Glub Game Three: Love Letters

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Love Letters... ahhhhh

Many of us are extremely passionate people and spend a lot of time writing beautiful love letters to those we carry in our heart, or sending wonderfully sentimental cards to others we care for.

But what about you?
(retorical -- don't answer!)

It's time to write to yourself! The goal of this game is simple... Write a love letter to YOU from YOU! Tell YOU why you're terrific... tell YOU all the things you appreciate about you... tell YOU why you wish to get to know you better and about the things you already know and why they are such endearing qualities.

Rules: No part of your letter can mention anything to do with weight or your eating disorder.

[honey_bear]

Dear Laura,
Today I just wanted to write you a letter to encourage you. I know that you have been through a lot, ending a relationship and such, but I want to remind you why you are special.

You are a terrific person because you care about other people. You make them feel loved. And that makes you feel good in return. You love to listen to others, and slowly, you are learning that you can share with them as well.

You are strong - stronger than you know. You have come so far in the past year. You have learned so much about yourself. You have become happy again. It warms my heart to know that you are feeling happy again. You are so alive. You are glowing. Your smile is bright.

I wish that I knew how to get you to open up to myself and others more. I wish that for you because I know that it would lighten your burden at times. I wish that you could sometimes separate yourself from the issues of others. Because you care so deeply, you sometimes get hurt. I wish that I knew all of the things that make you happy and all of the things that make you sad. I wish that I knew more of your feelings.

Laura, you are growing and learning each day. I am so proud of you. Keep taking care of you, and keep enjoying all that life has to offer.
:love
me

[puppylove]

My sweetest Alexis.

I know you are fighting. I know you are scared. Yet, despite all of your own struggles, you manage to support others in your life. I admire your compassionate quality and I hope you can put it to good use when you become a doctor.

I know right now you want to hurt yourself. Don't!!!!! You don't need that and you know it. Think of Alex and how warm and comforting his hugs are right now. You guys have made it two years and three months. Amazing. I'm so proud of you. Your first relationship and you are already planning to marry him. I love the honesty and communication between the two of you. I believe you two are soul mates and every thing will turn ou tfor the best.

Sweety, remember that there are lots of people who love. Maybe you could renew your relationship with your best friend Lindsey? You havn't seen her for a while and you two were amazing buddies. Remember all the pictures you took of her when you were seven and had just got your first camara? I dont think her head was visible in any of them. hee hee hee. You are always the strong one between the two of you. Remember watching Labrinth? Enough said.

How about Kathryn? Like her, you love animals. You are always helping her so much with all her little squabbles. Why not let her into your hell for once? She loves you.

Coaching starts in two weeks. I know you missed your fish. You are an GREAT coach. Yes you are. You can combine fun and hard work into one. Although they do whine a lot, they wouldn't keep swimming if they weren't having fun. (Don't think that...even Patrick enjoys himself. He just won't admit it when his parents are around.) Think of how much Danielle improved last year. And how big Jacqueline's smile could be. Just think...new fish for your group this year!! Yay, new talent for you to work with. I know you are looking forward to the relationship you will build with your group.

School starts on Thursday. All you have to do before then is get your second WorldLit paper done. You can do that. You wrote the first one in two days. You are a very good student. How many people have an average as good as yours? I know you really want to do well and you won't be happy with anything less than a perfect mark, but Alexis, that is the perfectionist side of you thinking. I admire your ability to grasp concepts with ease. I know you love the maths and science, but remember that you aren't bad at English and History. You have a great history teacher this year so give him a chance. It will be fun if you will let yourself believe that.

You have a great voice. Yes you do, stop arguing with me. You were asked to sing at several opening ceremonies this past year. Good for you. I know you wish you practiced more often. Try setting aside some time. Schedule it in. I am very proud of you for making Chamber Choir last year. I know you didn't like the circumstances and the way it was presented, but you made it through. And you don't even have to reaudition this year. That's really good!!! Stop worrying about what is coming up in a few months. You can't do anything about them until you have all the details. You KNOW that.

I like the way you look. You look healthy. I love how long your haoir is getting. Keep letting it grow out. I also really like your eyes. I think they are your best feature. I love how there is a dark blue rim around the light blue iris. It think are very expressive.

I want you to keep fighting Alexis. You are very strong and you always get what you want, right? So get rid of the struggles. You can do it. Good luck sweety. You deserve it.

[CrossCountryGirl]

Dear Me,
You are awesome. You love other people even when they hurt you. You try to help other people even when you don't have the strenth to help yourself. You are intelligent, compassionate, and great with kids; you are going to make a wonderful pediatrician. You are a wonderful friend, loyal, respectful, and loving. You have made some big mistakes, but have tried your best to overcome them and to make them up to the people whom you have hurt. You went through so many hard times, but still came through strong and caring. You're beautiful, curly haired with classic features and a nice figure. Your beautiful green eyes have so many beautiful moods; I love when they look inquisitively out at the world and also when they sparkle with laughter. You have a beautiful alto voice. You are a talented runner. You have had weaknesses in your faith, but still keep on struggling. I admire you for your persistence in adversity and your love for other people, especially children. God must love you very much to have made you so special!
Love,
Me

[lilsweetie]

Dear Tia,
You have gone through a lot and are definitely a fighter and a survivor because of it. You can definitly succeed at what you desire and at whatever you choose to do.
You deserve better than what you are getting at the moment. You are indeed loveable and deserving of care. Please learn to see that for yourself. You do not need to cling onto this meaningless ED... not for anything.
Take care of yourself,
Love,
Tia

[Inspiration]

Dear Rachel,
How do I love the... let me count the ways...
- You work full-time, go to school full-time, and manage to spend time with friends and family! Kudos to you!
- People are always telling you to never change because they think you are kind, sweet, and funny. Well... they are right and don't ever doubt it.
- You are smart and I want you to really realize this. Don't let the Cinderella complex get the best of you! No one will find out you are dumb because you are not.
- Keep makings others feel good about themselves. I know you do it to make yourself happy but there is nothing wrong with it. Two positives don't make a negative!
- Don't take your boyfriend for granted. Remind him how much you love and appreciate him. Surprise him with a card or something else that he will enjoy!
- Remember to take time out for yourself.

Love,
Rachel :yay

[miss_scarlet]

Dear Scarlet:

Have I told you lately what a wonderful person you are? Because I've been thinking it for a while now. You're showing such strength lately, and I'm really proud of you for it! You're going through some hard times right now, but you're working to get through them, and you're doing a wonderful job. I really admire you for that.

Remember to ask for help when you are struggling. You have a lot of people in your life that care about you - you shouldn't be afraid to lean on them for support. They would do the same if they needed to.

Take care, Scarlet. You're a wonderful person and a wonderful friend. I'm glad I've had the opportunity to get to know you better.

:love,

~scarlet~

[Rora]

Dear AuroraRose...

You're really starting to stress out with finals, and going home for the holidays... Even though I know this is a scary time for you, I know you can make it through. I know that you know that you don't need to turn to abusing food to help you cope. You've learned a lot of other ways to help deal with stress. Hell, you can even go outside and scream, and it doesn't matter who hears you, or even if they call the police, just as long as it helps make you feel better.

