Talk to the Fish Twenty-Six: Helping the Injured

[SFishy]

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These questions will be simple questions that you can answer about yourself. They may or may not have something directly to do with your Eating Disorder, but definately will have something to do with you.

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Helping the Injured

:bluefishy What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?

:pinkfishy How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?

:greenfish Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?

:bluefishy How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?


rules: remember, your answers cannot have anything to do with weight, food or sinking further into your ED.

[alipet]

deeppink

I am really struggling with this ed and also am in recovery for a/d addiction. i would like to chat sometime with anyone who relate. I was just look ing at the emotion page and I'm still amazed at all of the emotions mentioned.

I'm new to this type of "program" ...(the forums and chats ) so please bear with me but I really need to reach out and listen and learn how other people handle this. Thanks!

[heavenlee]

:gimmehug alipet :gimmehug welcome to the bowl. i'm sure you'll find loads of love and support in here. just be as open and honest as you can. we're here to listen and DO understand.

now...

:stars What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?
i would stop, comfort them and get them the help they needed, keeping them as safe as possible thru it all.

:stars How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?
i relate to the feeling of helplessness that comes when injured. the frustration and loneliness and external and internal pain. i relate to not knowing whether you'll 'make it' or not and desperately wanting someone to come and SEE you by the side of the road and stop to comfort you and help you regain the strength to be on your way again.
I need help to regain my strength. to reclaim the me that is missing, the me that is hurting and make her whole again.

:stars Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?
oh gosh :cry this ones hard. Because God loves us all equally. He created us in the image of himself and wants the best for us. I deserve this as much as anyone because my God wants this for me and believes in me.

:stars How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?
when i have trouble reaching out and actually ASKING for help, i will write down what I NEED. I will get my feelings and my dreams and my desires down on paper...and hand that paper over to someone i trust in the hopes that they can meet me halfway and reach out for my hand when i can't quite reach theirs.

:yay

[CerealKiller]

Helping the Injured

What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?

I would stop and see what I could do. If it was an animal, I would soothe it, and put it in my car and bring it to the vet. If it was a person, and they were conscious I would ask what I should do. If they were bleeding or in immediate medical danger (i.e. in need of a tourniquet, etc.) I would attend to the most pertinent medical wounds until they are out of danger, and have someone on the scene call nine one one for help as well. In the past, I have also taken wounded birds to the local audobon society for help.

How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?

I don't really relate to them, and am not certain that I do need help right now as I don't see myself as being injured or sick. On the contrary, I am trying to get beyond that image of myself as 'sick' and see myself as a competent individual who can achieve whatever she wants to achieve. I do not want to find my identity in being 'sick'; I want to find it in being well.

Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?

If I were sick, there's no reason I wouldn't deserve help. One person's as good as another and that includes me.

How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?

If I need help at some point... truthfully, I'm not sure what the best way to reach out would be. I should probably think of some backup plans just in case. I would probably start with the yellow pages. And the Los Angeles times. They might list counselors, support groups, etc. I would also utilize self help work books and meditation.

[Lisa_Selwood]

What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?

If I saw anyone that was injured I would try and help them. Assess how bad the siuation was and try and find help as soon as I possibly could. I would worry constantly about this animal / person until they got help and recovered

How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?

I am injured and at the moment, I feel like I am 'down and out' so to speak. I am desparate for someone to help me because, like an injured animal, I can't help myself. I need help fighting this ed, but more importantly I need help fighting the voices in my head. Because they are the illogical ones, the ones that keep telling me to sink further and further into it and away from reality.

Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?

God created everyone and everything equal. No one is better or worse than anyone else and so I suppose I deserve help as much as the next person.

How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?

I don't know. I'm scared to reach out, scared of what people will think. I just want it to appear as if everything is perfect, when deep down I'm struggling.

[mpty]

Originally posted by SFishy
** unlike the other forums, you cannot start your own posts [new topics] in this forum, but you can reply to games like this -- just click on the reply button! **

These questions will be simple questions that you can answer about yourself. They may or may not have something directly to do with your Eating Disorder, but definately will have something to do with you.

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Helping the Injured

:bluefishy What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?

:pinkfishy How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?

:greenfish Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?

:bluefishy How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?


rules: remember, your answers cannot have anything to do with weight, food or sinking further into your ED. [COLOR=indigo]

[mpty]

Helping the Injured

:bluefishy What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?

I have stopped before to help an animal that was injured and I would certainly be willing to do it again .

