hello!!!!

[mini_maz]

hello every one in the :bowl i was diagionsed with an ED after suffering for bout six years and would like to say how sweet and kind this little group is!!!!!i used to go an all girls school and it was so bitchy u wouldnt believe its nice to know that there are others going though what i am ok well here goes my little(?!!) problem...my mum told me taht she had been raped she has also suffered from an ED and i still thinks she does and now i dont know what do **** her my theripst(cant spell)said that she relys too much on me emotional which is why recently my ED has got worse but i feel proper mean if i dont help and my dad is never here so we spend most of our time bouncing negative emotions off each other so any advice would b greatly taken i know this is really heavy for my second post(or is it first?) but i could really do with some help:bandwagon
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thanks fishys maz

[HippieChick]

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Welcome to the :bowl. This is a nice little board to come to. I used to post on the A/B board, but it got to be overcrowded. So I came here, because it's more of an intimate setting. Here you can be heard and not lost in piles of other posts.

So once again welcome, hope you :love it here.

:love Adrienne

[JenniferO]

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:starswelcome to the :bowl:stars!!!
you will find this a wonderful place for support!
i understand about feeling mean if you don't provide the "proper" support to your mom.

i've been reading a book on boundaries....and it's really helping with this issue. you may try and find a book on boundaries, or explore the issue with your therapist. it's still hard, and i haven't quite got the hang of it yet, but i'm working on it, and i'm feeling a bit better!

much :love to you! take care!
jennifer

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hey maz!! welcome to the :bowl! hows it feel to be a :fishy? :winky i know how youre feeling with your mother.. parents have a huge effect on our lives and our eds, whether we want them to or not. anyways, im sure youll find the support you need on these bb's from all the wonderful :bluefishys!

[Louisa]

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Hiya again sweetie,
just wanted to send you some more :love and :hugon:hugoff'z.

It sounds as though you and your mum could be bouncing lots of negativity between yourselves and it sounds pretty tough for you both....have you considered family therapy where maybe you can both have a chance to share your feelings, thoughts, expectations, etc with each other but in an environment where there is another person there who can be objective?

Take care,
:love,

[Sasha]

Welcome to the :bowl Maz.

It sounds like while your similar experiences that you and your mum have could bring you closer together, as you understand each other's problems, it is actually providing too much strain on you also.

It is so important to set boundaries. Tell your Mum that while you're here to love and support her - she needs to use therapy as a recovery and not you. That you need to work on your own recovery. I agree with Louisa, that in addition to your individual therapy - family therapy with you both to help teach you both to have a healthier relationship with each other is a great idea.

Good luck Maz and take care.