You've really made some great progress in learning how to smile again. Its really nice to hear when you laugh. Its a sound that I've missed for so many years. I'm so glad to see you putting things into your life that make you have joy.

There is so much hope for you, AuroraRose... Don't give up.

-AuroraRose

[ennare]

love...is an incredible feeling. it glows and pulses. it's an energy; it's nourishment.

nina...you are love. everything you do is love. this world would be the lesser without your smile, your friendly glow and the brightness that you bring everywhere you go.

[CerealKiller]

Hey sweet mama,

I want to lay you down in a field of roses and kiss your sweet breastuses. I wish to dive into your honey pot, dip into your nectar of lo-oove. :kiss You are my funny bunny, hunny of love, my little wayward angel. I love you because no one else will, and you are so lonely that I will pull down the stars for you and you believe I can. I love you because you are SO many things, and someone must love the animals nobody loves. I love you because you are silent lover of the underdogs, heart given to the downtrodden and the ones nobody wants. And of course because of your sweet breastuses. :winky I love you because even when all hope is gone you keep laughing. I love you because like Lenny says you would die for the truth. I love you because I know somewhere there is a little you dying to get out. Oops. She already did, but I love you because you let her out and if the hope of a child is still there, then anything is possible. I love you because everyone needs love, and I still think you can be a good person and one day even loveable, if not human. I love you because I know everything you used to be must still be inside you, at least I hope so. It only SEEMS dead, but I'm sure there is still hope, and I love this blind desperate optimism that can keep you moving madly about the globe, burning and living, and letting it rain stars in your head and I love that it still can. I'd love you better if you'd go to sleep and get a nap :sarcasm, but I still love you true, and always will. I love your strangesness and wildness and your Fey nature, and your magic. Your humor too that is always there, the last ditch in the rain. Someday, love, we will walk in fields of gold. I love that you can dig music and good books and art that makes life worth living and can connect us all, if we, that being humanity, are ever to be connected.

But I get too serious now. I think I just love you for your sweet breastuses. :cute

[RachieRue]

You Are Loved

Rachie,

You are loved, no matter what man may think of you, the one that see's who you really are is Jesus. Stay focused on knowing who you are in christ, then in pleasing the people in this world.

Rachie

[Isabel_Knight]

Dear Isabel,

You are a very special person - amazingly strong and resilient. Just look at all that you have come through.....

At school, you showed your ability to cope very well in an environment where you were unhappy and isolated. Later, you had the strength and courage to move, alone, to a foreign country where you knew nobody - not just once but twice. You learned how to stand up for yourself - to explain to others that your life is *your* life and that you are the one who is meant to be living it. And, most of all, you have almost overcome that deadly beast - anorexia. All this has required great strength, courage, persistance, will-power and independence of mind, to mention just a few.

You are smart. A lot smarter than you usually give yourself credit for. Just look at the grades you have been getting recently. Not only are you a good student, but also a great friend, a talented artist and writer, and a kind-hearted person. All the children you've ever looked after have adored you, finding a great companion and a lot of fun

You are a very special person, Isabel. You have many qualities and great potential. Don't ever forget that.

All my :love,
Always,
Isabel

[New-Bride]

:touched Dear Jenn :touched
I used to think so lowely of you, and it was because I didn't take the time to get to know you. NOW I am learning about you, and I am falling in :love with you, the way that I loved you when you were a little girl. You are so talented at so many different things, and the fact that you share your talents with those you care about makes me see what a beautiful person you really are. You never hurt others in attempts to make yourself feel better, you never EVER put others down, and you try to wear a brave smile when times are tough. You are strong, and caring, and considerate. You are sweet and sassy, and sexy, and fun. You tell jokes to get laughs, and make chicken soup for friends who are sick :ugh
You used to always put others first, and although you still care deeply for the feelings and thoughts of others, YOU ARE BEGINNING TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST, and for that I love you even more. As I grow to get to know you better and better, I feel I am growing to love you more and more. You are a special, special person, with so much to offer, and I :love you very much.
:touched Love Jenn :touched

[princesspj]

(this is going to be REALLY hard for me, but here goes.....)

Pamela,
(Nothing good comes. What an eye-opener. All I can think of is being disappointed in myself).
trying again:

Pamela,
I know that you have made a lot of mistakes in your life. But you are not a bad person. NOT a bad person. You are good and beautiful and strong, no matter what tricks your mind plays on you. No matter what they say, I know that you are precious and wonderful. God knows that you are precious and wonderful. You are redeemed and loved, child. Even if They only love you when you do as they say, God loves you no matter what. And I love you no matter what! Your spirit has never died, and you are the same goodness you always have been. The little girl inside you- she is still you!!!!

don't forget how to laugh and be YOU! don't let anyone else make you feel bad about yourself! You are not your circumstances. I don't love you because of your accomplishments, or your beauty and charm, and I don't dis-love you for your faults and mistakes. I love you for the wonderful person you are inside. I'm not sure how to describe that, but I can see it and feel it at times.

Please remember, you were not put on this Earth to be and do for other people. You were put on this Earth for you and God to grow together, and to be YOURSELF. I don't think you even know what that is, but you will more and more every day that you try. Never stop searching for your true, inner self. I am here waiting for you.

Love you always,
Pamela :notes

[Sweet Sangria]

Dearest Sweet Sangria,

You are the only person I have known since birth and that I will know for the rest of my life. I must admit, I don't know you as well as I thought.

I thought I knew you so well. I thought you were this perfect young woman. Talented, beautiful, successful, well-off, heatlhy, outgoing, energetic, spirited, intelligent, and creative. Perfect in every sense of the word. I loved you because I thought you were perfect. But I learned that is not what love is! :love

Because you couldn't always be perfect. So I didn't love you unconditionally. My love for you was very conditional- other people had to agree that you were perfect. They had to recognize all your wonderful attributes for me to love you. I wasn't confident enough in my own judgement of you to let that be enough. I needed others to validate my high opinions of you.

So, I failed in my love for you. You tried so hard to please other people so that you would earn my love. You tried out for every school play, and every dance opportunity. You got excellent grades, you wore stylish clothing, you tried to be an officer in your sorority. You tried to get a perfect boyfriend to prove that you were worthy of someone perfect. You even went as far as to sleep with people you barely knew- just so they would approve of you. And I would love you for that. You tried so hard. But it was never enough for other people, and therefore never enough for me. You failed to live up to my collassal expectations. And I failed because I set them so high.

So, one day, you gave up. You gave up trying to please other people because you realized you had no control over their judgements. You found a way to prove yourself worthy without needing other people's validation. You thought you found the secret to life-- the answer. The solution. You could please me all the time without the help of anyone else. You learned that there was something you could acheive, something you could control, that did not require outside validation. So you latched onto it one hundred percent. You devoted your life to acheiving this goal because it was the only thing entirely in your control. And I loved you for it. You stopped trying to impress others, and I stopped relying on others to validate what I already knew about you-- that you were perfect. At this moment, I felt like you were the most perfect person in the world.