In helping a person I must admit I am thinking of The Good Samaritan Law and if I can get sued for trying to help someone. That is the last thing I would want to happen if I were to try to help.

If I would not be sued (protected by the Good Samaratin Law) I would go over to that person and:

First: use my cell to call Nine One One.

Second: open any airways if I could without the risk of any apparent further injuring of the wounded and

Third: Stay with that person and do whatever I could even if it was to hold their hand until the proper help arrived.

:reallymad Note: I think it is sad that we have to think about being sued before we help others nowadays.

:greenfishy How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?

Tough question for me. It's easier to answer by pretending I am the animal that is in need of assistance so I answer as if I am an animal.

I know that I still hurt and need help with things and sometimes (more than I would like to admit) I would wish someone would be willing to help me and take a risk. To be able to look past the ugly and scary stuff and know that I still have feelings just like every other animal in the universe.

As a person, hmm. I think I would say much the same and add that I would not sue anyone who did stop to help me and did not cause any harm to me intentionally.

I would also say that I am human and I have a soul and I hurt and feel and grieve and love and laugh just like everyone else does on this planet. And perhaps I deserve to be treated with the best treatment and with all the kindness and consideration that only the elite seem to get in our western culture.

:pinkfishy Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?

:bounce Oops! I think I answered this one in my above answer.[pink]

:fishjump How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?

:idea I have asked for help before when things got really bad. I have trouble now asking for help with the things I mentioned above because I am afraid it will mean I have failed somehow I will have lost respect of others and my integrity.

:challenge However... it has occured to me that my worst fears may come true if I DONT talk about it or ask for help. I think I will ask my therapist and maybe a friend for help as best I can. Often I have just faxed things over to my therapist when I couldnt ask her directly. I may do that.

[lilsweetie]

Helping the Injured

What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?
I would see if it were dangerous, and if not, i would go up to the animal or person and see if i could help or find help.

How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?
I need help and i need someone to come over and worry about me and care about me. I need someone to show that they wont just pass me by. I need to feel ccared for.

Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?
Well, im emotionally injured, which is less visible than physically injured. I believe that i dont deserve help unless i am physically injured as the animal or person would have been.

How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?
Become like the animal or person on the road. in visible need of help.

[Irongirl]

If I saw and injured animal:

I think I would stop and help it, but I might feel helpless or unqualified and try to get someone else to do it instead. But at least I'd do something.

If it was a person:

I'd be much more hestitant. To be completely honest, I'd consider how bad the injury was and if there were other people nearby.
I would probably only help if I was sure that the person would appreciate it and not feel like I was annoying or bothering him/her - that is if he/she was badly hurt or nobody else was near. Also if it were a person much older or younger than me (say, under ******** or over ********) I probably wouldn't hestitate because I wouldn't be afraid of their judgement. However, with a person around my age that wasn't very seriously injured, I'm afraid I might be to scared to do anything because I'd have to take contact with the person and offer my help, which opens up for rejection. Besides, the person would assess me somehow and might not like me, and I'm afraid that fear might be big enough to stop me from helping that person.

How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?

I somewhat relate because I'm in pain just as the animal or person probably is, and deep inside I think I want someone to see the pain, just like someone lying injured by the roud would appreciate it if somebody stopped and helped them. However, I know that if it was me lying there I would reject any help, unless I was in obvious extreme need of help, so that I wouldn't have to tell them how bad it was, which would be whimpy of me. But like that person I long for someone to say "look at this, your foot is broken and you've been walking on it! You shouldn't have been so brave - but come on, I'll take you to the doctor so you can get a cast on it." I want someone to acknowledge my pain and how tough I have been living with it. Which is sort of like the injured person wants to be seen and taken to a doctor.

Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?

I don't think I do...which is an important discovery in itself...

How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?

Unfortunately, I think I will continue what I'm doing now - suffering in silence and waiting until a physical symptom becomes somewhat serious, so someone can act like it's a bit of a problem and feel sorry for me. Sports is nice for this purpose, on the other hand it seems like I need to be in a _lot_ of pain for a coach for example to notice or care...or maybe it's the fact that I downplay the injuries so much... However, I feel so happy whenever someone recognizes that I do that, and sometimes even gets mad at me for it. It's among the high points of my life, definately worth the pain.

