View Full Version : Insecurity-body image- fear to have sex

03-02-2012, 02:26 AM
Hi everyone,

I am over weight, and I am insecure of having sex. The fact that he will be touching me (my fat), seeing how big I am, and seeing my stretch marks.

I want to date this person as mentioned in previous posting. I would like to become more intimate slowly. I have a plan that i will engage in sex once i lose forty to sixy pounds.

I don't know what to do. being overweight prevents me in becoming intimate with others.

Please help!

03-02-2012, 11:59 AM
Men do not care about womens bodies as much as women think. But men do care about womens neuroses and that can be a deal breaker. If you don't think you're attractive today, you won't tjink youre attractive enough even after you've lost weight, confidence isnt tied to what we look like. We are liked based on how we make others feel and a chemical connection. If he is attracted to you, then he will want to be intimate. But based on the drama you wrote about, ate you prepared to be intimate with someone who doesn't want a relationship?