But, you were dead. You tried so hard to reach this one goal that nothing else mattered to you. Life didn't matter. Feelings didn't matter. People didn't matter. You were numb and dead. And I suddenly realized I didn't recognize you anymore.

I've brought you back to life now. Slowly, I revived your spirit and your passions. You are so passionate and I treasure that about you. I love you for your emotions- both good and bad.

I love you because you are very unique. You have your own opinions about things, and you are firm in your beliefs. Yet you also have an open mind and never turn away new ways of thinking or new possibilities. Because of this, you will grow and learn throughout your whole life. You are a sensitive, compassionate soul. You care deeply for your friends and family, and even people you do not know. I love you for this.

I also love you for your gifts and talents. You are an incredible writer, and you have such a gift for music. You really feel music and it shows when you play the piano. Or when you dance. The music flows through you, and I love that you can have that experience.

I love you because you are fair. You have a strong sense of justice and what is right and wrong. Your ethics are very high. I love you because you try. You try your hardest at everything you do, and you never give up. Motivation. Dedication. Energy. You own all of it.

I'd like to get to know you even better. Even the un-perfect things about you. I love those too. I won't hold you to unattainable standards. I won't let other people cloud my judgement of who you are. I promise to love you in the moment and forever.

Love,
Sweet Sangria.

[littlefruitbat]

dear tara,I know you have been through alot and you are still kicking! People, places, and things have turned your world upside down and you are still kicking! You have such awesome strength, courage, compassion, faith and love that you can do anything your heart desires! I just hope that someday you realize all the wonderful things about you that make you who you really are!

love,
me

[adorable one]

Dear Steff

I only have one comment to say and it says it all.

Mary Poppins may be practically perfectjust teh way she is, but you, my dear, are absolutely perfect just the way you are.

I love you
Steff

[kellyesue]

:love Kellye,
I love you because you're so loving. You love everyone so much, and you try so hard to make them happy. I love the way you spend time with God at night by reading his word and talking with him. You're an awesome teacher...all your kids love you and think that you're fun and pretty. You're an awesome performer and singer...it doesn't matter who is better than you...you're you and that makes you special. When you cook it is delicious; you should enjoy it. You have a big heart and sweet emotions. I LOVE YOU! :love
Love,
Kellye

[afallenangel]

:hugonAfallen:angel:hugoff

I wanted to write you a letter to let you know what an amazing person you are and that I am very proud of you

:love You are a strong person. Although you are constantly in battle with your ED, you are staying with recovery and that is something to be proud of.

:love you are a sweet person a true friend a sweet caring person with so much to offer to everyone who knows and :love you.

:love You are intelligent and loved to be challenged. Your mind is always working thinking and being creative

:love I know someday you will see all of these wonderful qualities in yourself and accept yourself for the wonderful person you are

[SimplySparkle]

I'm going to have to mentally prepare myself for this one...

[StacyC]

Dearest Tracy,

You are an amazing woman with so much love inside of you , you are the best mom, a caring and devoted wife, you are honest and compassionate, you are strong and a fighter and survivor, you have overcome so much and i admire you, you are a great friend and an excellent listener, you are a completely wonderful person and i want you to know that you are loved so much. You are a good person and i am glad to know you so well.

[boingrf]

:bear Rachel :bear
I wanted to write you a letter because I'm proud of you. I'm proud of how hard you've worked this year towards your recovery. I'm proud of where you are right now, and where you will be soon. I'm proud of you for actively fighting your depression and eating disorder, when they threatened to suck you in.

I appreciate your goals and aspirations, and everything you are doing to work towards them. I am so happy for you that you have found such a fabulous summer job that allows you to learn, explore, and meet new people.

I appreciate your ability to communicate your feelings, both verbally and in writing. Your poetry can be striking and brutally honest.

You are a fabulous friend. You love deeply and faithfully. You realize that friendship is a balance of giving and getting. You are empathetic and caring, and your friends love you in return. When you feel lonely, you know how to reach out, and how to allow your friends and family to comfort you.

You are a wonderful daughter. You are responsible, independent, loving and loved. You protect others from their own vulnerabilities. You sometimes have had to carry too much of the weight of the household, and I am sorry about that. But know that it was appreciated, that someone was paying attention and saw your pain.

I know how scared you are that nobody will ever want to marry you, to share your life and have children with you. But you are lovable. Someone will come along and appreciate you for you, for exactly who you are.

I'm sorry for all the times that I've yelled at you. I'm sorry for abusing you, for making you and your body do things they did not want to do. I'm sorry for hurting you, on the inside and the outside. I'm sorry that I couldn't see your good qualities--that I was blinded by a disease and an unrealistic ideal. I'm sorry for not treating you with respect--for expecting you to deal with whatever I dished out. I'm sorry for not taking better care of you when you were abused. I was a child, and I didn't know how to love you and how to help you heal. But I'm learning, and I think I do now. I'm trying. I'm running and sliding and slipping. But most of all, I'm trying. I'm trying to love you unconditionally, I'm trying to love you as a parent would, with a deep and radiant love.

I love you and I care about you. I will do my best to stop hurting you. To treat you nicely and respectfully, and to give you what you deserve.

:stars Rachel

[RoseChic]

Dear Sara,

I am just writing you this letter to let you know that I am so proud of you for your endurance. I know that you have gone through a lot of pain and have heard so many words that have hurt your soul. You have finally put yourself back on solid ground and have the potential to do so much with what you have learned.

Please Sara, now I just ask you to let go-let go of the self-hatred. You are too precious to let depression consume you. You have talent, the ability to help others, and have a truely kind heart. Take a moment to breath in the fresh air around you...there is so much beauty in the world.

I wish that you wouldn't rush through life so fast. Enjoy your life while your young. Find yourself, you know what lies inside. There is a heart yearning for freedom and a soul that needs cleansing. With all my heart, I ask you to lay down the excess baggage that you carry over your shoulder. Like Max Lucado says, learn to travel light, lay down your burdens.

*Hugs,
ME

[Anakalia]

Anakalia my :love

I just wanted to drop you a little letter to let you know that I am thinking about you. Actually I think about you a lot.

You are an amazing young woman with so many talents and so much promise. You are such a caring family member and friend. You put your heart and soul into what you beleive in. You are so thoughtful and everyone is so lucky to have you in their lives. I think you doubt this at times - you shouldn't, you never should.

Just open your heart and your mind to the world and I promise the world will not turn it's back on you; it will embrace you. You have so much to offer and so much compasion inside of you. You are truely an amazing human being and I really am blessed to have you in my life.

:love Always, Kalia

[jemima]

Dear Jessica..
I want, NEED to writea letter to you, telling you ho much I love you and how much you are loved by oters. Iknow you think nobody likes you... but thats you ead talking and not your heart. Please don't give up... I'm counting on you.
xoxo
-me-

[Bilbo]

Dear Becky,

I was thinking about you the other day, how you always have a story to tell, how there is always an answer in your mouth for everyone, how you always have a smile. I love that about you, I used to think that you talked too much but now I realise that you have collected those stories for years and never forgotten them, you dont forget because you genuinely care for and are interested in people. I love you for your interest and for the way that you never actually lose faith in the human race, though sometimes you think you do.