[Stevie]

:bluefishy okay this made me burst out laughing...simply because today is the greatest example of this. My son, my boyfriend and myself were out walking today enjoying the beautiful weather. well i noticed that an earthworm was starting to bake on the sidewalk and too far away from the shady grass. i was overcome with compassion and moved it to a safe spot. i did the same thing with the next one a couple feet away. made me feel better to save them....

:pinkfishy i don't know how i relate...simply because it's not obvious that i need help sometimes....i don't think i really relate at all. i do admit..i do need help....and i don't know exactly HOW i need that help...all i know is redflags are up....and don't know why

:greenfishy I know i deserve help...just like every single living thing on this planet deserves it. A weed, an earthworm..every human..everything....I wish we would help each other more..anyways....i'm here to live my life..i have a purpose i affect others. i can say alot more i wont'. i am not here to be dismissed....i cannot allow that anymore.

:bluefishy This is hard. Its hard because i don't know what is wrong. things in my mind are gooing so good....some things could be better but they are goals. I'm thinking about going to my doctor. maybe there is a start.

:stars stevie :stars

i have so missed these games..thank you

[Soundwave]

:turtle If I saw someone/something hurting I would stop and try to help them, or find someone who could help them.

:turtle I guess that I relate to that person/animal because well i am hurting, and even though i don't want anyone to see that, there are still some people who do and i trying to comfort me. I'm not sure exactly how I need help, which is why this ed is so hard to :kick
I think everything is so complicated and mixed up in my head I can't even see straight. I'm hoping someone will come along and have an answer that will "fix" me. I dunno, maybe with a little time that person may even be me.

:turtle I mostly don't feel like i deserve help, i feel like i deserve to disappear, but i guess i do, because, this does suck, and i am trying, and am drowning nonetheless and God still loves me and other people do, even though I don't think i deserve it, maybe i'll see i deserve it, i dunno

:turtle I've reached out to my parents and to some of my friends, i just feel like even though they have supported me, i shouldn't ask for too much, i should be able to get over this, i should be able to, take their help and magically be "fixed" But i continue to fail and i get so mad at myself for that, maybe i should honestly talk to them about it, how i feel, maybe i should tell them what i'm struggling with, not hide because i'm ashamed.

:pinkfishy S~W~ :love

[Dreamless]

I would stop imediatly and help them. Get them medical attention, make sure they were okay before I left them anywhere.

I relate to them because I feel as though I'm laying on the road waiting for someone to stop, but not moving so no one know's I'm there. I don't want anyone to feel obligated to stop for me.

I need help allowing myself to relaxe. I have been tense for months and now I can't sleep. I need someone to tell me it's okay to take a break. I need help just stopping. It's so hard for me to do that. I need someone to show me how.

I'm afraid of making people uncomfortable. Once again, I don't want people to be obligated to help me. I don't want to get in their way.

I am beginning to reach out to people for help, but I hold back alot on the details. I'm gonna work on being honest with myself and everyone else. Calling people and admiting when I'm really struggling.

Love always,
Lydia

[Bbdemusica]

If I saw an injured person or animal on the side of the road, I would try to help in some way. Sometimes it is tricky to decide how to help, but if it were a person I could offer to make a phone call or stay until help arrives. An animal would be harder to help, but I guess maybe I could take it to the nearest animal hospital or something.

I think I can really relate to the injured animal. I feel kind of like a deer stuck on the side of the road that wants to move but can't because a part of it hurts to much. Right now I feel like I want to get out of my eating disorder but it is hard making changes and dealing with feelings hurts a lot. It's sort of like I'm stuck at the side of the road trying to decide what to do next.

It is hard to list reasons why I deserve help because sometimes I feel like I really don't deserve it at all. I think I deserve help because I am a kind and giving person; I'm young and I have a lot of goals and so much living to do.

Reaching out for support is very hard. I have trouble doing it because I feel like I'm being to needy or codependent. Much of the time it means just writing an e-mail to a friend at college and clicking the send button or stopping in my guidance counselor's office. Sometimes I have to look back at other e-mails or cards where people have written positive messages to me to remind myself that it is okay to reach out because I am a good person and trying to get better is hard work.

