than I did those three months prior), as is taking a new subject to add bulk to your present grades... or leaving the educational system for a while, getting some job experience and then reapplying to universities a few years down the line as a mature student (I'm gonna be a mature student, at the oh-so-mature age of twenty one, when I start my course this September :cute). Never say never hon.

For today though, just take care of yourself. Zone out in front of the TV, take a bubble bath, buy some trashy magazine to lose yourself in, get an early night... and tomorrow you can think about what you want to do with a clearer focus.

Much love to you,
:love fairy :wand

[Janie]

Gina,

I am so sorry to hear you being so hard on yourself and being so disappointed.

You've had such a tough year and to achieve what you have is no mean feat.

You are a very strong a resilient young woman Gina and you have thability to turn things around and get yourself back on track.

There are so many options out there. It is hard right now when it is all so raw. Like others have said give yourself som treats and soon you will see this clearer and not through disappointed eyes.

Take care of yourself, if you want to talk just let me know, Em

[IndianDaisy]

I am sorry for your grade. C's are fine. You tried your best. Maybe next time you make make a goal for getting a B like studying more and taking care of yourself.

[L@UK]

Hey sweetie...

Well, you already know how proud i am of you... im sorry if i seemed at all insensitive on the phone, i know you were disappointed, but i thought your grades were really good, and i think i must have gotten carried away...

Im so sorry you feel dissapointed, but a C grade is a GOOD PASS!! And remember that it is only HALF what you will get overall, and of course, there are resits too...

Babe, you WILL get into uni, and you wil achieve all you want to. I really believe in you, and i know it might seem horrible at the moment, but it can change... there are options, and NOTHING is set in stone.

Im not sure if you got my text... but i got two Cs too... maybe i was pleased with that, as i was expecting a LOT lower... but hun, Cs are such an achievement... i really am proud of you girl.

And the E? resit. Youll come out no worse off whatsoever... you may aswell try hun, you have a chance of getting another good grade, so take the chance!

Obviously, all is a bit raw right now... youll probably want to think about resits nearer to January.

And as for people getting higher results than you? i know how you feel in that respect, but think about this: Have half of the people at school had to put up with what you have?
I know that might not seem like much of a consolation, but coming through all that, and coming out with what you have, is great.

Please dont think i dont understand, because really, i do... I know how hard it can be to be given what you dont want, and feel like youve failed.. but it doesnt have to be like that.

Although i think those grades are ace, you can still improve on them even more next year!

*hugs*

Take care my babe, today has been an emotional day... things wont look so bad tomorrow....

Love you :love

[SCotterill]

:hugon Gina :hugoff

Sweetie - i went to a grammar school and i came out with my final alevel results being two c's and two d's ! Hun - these are only ur as results. U can resit them and boost ur grades! U know that. U are allowed to feel low hun, but what will dropping out achieve? It's a rash decision that u will regret in the long run. U need to take time out now and think. They are NOT bad grades - not at all. U CAN DO THIS!

Remember - u're allowed to mope today, but tomorrow we want smiles!! :winky

Love u hun!

[Cia]

please don't drop out of college, i have known people stay on (and do better in their second year) who had far worse grades than that. last year my best friend got D,E,E,U. she resat that year and got C,D,D,D this year which she is not too pleased with but she is sticking at it.
my friend Paul is on his fourth try at alevels. people i know today got into good unis with grades very much below what they were asked for, hell, another friend phoned up a uni to ask if they would let her do a HND with a D and E, and they asked her if she would like to do the degree! Phil has got into uni with an E and a bad GNVQ result. what i'm trying to say is that you WILL go to university! if thats what you want.

you passed, those three Cs are very good passes.

i would suggest maybe doing only three subjects next year, i dropped one and it made a world of difference in terms of stress.

i'm drunk but will come back when i am less so and probably make an equal amount of nonsense. i love you. you didn't fuck up. you did well.

love Lu.

[Tap Freak]

:hugon Gina :hugoff

Don't have long but just wanted to use my sister as an example. She got a D in Art and a E is Sociology. These got her a place (through clearing) on a HND Fashion and Textiles course at one of thes best unis for Fashion. After a year out, she then went onto the second year of a degree course in the same subject and wiped the floor with them - she got a first!