You think you're small inside, but really you have the tenacity of a lion, I am proud of the way that you hold on through all the prikles, but that's what you believe in. I love the way that the simpelist things can touch you deep down when to others they can be just words or just insignificant things. I am proud of the fact that you are the champion of the underdog, that you dont care how small or hated anyone is and that you make friends of those others shun.

I love you Becky, I love you because none of your struggles in life have beaten you, because you get knocked down so often but you still scramble back up and here you are still standing, because you truly have taken the road less travelled and because you never really let the buggers get you down. :winky

You're special, you're unique, you are God's poem. Please know that when the night is darkest, that's when the stars shine.

keep :kick kid.

:love

[rba]

Dear B.
It is time that you remember the good things people say to you and the things they say about you when you're not there. The fact is a lot of people think they'd like like to have some characterisitics that you have. The people that you're jealous of are also jealous of you.
You don't have to be such a martinet to yourself. Yes, you should try to be productive, get your work done etc, but he more you try to make constraining schedules for yourself, the more you want to break free from them. So don't beat yourself up when you go off course some. Remember that things have always worked out well even if they weren't what you had thought you wanted. Don't be so worried about missing opportunites. EVERYTHING is an opportunity. So there's nothing to be so freaking out about!

[DreamingRecovery]

Dear DreamingRecovery

I wanted to tell you how much I've appreciated your efforts and accomplishments. You have tried so hard and endured so much.

Each day you are becoming more and more the you you've always wanted to become. Your slowly living your dream and I'm so proud of you for it.

I remember when a few years ago you considered it all a dream to recover. Now, you can finally say you have done what you once thought was impossible.

You are so positive these days and loving yourself more is leading to loving others more and its helped you gain friends and respect.

And you seem so comfortable to be with. Your almost always happys and have great things to say about yourself and others. Your enouragement is always noticed and welcomed.

You are an inspiration to me and others.

I love you
xoxoxo

p.s. Even though I have been treating you better then ever these days, I will continue to do my best to try to surpass this in whatever way I can.

[angelgirl]

:love Dear angelgirl, :love

I don't even know where to begin, you are an amazing person. A fighter who will stand up for anyone, even when they are the underdog. But sweetie, you have to stand up for yourself. You can do it! You have so much empathy for the pain and hurt of others. You are strong, you are fighting this and I know you can make it.

It's time to let everyone help you, you can't do this alone. And needing help isn't being a failure. Let your T and doctors and nurtitionist and family help you. Open up and share the real you, your hopes and dreams. failures and accomplishments. You deserve happiness and happiness doesn't mean being perfect, it means living with life's imperfections and realizing they are what make the world go around.

You are going to be a great psychologist and you are going to help so many children. I know that you have done so many amazing things at college. You are a leader, don't forget that. You are full of worth. You deserve the love of your friends and family and it's time to let people in. And first you must start with me. Give me a voice and let me remind you of what it used to be like before this cloud of darkness descended on you.

:love always,
angelgirl

[oriole]

dear me-
i know its been a while since you have gotten a love letter that really struck you, but you deserve one. i know that you have gone through and incredibly difficult three years struggling with your issues. do not stop now, as easy as it is for you to focus on the stumbling blocks that get in the way of recovery, you are stumbling less and less. be patient sweetie, you are progressing and maturing in an exceptional way. i realize that this disease has hurt you extremely deeply, but in your recovery you are being coming so much more self-aware and stronger for whatever else life could throw your way.
i know that it is very difficult for you to have been going so long without having a partner to love you, but do not lost track of the love that your family and friends have brought to your life. see those little neices when you need a day brightener, have a sunday with that friend when you need too. if you truly start to live the life you really want to live (which you have the full capability of NOW) then you surely will be able to open up to a male. patience.
dont lose sight of your goals, you have accomplished so much. the challenges ahead of you will also be gifts. take advantage of your life. you can have a wonderful one. dont forget, your goal is not to be perfect, just perfectly normal. who could ask for more. good luck. you have the world at your hands, you have your life in your hands.

[sef]

Dear Sara,

I Love you very much. You are very special because you care so much about other people. You always try and help others, I wish that you could help yourself. Maybe that would be a good next project, You!

Love,

Sara

[fillyfw]

Dear me:
You are such a fighter, even when the world seems ready to crush you. You keep trying, keep stuggling even when you want to give up.

You try so hard to help evryone around you. You are trustworthy and peope feel comfortable telling you things they cannot tell anyone else; they trust you. You are a shoulder to cry on and a hand to hold. When things really count, you go out of your way to be the best friend you can be, even to strangers. You are sesitive, compassionate, ready to empathize but never to pity.

You hold your head up high and blaze oyur own path when there is no one there to hold your hand or show you the way. You value your independence and your self-reliance, but are learning to trust those around you. Even though the going is tough and you make mistakes, you try to learn from them and move on.

You are special just because you are you. Even though you may no think so, you are important to somebody. You are worth the time and the effoert, even if you cannot admit it to yourself.

[Seabiscuit]

Dearest Amy (as my Aunt Susie writes to me),

Isn't it great to have an opportunity to share your feelings of love of yourself outloud?! You should be so proud of yourself. You have come such a far way since when you were diagnosed with mental illness- and well, since you have decided to live your life. Granted you have had setbacks along the way as we all do, but you really seem to appreciate life more than before and care. You never give up which may come across as weird or intimidating to some, but you are learning to see how people can perceive your actions without dwelling on them. Thats awesome! You go Amy! It seems like you really are learning from experiences instead of letting them knock you off your feet, and you are becoming more receptive to what people say to help you out- even if it's not what you want to hear. Interestingly enough, you seem to fear your personality because you are shy and nervous from being overly outward to people - but you're learning that 'hey, if someone doesn't appreciate me for me, thats too bad for them!' You have come a long ways babe!

Love always, :love Amyann

[Sweet as pie]

Dear Maria,
I just need to write this letter because you are a very interesting girl. You are funny, kind, compassionate, and very visual. You have wonderful dreams for yourself but for others aswell. You have a great style and I noticed your new haircut and color are looking great recentley!! LOL. You love to talk and laugh and have great fun. I know that you are sensitive sometimes and stubborn too but no one is perfect. Maria dont change, just grow and become a better and better person each day.!! I love you

[nikto]

Dear Sarah,

Others love you for your experiences. They love you for your accolades. They love you for your questioning mind. They love you for your brashness and they love you for your tact. They love you for your uncanny memory. They love you for your humor and concern for others.

I must admit I'm happy you can be equally comfortable in the Yukon backcountry and Capitol Hill, in labs and in bars. It's great you can recite a library of poetry on moment's notice in three languages. All good stuff, but all a twist of fate. There will always be others far more talented than you--these things alone mean very little, and you know it.

And it's the fact that you know it and ceaselessly try to draw your life back to central points of meaning that makes you so lovable. You can be so wrong, but you try so hard to live truly. Authentically. Whatever you call it. You move farther away from your goals in your trying, sometimes, but you stay faithful to ideals, to a rapturous beauty in life that you often pursue alone.

