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BallerinaBoop
06-21-2001, 10:00 AM
I once read this incredible book by a native American author. His novel was about self discovery and learning that in life, one should never take anything personally, and always do your best in everything that one does.
In the book, there were many many powerful messages... but one really stuck out to me: maybe it will for you.

:slimy "Our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive-the risk to be alive and express what we really are. Just being ourself is the biggest fear of humans. We have learned to live our life trying to satisfy other people's demands. We have learned to live by other people's points of view because of the fear of not being accepted and of not being good enough for someone else.
We don't need to know or prove anything. Just to be, to take a risk and enjoy your life, is all that matters. Say no when you want to say no, and yes when you want to say yes. You have the right to be you. You can only be you when you do your best. When you don't do your best you are denying yourself the right to be you." :boink

Seabiscuit
07-03-2001, 06:56 PM
:hugon:stars BallerinaBoop :love:hugoff
Dear BallerinaBoop-
What a cool name! Wow that book sounds awesome! You have such a good point about fear- it cripples us and paralyzes us - I used to have such 'stage fright' when I would go into horse shows with a horse I owned for awhile, and then mess up because I was frozen stiff!
I had the same problem performing on the job - i would just FREEZE UP! I have heard - 'the only thing to fear is fear itself' - it makes a lot of sense; I just wish it was easier to apply sometimes
can i ask you- what is the name/author and title of that book? i think i would love to read it too! take care!
amyb

fefa
07-05-2001, 07:06 PM
I am working that question in therapy!! I guess we are so afraid of failuring, of taking risks, that we FORGET TO BE US!!! I am trying to be me! I am trying to let the FEAR out of myself! I can TRUST me, and I know I can do it, but somethimes it is so HARD! I am trying to say NO, and not be afraid of what the other will say, I am trying not to push on myself too hard, and don't listen to the judment!! It is hard, but we have to BE OURSELVES!!!
Good points!!