So uni for you is NOT out of the question. In fact, it's a totally viable option is you take some time out to look at what is available through clearing. After her results my sister never thought she'd make it at uni but she was proved wrong and in fact she excelled. I have an idea you could too.

Don't give up on yourself!

:love Jo :kiss

[Anonymous_Member002]

:hugon :love Gina :love :hugoff

I know that anything I say right now isn't going to help... and probably will only hurt you. I am sorry you logged off before. I know I am a bit...'out of it' today, and probably only made things worse.

As others have said, C's are a good grade. I know it doesn't feel like it. Hell I remember my results. Shit. I went to a PRIVATE school. I was on a scholarship... so I wasn't exactly your average wealthy student there. I remember when the results came out... I wanted to jump off the roof. I got two C's and an E for my A levels. Now THAT sucks big time. And you know... I got into Uni with those grades. I had to leave cos of my ED, but I did well there. And when I went back to college, I was getting Distinctions in all my work.

Just because you didn't do as well as you hoped in these exams doesn't mean that you have failed life. It just means that you had a fucking HELL of a lot going on in your life, and sometimes study was less of a priority. Think about it honey... You have had one hell of a lot of stuff on your plate lately... and passing ANY exams at all is an AMAZING achievement.

You should be proud of yourself for seeing this through. For sticking with it, even with everything else.

I, for one, am very proud of you. Very proud indeed. You can do anything you want to honey. These grades are still passes... and if you resit too...

I know you can do it. I love you hon... I'm sorry that you feel so shitty. I do understand that. Like I said... I have been there too. Only I never resat... and those are the grades I still have to give people. LOL But I don't care. I'll do what I want... I'll get the career, or the degree... because I want it.

You can too.

Okay... enough blabbering. Take care honey... I love you. Look after yourself.

[ShootingSTARS]

Ok...so I fucked up today too.

Cried my eyes out this morning in fact.

Phoned the university up.

"We'd still be delighted to accept you onto the course in September!"

Everyone was expecting me to do much better...I didn't but I still got in.

People keep telling me once you get to uni, grades are important, you only need them to get in.

And next year when you take your exams, if you don't quite get what you want, most unis are flexible.

:yay Jo got a place and Gina will too :yay

Take care and call me sometime to chat ok!

Jo x

[setmefree]

:hugon gina :hugoff

Dont worry about your results.
As you said you can resit them. Maybe you will be in a better place next time around to concentrate on revision and do great.

Just a thought.... In my first year of the old A levels I failed all four of my subjects. the school told me they didnt want me on the course, that i wouldnt get into uni anywhere in a years time. well i worked my :fishy socks of during the holidays and throughout the whole year, and when i ended up with CCCC i was so proud, even though i knew i could have done better, i knew the circumstances meant I did the best I could have.

It doesnt end here, make next year work for you, work as hard as you possibly can, keep that dream of whatever you want to do firmly fixed in your mind.

love, setmefree xx

[emma lucy]

:hugon Gina :hugoff

Those grades are really good. Considering all the stuff you have been through you have done so well. I'm sure A-levels should not be taken between sixteen to eighteen because all I ever remember doing during that period is going out, getting drunk and getting laid! :winky
Absolutely no study for me whatsoever!
You are always a :stars and no piece of paper is ever going to change that.

[Manic]

:hugon Gina :hugoff

:ufo Please don't let some grade on a piece of paper stop you from being who you want to be. As the other :fishy have mentioned there are tons of opportunities available for you out there.

:ufo on a more sunbjective side - HELLO GINA, three Cs and an E are GOOD GRADES believe me. I too went to a grammar school, and was brought up in the "AAAAAAAAAAAAAAA or you're shit culture", but in REal Life this is not true. grammar school fuck up your head when it comes to grades and put on more pressure than is necessary.

:ufo Most Unis will acept you no problem with these grades. You don't HAVE to resit plitics - why? So your schoool can look better in the league tables? NO. Do it for YOU if you want to go to Uni this Year, then GO For IT.

:ufo Let us know what you decide to do.