You have abandoned yourself. In high school, in depression, you abandoned yourself because you did not trust your self-knowledge in the face of your mother, in the face of school. You tried again and again to bend yourself and convince yourself you were wrong, defective. And in college, old messages echoing, you would not allow yourself what you needed. And now you are beginning to question these rules.

That questioning, that fierce intellectual independence, comes from your faithfulness to hope, love, your ideals. It is an extremely heavy burden to bear. It always will be.

You are afraid the ripples emanating from your life may contradict the core sense of compassion you live for. What if you end up hurting others?

Sarah, you study parasites. You defend parasites. You have as much a right to live as any parasite.

But is not this compassionate core as much a part of you as this drive to live? And this compassionate core says, Sarah, you do not deserve all these things, if they would cause such pain to others.

And you know that the answer right now is that you want to live, and you need to accept this decision for now. Live in peace with this question.

There is so much you do not know. You will bring love that you can't yet imagine.

:sarcasm How's that for unrelenting, unpredicated faith...

Sarah

[tinydancercole]

Dear Nicole,
I want to tell you that I love you. I love you because you are you, you are special and great and there is no one like you anywhere. You are smart. You entered kindergarten when you were four, and the teachers wanted you to skip second grade. You entered college at seventeen and will graduate at twenty one. You are compassionate. The first time you hit a squirrel with your car, you cried. You are fiercely loyal to your friends. If someone hurts them, they'd better look out for you. You love your mother and brother dearly, and support your mother when she's having trouble dealing with your father. You can speak english, spanish, german, and ASL. Next year you will be learning Russian. You love your boyfriend and have tons of fun with him. You are cool, fun, special, loving, smart, and beautiful. You need to remember that! I love you!
Nicole

[glitterfaerie]

[I'll do my best...]

Dear Laura,

You are awesome. You are a kind and caring, witty person. You have a great musical talent. You know how to make someone smile, and it is because you are such a great person that you've attracted such great friends.
I wish you would have more self-confidence. You ARE a deserving individual, and a strong force. You have a vibrant spirit, if only you could see yourself in a positive light!
Love yourself for who you are - when this life is over, will it really matter what you looked like? Treat yourself in the way you would treat Kassie or Ilana. You are just as awesome as anyone else.

Hang in there, m'dear.
Love,
Laura

[Passager]

Hey, sexy.

I've been noticing you around and I just want to say that you are one supercool chick.

I want to let you know how much I love your amazing energy and style.

I love the way you have this ability to see the poetry in the mundane, how you can make gravel interesting.

You've accomplished so much in the last year, including getting your butt out of the land of unemployment and into a really good job that uses your skills and talents, and challenges and stimulates you. I'm really proud of you for doing this.

And I'm really excited to see you finally getting in touch with your sexy, girly side. I know how much fun you now have going shopping for clothes and it was so exciting seeing you have those "Woo, I'm hot" moments - because, yes, you are hot.

You have so much to offer other people. I know you're getting better at sorting out your priorities and doing what is good for you. Keep on truckin' babe, cos you're headed in the right direction.

Love, me.

[MissBlue]

Dear Blue
Thought I would write to you beause you have seemed so unhappy lately and I wanted to tell you how I feel about you.
First of all let me tell you how proud I am of you, that your still alive and battling on. Times have been diffucult and you may not be pleased with how you have copedbut the fact your still fighting on is admirable . Rest a while now though and let others take care of you. You DO deserve it. Try not to see accepting help as a weakness.
One of thethings I love most about you is how much love you show others and have to give .
When your well you radiate happiness , your joy is infectious and can light up the room.
You make me smile when I see your childlike wonderment at the world. You make it seem so full of hope and excitement, things have so much more colour through your eyes.
I'm sory for hurting you and making you so unahppy but take some time to rest and when you feel stronger I would like to make it up to you , if you would give me a second chance to prove how much your worth.
I will be waiting for you when your ready
xxLoveBluexx

[DorothyFromOz]

Dear Miyoko,

I am writing to you to get it down on paper, to get it down in words, how amazing you are and how much I love you. You are great at being there for others and boosting them up when they're down or in a tough spot, now it's time for me to boost you up, tell you how much I love you, and encourage you too keep going and keep loving you for you.

I know you've been struggling. But you're doing it! There will be ups and down but you're a fighter girl and have a heart of gold. Keep at it and don't forget that you always, always, ALWAYS, have a friend here for you...me! :happy

You are an incredible person. You are nice, caring, sweet, a great friend, and funny in the silliest ways. I love when you laugh. I love when you smile. I love when you are just beaming happy. You can see it in your eyes how you are doing. They are truly the window to your soul and I love when they are sparkling.

I am so proud of you for your strivings and accomplishments. You're doing amazingly at school and it's all because you know you can do it. It's great that you're enjoying it and really taking advantage of all you can with your education. I know that you are nervous (actually, terrified) about getting into grad school but stay confident. You are an amazing writer and look at your grades girl! You've really pulled them up and are doing great! It would be more tragic for the school's you are applying to than for you if they don't accept you. So just keep doing what you love and the rest will follow.

And yay for you and Stephen! That's so exciting. He's an amazing person and YOU DESERVE IT! =) Don't forget that. =)

So take good care of yourself. Keep trying not to be so critical on yourself. I know you're working so hard so don't let the little slips fool you into thinking each one is a big disaster. Keep your head up. =) Just love yourself! Sleep more cause you know what you're like when you get tired. Go outside too cause you love walking and being in the sun is good for you. =)

Most of all, just remember how much I love you JUST FOR YOU. As you are, exactly as you are, right this very second. I LOVE YOU FOR YOU! And not matter what happens, what you do, what you look like, I will always love you. You are amazing. And I believe it. =)

xoxoxo Take good care of yourself and keep loving you!!!

I love you,
Miyoko

[justmemyself]

to me....

I have never written to you before about my feelings, actually, really, never gave it much thought....that is a lie...always thought about the way I feel, just couldn't find anything GOOD in it...Well, today I tell you that I love you, and I know I always have, other wise it wouldn't have hurt so much all these years. Your a good person, you love with all your heart, you give a good ear when someone needs you to listen...you know your limits in almost all things in your life and are not afraid to let them be known.

In your mirror, you may not see the true you, but from me, looking from the inside out...I love what I see...keep your head up...and keep working...you will get to where you NEED to be...and with me by yourside...loving you forever...

:love
Me

[monarose]

dear me,

there are so many things that i love about you, and it makes me so dam sad to see you hurt and criticize yourself in the ways that you do.

i wish you would always remember all of the special things that make you you.

you are a compassionate, empathetic person. often times, you feel this trait has made you vulnerable, but its a beautiful trait that keeps you connected with others and the world.

you are a fighter. you have strength and power that allows you to overcome the many obstacles dealt to you. even this, you have learned to criticize, but this is one of the most remarkable things about you. it means that even though you have sad, depressive thoughts, you will never go back to the depression you were once in, b/c you ARE STRONG.

you are a peacemaker. so many times, you aim to tame others' hostile aggression, so that your environment can be a friendly, happy place. this helps you and the people around you.

you are beautiful. inside and out. there is not one other person in this whole world that looks like you. your body is beautiful...no matter what size.

you are definitely the whole package. pls remember this when you feel insecure or out of place or inferior or scared.

you are an incredible person.

love,
me

[sim.hl]

Dear Nicole

First things I would like to clear a few things up, things you may not be prepared to hear.

