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KathrynTheCat
01-19-2007, 03:12 AM
Hey all,

I've read so many books that I don't remember all their names, but a certain amount have stayed ingrained in my memory, and many on my bookshelf. These are books that affected me and a summary of how. Some may help you or not, this is just my experience of them. Please note that some books may share the name with other books, if so please forgive me as I do not have the authors with me to write up.

'Slim to None' - This was amazing and was compiled by the father of a girl who died due to Anorexia. At times this was shocking, however I was in recovery at the time and needed a booster. Not only did this help me to realise how severely this (ED) can affect the person going through it, it also helped me see some of what it can do to those who care for the person. This may definately trigger some people so be cautious. It really helped me.

'Mirror, Mirror', by Diana someone (I think) - I know there is another book with the same title, but that is different. With this edition the author is not focusing on just one thing and it is not 'about ED' as such. In the layout she goes through different things that can affect up, including issues such as abuse, body image, etc. She talks about a 'mirror of truth', among other things. This is the kind of book that you can skip to the areas relating to you, and although it is possible it could trigger, I do not consider it to be a 'danger' book. I found a lot of it helpful, and some of it just something to read.

'Dying Not To Eat', by Kathryn De Bruin - This was amazing, but could very possibly trigger. It is basically about a teacher who has been struggling on and off with ED for over a decade. She is in her thirties and seems to be finally coming out of it (or has just come out of it), and she is describing her experiences. The author is an English teacher and thus this isn't one of those books that everyone would be able to read. It is very literary and thus if not a big reader then I wouldn't suggest it. I swore that I wouldn't be battling ED for me life when I got into my thirties, especially after reading this book, and so far so good for me. Amazing woman.

'Real Gorgeous', by Kaz Cooke - This is one of my favourite authors of all time. I have just been reading her book on pregnancy 'Up The Duff' and I laugh myself stupid. Anyway, basically Kaz writes about real things, with decent information, but in a light and humourous way. This book isn't just about ED, and infact hardly goes on about it (very welcome when everyone around you is talking about Your ED). She makes light about the female body and many other things. This is a girl's book more than anything, sorry guys, but I found it really great in helping me to start accepting myself and my body, and more than anything, to not be so serious about every detail. It helped me to laugh again. An absolute fav of mine.

'Bronte's Story' - Most Australians would have hearn of this book, and many in other countries also. I found some bits triggering, some just shocking, and others interesting. For me it wasn't so much helpful, but more an interesting read. There is a lot of talk of family and other things, and as my family was dysfunctional to begin with that was hard on me as they are a true family. (By dysfunctional I mean separate houses somehow squeezed under one roof, but with fences and security around each.) Tangent, but either way it's a great book, just didn't do much for me.

'Alice in the Looking Glass' - This was co-written by a girl and her mother. It is separated into the mother's story and the daughter's story. I found this really interesting as it showed the side that we don't see, it shows what people who love us go through, in this case the mother. I had been so harsh on my mother and things happened, but I started to see that she was struggling and at a loss of what to do. I became compassionate towards her and now we get on rather well, but that has taken a lot of time and work. Along with willingness from us both. There are possible triggers, however I found everything so amazing that I just got lost in the book or my thoughts and I wasn't triggered negatively.

There are three books that I have read numerous times and regardless what my struggle at the time I found something in them that helped me through. These are not about ED or anything like that, but are more basic life books that are just amazing.
Two are by the author Pema Chodron, who is actually a Buddhist nun and teacher.
The first is 'Start Where You Are' - I have friends who keep this on their shelf and just go to it and open it at a page, any page, and read where they were drawn to. I have read it right through, and at other times have simply opened it and read a lesson or that for the day. Usually that page or paragraph is just what I need to get me through that day, or to chance that day from ordinary to wonderful. It works on mid-sets for a large part, but not in an 'in-you-face' sort of way. Amazing and very low-risk of triggering.
The second is 'When Things Fall Apart' - I was first recommended this book by my Buddhist teacher at a time where I'd just lost a close friend, and father figure, to suicide within months of my own attempt. I was a mess and going through I don't know what. That was a very challenging year due to external events directly impacting me, and my ingrained reactions to those. To be honest I barely read any of this book at that time, even though I had gone out to buy it straight away, and instead I sunk into a deep depression and basically an emotional hibernation. Had I read it then things would have most likely happened differently, as it was I picked it up and read it cover to cover after I lost my boyfriend to cancer. I took bits in then, enough to get me through at least. Finally when I was almost at my lowest weight and was bordering on being admitted into hosp I picked it up for some reason and slowly things started to change. I didn't rush through the book this time but would pick it up and read a bit and then sit with it before reading further. Sometimes that would be a paragraph, sometimes over a chapter. I found that I got the most out of this when I allowed my body and mind to process it, without all the intellect getting in the way. One of the best books I have ever read. It is written in simple terms, as with all her books, and is so powerful and can be life-altering in a very positive way. I would recommend both these books to anyone, ED or not, and any stage of the ED journey.
The third book is not everyone's taste, however has had a profound effect on me.
'The Red Tent', by Anita Diamant - This is close to, if not the, favourite books of mine ever to date. Some people may not like it for it is kind of the female side of the bible, for the story about Jacob and his twelve sons, including Joseph. To me this book describes the female journey and rites and traditions that many cultures once held firm to. The rites of passage, the respect men held for women, the woman's trust in her body, and the connections between people. It is narated by Dinah, the only daughter of Jacob, and the sister of Joseph. It tracks the journey of her mother and aunts, her own childhood, and then her journey into motherhood and beyond. This may not be suitable for some in early recovery, however for those who are able, it is a reminder of the gifts of womanhood and femaleness. I have been struggling with gaining as I am pregnant, though I have been in recovery for a time now, and this 'story' has helped me cherish every moment I have with this precious developing life inside me. It has not 'solved' my issues, however has helped me see them in a different light. This may trigger some, and is probably not something males would really want to read. This is a god-send for me and I am grateful to the wisdom of women, ancestors, and the wisdom in this novel.