[SomberLark]

If i saw an injured person or animal on the road, I kno for a fact that i would need to stop and help in any way that i could. It hurts me to see snother person in pain. I think my being depressed and having to experience the feeling of being sad more than the average person causes me to have a need to help someone else in pain. Knowing the hurt...i wouldnt want someone else to feel it also.
If somthingis bothering a person. I never try to push, but i want so much to be able to take the pain away, even if its for a second. No one should have to feel alone.
Sometimes....well actually most of the time, i dont even wanna bother talking about whats bothering me....even though i feel like im screaming to be heard, but no sound is comming out. I fear being a burden to someone, and that if a person is already going through a complicated time, my problems would only cause theirs to become worse.
I really want to work hard on that though. I kno its importanti should.

[afallenangel]

What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?

:starsIf the animal was a domestic animal (dog, cat) I would wrap it in a blanket and take it to the nearest vet

:stars if it t was a wild animal I would call animal control

If it was a person I would go and help him/her. I have a first aid kit in my car with basic first aid supplies (bandages, gloes, saline, etc..) I was an EMT and still have that mindset of always stopping to help


How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?

I relate becuase I can relate to the feelings of helplessness and pain becuase due to my ED


Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?

I deserve the help just as much becuase

:stars i am a person
:stars I am worthy
:stars I deserve help


How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?


:stars Talk to those close to me
:stars use my voice
:stars tell them exactly what I need
unles I reach out for help I will not recieve it and will be just be suffering

[KatherineK]

What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?

:bug I'd probably go and see how badly they were injured and if there was anything I could do- such as take the animal to a vet, and ring nine-nine-nine for an ambulance for a person. I would try to help as well as I could.

How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?

:bug I'm not sure I do relate to them.......

Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?

:bug because everyone deserves help.

How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?

:bug I have reached out and talked to my counsellor, I will go and get any other help I need- other people to talk to, meds etc.

[Amsters]

this one got me thinking...

If I saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road, what would I do?
:greenfish My immediate response would be one of concern, though depending on the situation, I might or might not be able to actually do something. I would definitely stop and try to see if there's anything with which I could help, though, even if it's simply being present or making a phone call.

How do I relate to the injured person/animal (how do I need help)?
:greenfish I'm injured as well, though not necessarily in the "I'm bleeding" sense of injury. Right now, my heart is hurting and I'm making my body hurt as a way to try to express the pain. I need to reach out to other people to find more productive and helpful ways to do this (things that don't simply hurt me in different ways)

Why do I deserve help as much as the injured person or animal?
:greenfish I have a hard time with this one, because I tend to minimalize non-physical injuries...but logically, all injuries deserve help....including mine.

How have I or will I reach out for the help or support that I need?
:greenfish I sought counselling initially. Now, I'm trying to get up the courage to start to work with a new counselor (I have to start over since I'm at school). In the mean time, I'm also exploring self-esteem issues in a group and trying to take better care of myself.

[DreamingRecovery]

What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?
:stars I don't think I do anything. I know that I can't do much in the way to help or even comfort it. The animal would probily see me as a threat anyways. If the animal was a big one, like a dog or cat, I might call the animal aid or someone that could help them.

How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?
:stars I am like a injured animal because I am in a lot of pain also, and I need comfort, love and support.

Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?
:stars I deserve the same support because I am a living being and all beings should be entitled to love and support. Noone should suffer needlessely.

How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?
:stars I'll tell my buddy and have him help me out. He's a great supporter like that.

[stumbleine]

If I saw an injured person or animal on the side of the road I would stop and find out what's wrong. If they needed it, I would call for an ambulance. While they were waiting for an ambulance I would stay by them, comfort them, and make sure they were alright.

I am like the wounded animal because I too am hurting, just mentally to go along with physical issues. I'm off on the "side of the road" in pain, hiding and helpless, and I need someone to pick me up or try to help me.

I deserve help because I am a human being with a future and a lot of positive characteristics that I just have trouble seeing. I have dreams and special people in my life and I need to be healthy and free of an ED in order to live the way I want to.

Usually I have trouble reaching out and asking people for help. From now on, I really need to just TELL whoever I want to.

[Jezebel]

What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?
I would (and have) help out in any way that I can, whether I am in a hurry to get to my destination or not. Wherever I'm headed can be put on hold while I do a good deed. If I need to call an ambulance, I would. If I need to drive the person/animal to the ER/vet, I would. If they just need someone to talk to while they regain their composure, I would. I would do anything needed.

How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?
I like to think that I don't relate to the injured at all and that I don't need help. Because I'm fine. In reality though, I know that's not true.

Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?
Because I am just as much a living person/being as much as they/it is. I deserve a place in this world.