Firstly God loves you and you are forgiven. You will have to accept that, and you cant expect others to say it to you.

Secondly God has wonderful plans for your life and you are starting to see those such as swimming, sports and interesting arts.

Third we are very proud of you. You have recently quit smoking, and have really worked to get this eating disorder manageable. You are learning not to be so stressed out and are learning to live by grace and that in itself is pretty exciting. Take Care keep eating well because if you are active you need the nutirition.

:love
Nicole

[wish_fish]

My beautiful wish fish, I just wanted to write you this letter to let you know how wonderful you are and how sorry i am to have treated you so badly. I realize i have only made a difficult situation more difficult by not thinking about how my actions affected you negatively, by making you sick and feel terrible about yourself. You need to know that you are a beautiful person inside and out and do not deserve the treatment i give you. Your kindness and fun personality makes you shine and has earned you many great friends you don't even realize you have. Your strength and determination has gotten you through many tough situations in the past as it will get you through this. I have always admired your drive and dedication when you are passionate about something. You have absolutely everything going for you; you are young, smart, athletic, beautiful, and creative. Your future is so bright wish fish, anything and everything is possible for you. But only you wish fish can make that happen. From now on there will be no moe of thsi undeserving awful treatment I give to you which brings no positive results. wish fish, you are someone i love with all my heart and i will treat you that way. I will be with you and love you forever.

Love,

[words]

words, my love,

where to begin? This has been such a long hard time for you, I know that, and I feel I'm learning more and more about you every day. Sometimes that can be a little overwhelming, so I just wanted to stop and take stock and let you know how I feel.

You see, I'm beginning to realised just what a wonderful person you are, and just how much i really do, or at least really could, love you. You're so many things - special and ordinary, intelligent and daft, fun and serious, caring and single-minded, hard-working and a slob! you're so gentle to those around you, and truly empathetic, trying to see from others' points of view all the time. That you have that capacity to love others and to understand how they might be feeling, to reinterpret the world through their values is a truly amazing gift.

I'm not building you up to be more than you are - you are what you are, but i just want you to know, that I love what you are.

All my love, always here when you need me,
words xx

[LNZstar]

Dear Lindsey,
You are great. I want to write you this letter because you are a special and unique person. You are beautiful on the inside and out, and you sincerely care about people.
I am proud of your goals in life and how you go after something that you want with passion. I love how you stand up for what you think and don't let people push you around.
Don't change that.

I love how you get passionately upset over injustices and how you have a way with words. I love that you think of others so highly and are humble (usually) about yourself.
I love that you are seeking recovery and not just dieting.
I love your efforts with your family. Keep it up.
your #**** supporter

[shatteredheart]

Dear shatteredheart,

I am just writing to tell you how much you truly are appreciated. I know you have come through so much in the last few years. I also know that you havent exactly handled things in the best way possible, but you learn from your mistakes.

Things are sort of looking up for you. You are finding ways to handle confrontations better than your old ways and your body is thanking you for it. Coming through this has enabled you to truly grasp a hold on life and shake it for all it is worth.

You know see the positive side in all people even when they hurt you. You have learned to love them through their prosecutions and be "like Jesus" to them. You have formed new friendships with the best people who show you that you are appreciated and loved and this makes you feel a whole lot better about yourself and the way you are.

There are still a few things that are hurting you and causing you much pain and brain aches, but I am sure you will turn to God through these times and ask him to guide you, rather than turn back to old measures. You have come a lone way and I am so proud of you!!!

Lots of love and hugs :lubdub
Shatteredheart

[ayodele]

Ayodele--

I love you. So simple and yet so hard to tell to the folks that matter most. So today, I'm telling YOU. I love you. I don't ever want to leave this earth without telling you that because you have desperately been waiting so long to hear this from me.

I love you. I love you for the little girl that you were, the young woman that you are now, and the wise old woman that you will become in the future. I love you for what you've been through over the last few years and the you have emerged beaten and bruised by life, you still tell God every morning "Thank you" because if it wasn't for His grace, you would not have woken up to face another day. I love you for your cheerful disposition, your optimism, your positivity, your kind spirit, your ever-enduring hope for better tomorrows. I love that you can find the good in everything, even the bad and that you turn it around and somehow make it a learning experience. I love you for giving everything that you've got in all things, even if you don't give yourself credit for it. I love you for getting out of bed on those mornings when you *REALLY* didn't want to. I love you for continually stepping out of your comfort zone time after time again, even when every part of you is screaming for the security of the familiar. I love you for always pushing the envelope, so that you can find out what you are made of. I love you for the big dreams that you dream, even if they don't come true, for it is in the dreaming that you find your heart's desires. I love you for taking all the curveballs that life has thrown your way and rising up time after time again and saying quite simply, "I live." I love you because you are contrary. I love you because your hair is nappy. I love you because tonight, you stepped out of yet another comfort zone and signed up for this website so that you might begin to deal with the hidden demons of the past and finally step into that brighter tomorrow you dreamed of for so long.

Most of all, I love you for being that you that you were born to be. I love you so much for that that my heart overflows with joy and tears for you. I want you to remember that life is journey, that in all things, all that is required of us is to to give the best that we have to offer. You did the best you could with what you had at the time. Now that you know better, you are doing better. You are evolving, growing, ever-changing. Don't you stop until you take your last breath. You are wonderful just the way you are right now. Even if you don't feel wonderful at this moment, please know that you are OK, that this is just a bump in the road right now. You are NOT *insert favorite negative adjective here* You are a beautiful, amazing spirit. Let nobody take that away from you.

I love you with all my heart and soul. I truly do. And I'm glad I wrote this for you tonight.

Ayodele :love :love :love :love

[maryam]

Dear Maryam,

I know you're a little stressed out right now because of school and work and family, but I wanted to take this time to remind you that you're really a strong, beautiful, and corageous girl.

You've accomplished many things that you never thought you would have. You found the capacity to love yourself and to be able to love someone else unconditionally, you creative self has bloomed and matured, and you are a fabulous lover, daughter, sister, scholar and friend.

I commend you and I love you. I love you for your mistakes as well as your accomplishments. You must always remember that there are no defeats, just tough spots in life that can be worked through.

Love,
Maryam

[freedomfromfood]

Carol,

I love you for so many reasons. You are a wonderful person who cares so much about the people around you that sometimes you forget about yourself. You have realized how important it is to remember yourself and are woking to love and be loved. You are smart, friendly, loveable, gregarious, wacky, funloving, cheerful, optimistic, supportive, loving, caring, competent and so many more things (too much to list). I love you because I know you the best. I know everything that you love and everything that you hate. I am learning to listen to you more everyday and to have a voice and a feeling of mattering. I love you because you are always trying to improve yourself never willing to stay stagnent. Always willing to change. I love you because you are special. No one is just like you. You tend to be open minded and can hear others. Now you can hear yourself also. I love you because you are worthy of love. You are worthy of friendship. You are worthy of greatness. You are worthy!!!!!! I love you!!!!!