There are many more books, but these are the main I can think of. Sorry for writing so much. Happy Reading.

Kath

Levena
01-19-2007, 07:55 AM
:hugonKathryn:hugoff

Thanks for the list.
Slim to None sound interesting in particular as I forget what my husband has been through as he has watch me go from bad to worse to scary a few times.
Bronte's Story I agree didn't really do that much for me as it was a lot about the 'failings' of the Australian health system as well as Bronte's journey. I found it hard to relate for similar reasons to you with the family thing and also because if the private system failed Bronte so, then as a public patient what hope do I have? Additionally Bronte's tool for recovery...going to Canada and the instense therapy she received there isn't typical and I'd like to hope that recovery is still possible for those of us who don't have such privlidges. However I did find reading it compelling and it is one of the books I'm going to ask my hubby to read as I think her pain comes through in a manner that might help non ED people to have a deeper understanding.
Dying not to Eat is one I've heard of and not gotten hold of, I think I've seen it in the library at uni, so I might grab that one there, though I'm still feeling pretty :ugh about my weight regain and so waiting a couple of months for that one might a good idea if it might trigger~thanks for the heads up :gimmehug
Real Gorgeous, Kaz Cooke :yay super dooper read, shall ditto the recommendation of reading that one anyday. I posted about this book in another thread here. It is right beside me as I type and I love love love it. :muhaha superb reading with high risk of getting hic-ups from laughing too hard and all the while giving your self esteem a boost...what could be better than that?????????
READ IT!!! :winky

:lubdub levie

starforty
01-19-2007, 04:56 PM
Thanks for the list. I have read 'The Red Tent', by Anita Diamant - I've read this book and also really enjoyed it. It was difficult to get into at first, but after the first two chapters it was really intersting. Definitely recommend it! :winky

batears
01-19-2007, 11:00 PM
I loovvvee 'Slim to None'. I thought it was one of the two best memoirs of an ed (Wasted being the other in my opinion), even though the dad wrote the book- it seemed like it was really the girl (a lot of it was based on her journal). although I have to admit, this book can be prettty triggering, to me it truly captured the essence of how crippling this disease can be. I asked my grandma to read it at one point, b/c I thought it would help her understand how hopeless i feel...but it ended up sort of upsetting her :sad

gone
01-20-2007, 02:49 PM
Slim to None is a great book.

So is the Red Tent. I was wary of reading it, because I had several people pushing it on me (which gets me suspicious because I start to wonder if it's a trendy artsy book with no meat), but it was truly excellent.

reddecember
01-20-2007, 02:51 PM
I loved the Red Tent. It was nice to read a book that didn't have a focus of ED, but instead focused on womanhood, which I believe directly relates to many of us suffering from Eds. It helped me a lot to appreciate being a woman.

KathrynTheCat
01-23-2007, 02:14 AM
Levie - I agree with you re Bronte's Story. Majority of people don't have the funds or support to fly to Canada, and also there are more services in at least the Aust health system now to help people through. It did definately seem like an attack on our system, when at least we've got a system in Oz that overall works for people, some countries can't even see a doctor because if there is one around they cost far too much. We are so lucky to have free healthcare in Oz that although there's faults I'll give it the thumbs up. Real Gorgeous.......One of the best books ever written. Ditto on loving it and the laughing.

Fishies - Sorry to put you as a group however would be writing similar to each so easier. Wonderful to hear others have read 'Slim to None' and found it insightful. It did seem like it was written by the girl however in a sense it mostly was, the father simply compiled it and added a few bits. Red Tent. Absolutely agree, it is a most welcome break from traditional ED books, and yet can still assist in issues underlying the perpetuation of ED. I think I'll probably read it again even before bub's born to be honest as it's been so helpful in accepting my body and the changes that happen during transitions (eg pregnancy which I am currently going through). It celebrates womanhood and I do often think that much of the world having lost the celebrations and acknowledgment of 'rites of passage', 'entering man/womanhood', etc has actually in a large part caused or at least increased the issues people, particularly women, have with becoming a woman, and the body changing, etc. I was lucky I had it a little easier due to my mother initiating me into a women's group when I had my first period, however most Western women get thrown some pads/tampons and are left to their own devices. Even men don't often get recognition of their first 'wet dreams' etc (or if they get it there's a screaming and ordering of how disgusting and to 'clean up that mess'). Books like the Red Tent celebrate transitions and thus if we can somehow start creating our own ceremonies, and celebrate our childrens' transitions I think that we can hopefully reduce the negative connitations we associate with our bodies in this present day.

Have written enough. Speak soon.

Love Kath xxxxxxxxxx

WalkingStick
04-15-2007, 09:53 AM
who wrote "Slim to none"?