mother/daughter ed?

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:trigger about competition..

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hi i hope all you :fishys are doing well! today was strange for me. i dont get along with my [stupid ass] mom at all.. so she was telling me how depressed she was because she cant lose weight and i really dont care. she was asking me how laxatives work like she was gonna use them to lose weight. i told her it doesnt do anything but make you lose water. she took them right in front of me and i was just stoic... if she was gonna give herself an ED, i didnt really care because i dont even like her. im just afraid that its gonna turn into a competition and reverse my recovery. she doesnt even know i have an ED and im not close enough to her to tell her about it. what a messed up relationship huh? thanks for reading! i :love you all..

[titian]

:hugon :stars Star :stars :hugoff
I just wanted to give you a hug

It's always hard to deal with ed type behaviour in others, and especially so in those we feel should be 'on our side'

I wish I could offer some advice. All I can say is you need to keep reminding yourself everyday that you do not need to compete with her. That you are a worthwhile person in your own right. That your recovery is the most important thing. mentally do the 'hear no evil' brass monkey, refuse to listen to her when she starts talking about weight or other ed related things.
much :love
e

[purple_tao]

:love :love :hugon trish :hugoff :love :love

First of all, on the roll call thread, I said I don't think I know you
....:ugh :ugh.....slapping forehead with hand...doi... :ugh :ugh...

I DO REMEMBER YOU!!! You just didn't sign your name! So, ignore what I said on that other thread....... :sarcasm

Okay, mummy trouble.... Right--you're not in competition with anybody.
YOU BE YOU :supergrin !! If your mom doesn't know about your ED, then she can't possibly be doing these things in front of you to purposely crush your spirit and/or hinder your recovery. I don't think she has en ED, per se, she just sounds frustrated with her weight.

That's sad that you "don't even like" your mom and that you aren't close enough to talk about your problems. I mean, that's what parents are for, eh? I hope there IS someone you can talk to -- ED's and family issues.

Remember trish: YOU be the BEST YOU you can be :cool !!
:love

[lillee]

hey star ~ *
i havent met u either ...and i also wanna give u a hug. u know what? i understand, because my relationship with my mom is very messed up ... weight is just one of the issues. She started being bulimic when she was like ******** (she's almost ******** now and she probly kinda stopped when she was about ********) ... she gives me a lotta shit about my weight, and she is always going to the gym and weighing herself and obsessing and skipping meals STILL ...unfortunately . She is suspicious bout my ed...but ironically, tho she had one (and still might have one) now, she will not confront me in a healthy manner. One day we were eating dinner and my mom looked at me and told me she didnt feel good cus she ate too much. She stood up..walked to her room (which is right by the kitchen)...and started to throw up.....right there...obviously intentionally so i could hear...she came back, didnt even look at me, sat down and pushed her food away. "Still hungry?" she asked me....

I know, its a sad situation, and very fucked up. And of course...things like this can be some of the hugest ed triggers i have to face...
i just wanted to tell u this to let u know that things like that may happen.. . i hope it doesnt get that serious in ur case ...do u not get along with ur mom? i don't, and it makes life extremely hard..i hope things r okay btw u guys !

i wish u luck, take care ~ :o)

love,
lillee

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:hugone, kieran, lillie:hugoff
thanks so much for your your advice and support, its greatly appreciated :grin. and youre right, its not about competing, its about being me, and i guess thats something i have to work on. its really best that we dont talk much because i feel shes hurt me so much in the past that its the only thing she will do to me again. and lillee, first of all, nice to meet you! second, im amazed that youve handled your mom's ed and your own for that long, youre an inspiration :yay. take care :fishys i :love you!

[lillileigh]

OK how uncool is that? :reallymad! GRRR wow, i admire your strength. i don't quite know what to say. my mom was critical about my weight, but not to the FUCKED UP degree some of you have to live with. it is so WRONG. :reallymad YOU DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER. it makes me want to kick some evil mommy BUTT. i just want you to know that you have love here. and that i am so proud of you for being the fighter. you are so much stronger than your evil mothers who should be loving and supportive instead of jealous and destructive toward you. MAD PROPS for for fighting like you do. all my :love!
:pinkfishy:love,
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[gina_rlp]

woah havent drifted on to the bulimia board for a while, im usually on ab, but i saw your name so i thought id read your post. and hunny i so know where youre coming from, i am continuously competing with my mother, and ive even told her. i dont know what it is about mothers and daughters competing, its ridiculous. it really is. it doesnt make anyone any happier, and you are always striving to be the thinnest/ most sick etc and in the end its just not worth it

you are worth more than this

:love gina