Your biggest fan, :yay
Carol

[ninfected]

wanted to avoid this one... which means i should do it all the more :winky

Dear Ariane,
I've been looking at you for twenty two years now, through great times, and horrible times... I just want to tell you I see a strong girl, truning into a beautiful woman. There's so much to you you don't know yet... so muc I want to know...
Your deep perception of the world, you sensitevity and intolorance of injustice have made you so vulnerable... and yet you're still here, fighting to make yourself a better person. and that makes you invulnerable.

You always say you're selfish, there's some truth to that, but you seem to disregard just how much think of and do for others.
Your friends are there not for pity. you make them laugh, you listen, and you're a good friend. Men want to be in your life not just for your looks- but because there's something there... some vitality you've tried so hard to bury... and yet it shines through.
People want to be in your life - you should want it too. I want to be in your life.


I want you to know you're worth all the work you're doing for yourself. I want you to know you're special. Smart, insightful, talented and beautiful.
You can be whatever you want to be. And so I implore you: please want to be better.

I love you,
me

[slumandy]

Dear SLUmandy,

Today I wanted to write to you simply to tell you how proud I am of everything you have accomplished. I know you have been through so much in your personal life and somehow, you've managed to pull through.

I want to also send you encouragement. I know things seem to be impossible at times but you have to believe that everything will be ok in the end. Trust that everything in life happens for a reason and it's ok to make mistakes. You don't have to be perfect. It's the imperfections in you that are the most beautiful and unique. Keep your head up and don't let life's bumps and bruises get you down. Also, you need to learn to forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for things in your past that have impacted your life in unimaginable ways and let go of the resentment and shame you see in the mirror. You are a beautiful person and life goes on no matter how hard you may fall at times.

Remember that I will always love you like you should always love yourself.

With all my heart,
SLUmandy

[..hiding.from.him..]

Dear Milly,

I am so proud of you. Look how far you have come. For years you have dreamt of your perfect career in Musical Theatre. Remember when you watched Star School on TV, about The IC Academy, and decided that was the school for you? Remember the struggles, how hard you worked? It was all a dream then.

Remember the day of your audition? You were so nervous I could see how badly you wanted it. Remember when you cried because you didn't get into The U Academy? You didn't even really want to go there, silly! But it didn't matter.. because don't you remember the day when the letter from IC came through, two days before your sixteenth birthday. Remember ripping it open, remember seeing those first few words...

"We are pleased to inform you that Emily has been accepted on to the Three Year Performing Arts Course..."

Second Year now... look how much you've improved. Not dreaming anymore, are you? This is real life, you are going somewhere, you have direction.

Think of your other achievements, Grade Eight Piano, Grade Eight Flute, Grade Seven Classical Singing... you have all those certificates at home, exams, festivals, competition. Trophies. Your favourite: Outstanding Vocal Solo Cup. If I had a penny for every award you've recieved I'd be a millionaire!

You've done so much, you are talented. Believe that.

I know you have struggled, I know there were bad times but didn't you pull through those so well? It's been four years now since that day, and although you don't always see it you have built yourself back up.

You have a wonderful boyfriend, and a few wonderful friends. Listen to them when they tell you that you are beautiful. Listen to them when they tell you that they care, because they really do. Really. What about B? He really cares about you and wants to help, let him. Listen to him. Let him in, you know? Don't shut the door on him, unlock it and let him help you. How many times does he have to say that you are beautiful before you actually believe it, girl!

You are loved, you are cared for. You are strong and you have a direction. Don't throw that away, don't waste talent.

Much Love, Milly.

***

That was difficult. Does it sound like bragging? I hope not... even as I was writing it it felt strange... but in a good way. x

[sonicdixie]

Dear Melissa,

You are going to be okay. The fears you have about not measuring up and failing miserably at life will not happen. God is with you. I'm so proud of your courage, how you face up to things and tackle them head on. You have survived so much. You have really changed for the better over the years. I admire your ability to love everyone and see the good that lies within every human being. Your sense of adventure and your boundless interest in all that surrounds you is contagious. You honor your family and truly love them, despite their shortcomings. You have a great sense of humor. You are intelligent. You are attractive, despite what you say to yourself when you see yourself in the mirror.
You are honest and kind to others. Please be kind to yourself, too. I love the fact that you have a big soft, mushy spot for stray animals and will stop in the middle of the road to feed them. I love your dependability and that you give one-hundred percent of yourself to your job, but please stop worrying when things at work aren't perfect. You are a good friend. You are a pretty good kitty mama to those **** cats of yours. You love them very much. You have a creative side which is good. And, as your mother says, you are quite capable, despite your inability to program the vcr or hook up anything electronic. You are a good cook and a good host, and you give some great presents. You are generous. You look at life fairly positively, although I know you despair that you are lonely for a boyfriend and a family of your own. God will provide you with that or give you solace.

I love you. Melissa

[Maxygirl]

Dear lovely Alyssa,

I know you say you are struggling and fighting to be happy, but I see such promise in you. I have seen your successes and determination for so many years and I know that you will continue in your success. Life can be a scary place right now, with depression and college and managing all that falls around you. But life is a gift also. You have your family and friends who care deeply for you and would do anything for you. And IT is within you. All that holds you back is your fear of failure. Your body is not a failure. It is not you-it is just what holds you. It ages and changes with the years, but YOU do not age. You grow and that is the important part of you-what’s inside. If you could only see what I see in you-courage, laughter, caring. You are not a failure, but an example for others to show what happens when you look adversity in the face and challenge it. You don’t back down. So on this Valentines day, will you be my valentine? I want to be yours :girly I don’t know anyone I would rather be loved by, than you. I deserve that.

Alyssa

[audio_cancer]

Dear Vanessa,
I've seen you grow, from your childhood at Killarney Gardens with the stuffed animals and the helium balloons. I've watched you move, too shy to ask the teacher questions in class. I remember seeing you stand outside at lunch when your best friend wanted some space. You hated free time because you didn't know what to do with yourself. I remember how insecure you were back then, and how your mother always used to explain the importance of confidence. You were such a beautiful little person, Vanessa, reading those Young Adult library books in the second grade. So quiet, with your big eyes, watching everything.
You're still beautiful, you know. You've changed, but there's that little girl in there, too. You may have had a splintered childhood, but through it all you've come out strong. There are people who love you. Your family, your friends, your boyfriend. He may not really understand what you're going through, but he loves you. You might not think you're a worthwhile person, Vanessa, but you are. You are a trustworthy, caring friend, and you are brave. You have learned to fly, to trust, to be comfortable on your own and in new situations. You have your own identity. You don't follow the crowd, and you don't fight those who choose to. You live your life and support and care for those who come your way. I feel priviledged to have known you, honestly. You have taught me so much. How to get back on the horse. How to love. How to open your mind. You are truly a wonderful person, inside and out. I love the way you've chosen to keep to yourself most of the time, not to shout across the classroom clamouring for attention. I love how you'll sit and scribble furiously in your notebook. That way, you can centre yourself at school and only the worthwhile people will approach you. I love how you have many friends, on your own terms. You don't shape yourself to fit into anyone else's mold.
Don't forget that I'm always here for you. You deserve love and kindness. You've always done your best. It's been amazing. Thanks for all that you do.
I love you!