How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?
I have been honest with my good friend Heather about what is truly going on in my head. I will try to call my parents to let them know that the battle is not yet over

[staryeye]

****) I would stop and help

****) I dont relate to the injured animal :confused. I am me..and would get help accordingly

****) Everyone deserves help

****) Reaching out is more difficult than it seems. Taking small steps at a time is needed

[keeps getting better]

:bluefishy If I saw an injured animal or person on the road I would either go and help myself or get somene that I know could help the animal to help.

:pinkfishy I think I relate to that animal or person because I am injured and in some ways just waiting for someone to help me. The difference between me and an injured animal or person on the road is that I can get up and go and get that help, and the animal or person cannot.

:greenfishy I deserve the help just as much: because I am just as important as them: and I have done nothing that means I do not deserve help.

:bluefishy I have helped myself a lot, and reached out to friends to help me, and am plannign to get help in therapy.

[CaleMare]

Irongirl, I feel like I share some of your ideas
I feel right now like my ED is ridiculous and I am mad at myself for having it when there are so many "real" injuries and disorders. I am so lucky to have a healthy body and great life, and I sabotage it? I feel sometimes that if I could just be given a loaf of bread and sent out to a third world country where there is real hunger and real suffering everywhere, I would have sense knocked into me. I actually think of this a lot,
does anyone know if this has been done before as treatment for ED people? :confused


If I saw and injured animal:

I think I would stop and help it, but I might feel helpless or unqualified and try to get someone else to do it instead. But at least I'd do something.

If it was a person:

I'd be much more hestitant. To be completely honest, I'd consider how bad the injury was and if there were other people nearby.
I would probably only help if I was sure that the person would appreciate it and not feel like I was annoying or bothering him/her - that is if he/she was badly hurt or nobody else was near. Also if it were a person much older or younger than me (say, under ******** or over ********) I probably wouldn't hestitate because I wouldn't be afraid of their judgement. However, with a person around my age that wasn't very seriously injured, I'm afraid I might be to scared to do anything because I'd have to take contact with the person and offer my help, which opens up for rejection. Besides, the person would assess me somehow and might not like me, and I'm afraid that fear might be big enough to stop me from helping that person.

How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?

I somewhat relate because I'm in pain just as the animal or person probably is, and deep inside I think I want someone to see the pain, just like someone lying injured by the roud would appreciate it if somebody stopped and helped them. However, I know that if it was me lying there I would reject any help, unless I was in obvious extreme need of help, so that I wouldn't have to tell them how bad it was, which would be whimpy of me. But like that person I long for someone to say "look at this, your foot is broken and you've been walking on it! You shouldn't have been so brave - but come on, I'll take you to the doctor so you can get a cast on it." I want someone to acknowledge my pain and how tough I have been living with it. Which is sort of like the injured person wants to be seen and taken to a doctor.

Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?

I don't think I do...which is an important discovery in itself...

How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?

Unfortunately, I think I will continue what I'm doing now - suffering in silence and waiting until a physical symptom becomes somewhat serious, so someone can act like it's a bit of a problem and feel sorry for me. Sports is nice for this purpose, on the other hand it seems like I need to be in a _lot_ of pain for a coach for example to notice or care...or maybe it's the fact that I downplay the injuries so much... However, I feel so happy whenever someone recognizes that I do that, and sometimes even gets mad at me for it. It's among the high points of my life, definately worth the pain.

[sim.hl]

:bluefishy What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?
I would say "hey are you okay?," and then would proceed to help the person or animal until they got the help they needed
:pinkfishy How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?
hum as soon as wrote this I felt what happens after they get helped?
they live. but its that help or chance of help that is enticing. however what if the animal would say no I do not need help. to me. and then to the next and to the next. we would never get to know the animal
:greenfish Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?
because maybe just maybe I deserve to live.
:bluefishy How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?
really as I think of this I feel no better than the dust around the animal. I guess I need to write down all the things that are good about me. and then ask for help because I want it.

[bucky_china]

What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?

I would definately stip to help.

How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?
I relate i am hurting emotionally inside, I need help with my ED, self-harm, abuse issues, and depression

Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?
Well I don't really feel like I deserve as much help. I feel like I don't deserve help. But I guess God created us all equal so I would not be trusting God's design if I said I wasn't worth it.

How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?
I have reached out to my parents, and my T and my friends and others.

