View Full Version : Making Promises

01-02-2012, 12:49 AM
I am doing poorly in recovery and having a hard time with food and gaining the weight my team wants me to. My boyfriend is very, very worried about losing me, and he always asks me to promise him to eat better, and usually I respond with "I can try...", and he is so, so worried and I am going back to school while he is staying home and working and he asked me very emotionally to promise, and I did.

I know I am having a hard time.

How do I deal with this?

How can I promise to do something that feels impossible?

01-02-2012, 12:11 PM
Hi Flor,

It sounds like your boyfriend sees value in you that you don't see in yourself.

Firstly, remember that it only feels impossible. It's not.

01-02-2012, 12:57 PM
Hey Flor. My boyfriend also gets very emotional about my ED and asks me to make promises. I think it's hard for outsiders to understand that sometimes we don't feel like we have a choice about engaging in behaviours. I don't know about you, but for me it's at least a comfort and encouragement to have someone cares enough to confront me so seriously about recovery. People really do love us. :love I'm glad boyfriend is being supportive. I know it's rough. You'll beat this.