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GardenOfSimple
06-13-2001, 11:48 PM
Who would I really be? I'd be Jamie. I'd still be seventeen years old. But who would I be??? Me doesn't really change. I am confused about religious beliefs. Come to think of it, I am the same way about all my beliefs. What everyone else thinks is right becomes my opinion. I don't have the confidence to make my own belief system. I don't even know what I like any more. But, I do know that I'm a girl with dreams of teaching (third grade or younger or special ed of some type) or being a therapist. I like kids. I like helping people. I'm a friend to many, often putting others first, willing to sacrifice my well-being for theirs. I can't stand seeing others in pain, and often take others' problems in as my own. I'm always there to offer a hug and see the wonderful qualities in others, many times overlooking the not-as-good ones, but I find it hard to believe compliments and good things pertaining to myself. I see myself as extremely unattractive and unpopular. None of that would change.
Without the titles, it can still be a struggle to smile. Many times the emotional pain I feel is brought on by guilt. A lot of times this is centered around the family. I love my family, but find it hard to be nice to them a lot of times. I take it harder even than the people I interact with poorly. I am intelligent. I can be perfectionistic about things, possessing high standards for myself and getting upset when I fail to reach them. That's me. Without an eating disorder, without self-injuring, and without doing gymnastics, that's still me. Granted some emotional issues will probably be improved upon through the recovery process, but they're still different.
Without seeing this in typing (I wrote it out first, making oodles of corrections before posting it), I'm thinking this is very long, and I'm sorry about that. This was a challenge for me, even though I've looked at this concept before. A first draft is in my diary. Thank you, Car:cargreen! I think this was pretty helpful

Lissa
06-14-2001, 06:55 AM
:hugon Jamie :hugoff

I hope you don't mind me replying to this but I read Car's post earlier and after reading your reply, I'm thinking, 'wow!' You've really examined yourself and looked beyond titles to find who you really are.

I was thinking about how I would describe myself, the way you have, but I couldn't get past the ED. It's been such a major part of my life for almost two years now, I've begun to see myself as 'a girl with an eating disorder' and nothing else :ugh .

If we're going to recover from this, we're going to have to abandon the ED identity so that our true personalities can shine through. There is more to me than an eating disorder and I want people to know that.

Thanks for the inspiration to really think about WHO I am! I think it's one step closer to getting better.

:hugon Car :hugoff
:hugon Jamie :hugoff

Take care,
:love Lissa

HippieChick
06-14-2001, 10:20 AM
It's inspiring that you can sit and write who you are. At the moment I seem to have lost the real me. My personality seems to have taken a vacation:shy and has been replaced with an alter ego.

WHO AM I? It's something to think about. Like Lissa said we are more than the identity given to us by our eating disorders.

Take care.

:love Adrienne

buttercup_fairie
06-15-2001, 03:26 AM
:hugon jamie :hugoffi'm so glad you sat down and thought about car's question. you came up with an awesome reply. keep fighting :love

emma lucy
06-15-2001, 05:33 AM
:hugon :love Jamie :love :hugoff

We are more than the labels of an Eating Disorder.

:edbgone