[Tiffy]

:minifish What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road? If it was a person and they were able to talk to me I would ask if they were okay and what they needed me to do. I would do what they needed or anything in my power to help them. If they could not talk or if it was an animal I would use my best judgement to do what I thought was right to help them which probably means calling an ambulence, taking them to the hospital, finding the parents/owner, taking the animal to the vet, or whatever it took I would do it.

:minifish How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help? Because inside I am broken. I am hurt. I need help. When I am not able to take care of myself like I should, I need someone to take over, and say "Hey, you may not like this, but this is what needs to be done, and I'm doing this because I love you, and want to see you be well!" I need that love and support to put those pieces of my broken heart back together. When I'm sick, I need to be taken care of even if I feel I don't deserve it sometimes. I need what I never gotten as a child.

:minifish Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person? Because I am a person too. I have feelings just as they do. Sometimes I feel completly helpless when it comes to helping myself and I think we all do. It's okay to need to be taken care of especially when we haven't had that much in the past. I deserve help and it's okay to ask for it.

:minifish How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need? Instead of hiding my pain from others and waiting to the point where it gets to the point where I'm on the verge of suicide before someone notices that I really need help, I'm going to ask for it. I know when I need help and I'm not going to be ashamed of it anymore. Asking for help doesn't make me weak - if anything, it makes me the stronger person knowing that I need it before things get too out of control. I have an amazing treatment team that will help me if I feel I need their help and I'm going to learn how to use my voice before I forget how to.

:love -Tiffany

[savvyupgirl]

What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?
*I would definitely take the animal to the veterinarian, but I am much more hesitant to help a person; I just find people likely to be too dangerous. I would likely call nine-one-one for the person and let the authorities take the person to the hospital.

How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?
*Mhmm. . . I need help sometimes learning things I do not really understand, apparently like econ. I also need help and support to feel like I should and can recover.

Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?
*Got me. . . I do these things to myself; why should anyone else take the time and energy to help me. I should be able to help myself.

How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?
*I will likely be talking to Mandy, but I do not like the idea of asking for help on this. I want to be able to help myself. I ask for help when it is very necessary for me to develop, but never do I ask when I am struggling with academics.

[MorningSmiles]

:flower What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?

Pull over. Call nine one one or an animal protection service. Do what I can at the time to help them, like applying pressure to the wound, or talking to them, and telling them everything would be okay. I would be really anxious, because all the responibility would be on me, so I would probably call my mother as well. But I know for certain I would try to help. :gimmehug

:flower How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?

I relate to them because without support from others I am helpless. I need peoples respect and support and love, to help ME heal. I need help from others to survive. I cannot do this alone. I am in the process of healing, and I need someone to pull over if I'm going to survive.

:flower Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?

.... this is the hard question to answer. This is the REALLy hard question. I don't know WHY. I guess I know I do deserve the help ... But WHY do I deserve it?? Because I am hurt, emotionally. My wounds are internal. that person on the side of the road may not be a good person. He may not share your politics or your religion or your general philosophies. In fact, if you could meet him in any other circumstances, you could hate him. But that doesn't matter, because at that moment, he needs HELP. And it is our basic human duty to give that to him, just as you would give it to a dog or a deer, or any other human being. it doesn't matter if he has done horrible things, to himself or others... He deserves the help we can give him because he is alive, because he is a person. I am a person too, and therefore I deserve help.

:flower How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?

This week, I reached out for help. I started my "Journey to Selfhood". It was hard, but I did it. And the world didn't end. My mother and my t accepted me, after a little bit of explaining, and promised to support me on my path. I just told them how bad it has been. How much I need their support. I'm proud of myself. I acknowledged my needs, and I did my best to fulfill them. I must articulate my feelings and speak up.

[EmBem]

Helping the Injured

:bluefishy What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?
If I saw an injured animal on the side of the road I would approach quietly and try to assess how I could best help them. If it was a person I would still be quiet but I would be able to talk to them about what had happened and work out what to do.

:pinkfishy How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?
I feel more like the animal because I cant really talk about where I am hurt. I am also like the animal because if someone who has good intentions touches me where the hurt is I might snap at them to make the pain stop.

:greenfish Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?
Because I dont have to accept injury as my destiny - maybe I will survive if I let someone help me or if I let people know what is hurting in me.

:bluefishy How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?
I am going to stay in touch with the people who care about me and who know me well. I will be aware of my behaviour and notice when I am withdrawing and ask myself why. I will also write down what my counseller told me about coping with depression and hopefully go back to it when I am depressed again. I will also remember how caring my doctor here is and how there may be people who can help me if I reach out.


rules: remember, your answers cannot have anything to do with weight, food or sinking further into your ED.[/QUOTE]

[yeaux-yeaux]

Helping the Injured

What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road? I would immediately stop and help them.

How do you relate to the injured animal or person? I don't. I only feel for them because I know they are hurting.

How do you need help? I don't know.

Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person? It's hard for me to see that.

How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need? Lately I've been just holding it all in and being self destructive. I need to tell people I need help.

yeaux-yeaux

[stellbell]

i would pull over to help them and call the police/ ambulance

i've stopped from moving forward with my life, or at least slowed down the progress. i need someone to be there for me, to pull over to help me.

i might die, and i'm not ready to die yet. i have more to give, more to learn, more to live.

i will make better friends, ask for help, spend more time with my dad

[daisychain]

What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?
I would get out to help it. I would see how it was, and put it in my car in a blanket to take to a vet or injured animal facility. Therefore, I would get it the proper care it needs. I would not pretend that I did not see it, or just stand there and watch it suffer. As confronting or distressing it might be, I would get involved.

How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help? Because I am so wounded. At the moment I feel like that injured animal, hurt on the road, alone, scared, fighting for my life.

I need people in my life to be there. To be there in a way, so that I do not have to always approach them. I want them to be involved and be an adult, a friend, and a parent in facing confrontational topics, rather than side stepping around them, talking about themselves or things that don't matter, and/or pretending things aren't really happening and that I am okay. BECAUSE I AM NOT!

Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?
Because I am hurting, vulnerable, wounded, damaged, and in need of help. I deserve help because at the moment I feel defenseless, helpless, lost, hopeless.

How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need? I am seeking formal treatment, which I have never done before. I am also voicing things to my boyfriend. I have given up in reaching out for help with my family, it is a lost cause.

But I have, for ten years now, had the capacity to ask for help from my family, friend and ex boyfriend and have actively/relentlessly/articulately done so. But none of them were able to hear or support me. How can they when they push all their problems/emotions away in a deep down place where they will never be retrieved. How can you get help with your issues, when the people you seek are so completely frightened of confronting their own issues? In a way, for me, asking for help and support has gone unheard, disregarded and ignored. When I read "How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?", it makes me feel what's the point?! I am glad that I have finally found a T that I feel can hear me, because it's been too long since I have been truly heard.

:turtle:bug:butterfly

[lifewanderer]

What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?

I would stop immediately, find a warm thing to cover them in and either call for help or bring them to a place where they can be helped.

How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help?

I do not see myself as them. I guess if I saw myself as them, I would need someone to see that I am injured and to help me to find help.

Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?

I think that I am a being like them. I should be worth as much. I hope I am worth as much. I wish I am worth as much. I don't know if I am worth as much. i want to be worth as much.

How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?

I keep writing here and somehow people hear me. Even though I am afraid I keep coming back. I guess I am in need of help and need someone to hear me. Maybe that is why I come back. I feel like I am a human being here. I feel like I matter here.

I wish I weren't so afraid. It is hard.

[Krill]

What would you do if you saw an injured animal or person on the side of the road?

I would try to behave responsibly and do what first aid I have been taught, but I would also call ************ and be very relieved when someone more qualified took over.

How do you relate to the injured animal or person? How do you need help? This is not exactly an answer, but I can't help but be reminded of Frida Kahlo's self-portraits of herself as a wounded creature. She asked for help in her art. I am also remembering that there have been times when I have tried to help an injured animal when it was so confused by the pain and shock that it attacked me. You know, sometimes people attack you (not usually physically) when you try to help them. Have I attacked people who try to help me?

Why do you deserve the help as much as the injured animal or person?We are all God's creatures, although we tend to value humans over other animals. Now here, I have to say that I hate it when someone tells me "You deserve _______" as if I had some holy lottery ticket. There was something I read yesterday though, by Frederick Buechner, where he says "...there can be no real joy for anybody until there is joy finally for us all..." If I am helped, I can help others. I do not think of it as 'deserving' so much as being 'necessary'.

How have you, or how will you reach out and ask for the help and support you need?
I first acknowledge that I do not know everything and that I should not be ashamed to ask for help from those who are wiser that I am. That is why I am here, on these forums, slogging through posts, tapping out my replies, reading, thinking, and praying.
Please forgive me if I sometimes come across as a smartass.