-Vanessa

[cinnabonnie]

Dear Emma

You are so much more intelligent than you give yourself credit for and could be even more if you gave your body the nutrition it deserves. You always strive to learn more and challenge yourself in new ways. You do things that lots of other people would find so scary, like moving to a new country on your own, but you just find them exciting and new. You have a lot of courage, independence and strength.

You are so generous (sometimes too much for your own good) and you always put other people that you care about first and try to help them as much as you can. You would give money, time and anyother kind of help that was needed if you were able.

You love children and seem to bond instantly with them. You'll make a wonderful mother some day, even though you are scared that you won't know how to prevent repeating mistakes your parents made you'll give it your best and do so well.

People love your bright personality, you get along with so many different people and are open minded and tolerant of others. You are fiercely loyal and protective of those you love and will do anything for them.

I think you are a great person Emma and I'm so glad that you are in the world.

xxx

[LizzieD]

mon amour,
how are you? it's been a while since we've spoken. i never forgot about you, you're always on my mind. i really miss you and i keep thinking, baby where did we go wrong? how could we let this happen? i know the love is still there just burried under pain.

baby i just want another chance i just want to tell you how beautiful you are and how good you are to all. i admire you elizabeth i really do you're a good woman. do you remember how it used to be? nothing can bring you down but then you started concerning yourself with what everyone else was doing saying or looking like, but did it matter that much? no, because you know what? they're gone, but i'm still with open arms please help me help you to get better. give me a chance to love youdon't just turn away when you see me, look at me with those beautiful brown eyes, let me care for you the way you cae for everyone else. elizabeth please love me back you're all i got to live for nothing else matters.

i know you feel lonely but staying silent and hurting yourself can only cause more pain, we'll be ok as long as we trust in eachother, so let's keep in touch baby girl

love,
myself

[bubbleyfish]

Jenny,
Hey how are you doing? I know you don't hear this engough or don't like to hear it or whatever but you really are a good person. if you were not a good person, people would not tell you that all the time. I realize you like to dress down alot to hide the body you have, and that you like to dress up in your room, but dressing up outside your room embaresses you and makes you uncomfortable. But you look very nice when you try to look nice, sometimes you look nice when you don't try. I know being dyslexic makes you very self-concoius and you hate asking for help with spelling and grammer, but there really are people who care and willing to help you out. You are not as socailly inadapt or as unnoticed as you think, people do notice and care about you wether you want to admit it or not. Sometimes it is okay to not try hard, and other times being lazy is not the way to be, and sometimes you push the line. I think you and me should get to know each other better, I really like you, every side of you. I think we should have a date just you and me, we can just sit around and write down everything you want to discuss and figure out how to work our realtionship out, and one day maybe it won't be so hard for us to figure out what we want and what we need to do to get there. well have a nice evening.
p.s. did i tell you how nice you looked today
love your inner self

[MonaBear]

Dear Mona,

Smile! You are exactly where you are meant to be - though the road is dark and you are scared. Remember that life deals you lessons - possibly in the form of sledgehammers (!) until you work through those lessons. There is a reason why this is happening to you right now - because now is the time. Carpe diem Mona! You can do it! You are worthy of feeling happy and getting the things out of life that you desire. The moment that you truly believe that is the moment that things will fall into place. You have come a long way in the past year - continue to be honest about your progress - YOU WILL GET THERE! IT'S WORTH IT!
Whatever your body size (or the size of your last meal!), you are a lovable person - nothing changes that! You are warm, loving, perceptive and open to love from others. Do not hesitate - there is nothing worse than hesitancy. Go forth boldly in the direction of your dreams!
Love always
Mona

[newpage]

It's time to write to yourself! The goal of this game is simple... Write a love letter to YOU from YOU! Tell YOU why you're terrific... tell YOU all the things you appreciate about you... tell YOU why you wish to get to know you better and about the things you already know and why they are such endearing qualities.

Rules: No part of your letter can mention anything to do with weight or your eating disorder.[/QUOTE]
Dear Me,
I love you. You're terrific because you're friendly and smart. I'd like to learn about all the things that I can appreciate about you. I want to get to know you better because you're worth getting to know.
Love,
Me
This is much harder than I thought.
I need to get to know me better and identify those endearing qualities and why they are endearing.
My head keeps hearing totally unendearing qualities.
But I'll drown that out with...hard-working and passionate!

[teloise]

How ARE you? Are you taking care of yourself and being lovely with yourself?

I miss you. I miss your free-spirit and and your contagious laughter. I miss your imagination and your sweetness. You are gentle and quiet but also so firm and comforting.

You are so funny and can be so positive and strong. You're so pretty and you're such a fighter! You seem to be able to get through anything. I love your loyalty and sense of goodness. You are such a good thinker and are so generous with your ideas.

You should do whatever you want to this weekend. You get to do your run (make sure you go at your pace and not a show-off pace, ha ha) and have some lovely time with D. You can sleep late in your soft clean bed and take luxurious baths. You've got wonderfully positive reading to do and you can just be your wonderful fun self!

Can't wait to be with you.

[FlyGurl]

:gimmehug Jesseca

Oh darling your being to hard on you lately. Remember it is okay for you to express yourself not just by the negitive but also by being yourself. Your a wonderful person and you deserve so much happines and love.

This weekend will be difficult for you I know and I know your very stressed about it but please keep this in mind...

Your loved, your sweet, your caring & kind, and people really like being around you.

Please don't let your ED keep you from the life you deserve so much of.

:kiss

[Rainbow-unicorn]

Dear Emma,

I know for along time now that you have felt so alone, but i want to tell you that i am there for you. I love the way you care so much for others and always have time to listen to others and advise them when you have so many problems of your own, I love how you know just the right words to say to the rest of the world so that they don't feel hurt. but most of all i love the way you smile and the rest of the world just can't help but smile too.

Emma I love you xxx

[Ashleigh-]

Dear Ashleigh, I find it hard to express my feelings though i'm going to give it a go. You are a very caring person especially with friends, you listen to everything and don't prejudge even though its hard for you not to. You could be a great help to people and happiness could be yours if you only opened up your heart and stopped being so negative. Maybe if you hadn't of been so negative before you wouldn't have ruined a wonderful friendship and possibly more, this time don't do the same thing, lock your insecurities away in a cupboard and don't let them out because it's not Sophie that he's after it's you. Yes you have a beautiful friend but you too are beautiful you just have to let people see it, instead of standing in her shadow shine brighter and let yourself be seen

[BeMe]

:kiss Dear Kristi, :kiss

I do not know how to say this so I'll just be blunt, I love you. You never cease to amaze me. All of the sympathy, empathy, and understanding that you show towards others is amazing. You are so caring, nuturing, and loving towards others. I want to be that way towards you in return. You deserve nothing but the best. No one else will love you as much as I will, nuture you as much as I will, and be there to get you through the tough times like I will. Your understanding, truthful, loving blue eyes are stunning. It remarkable that after all of these years you haven't fallen into the peer pressure trap. You have honored your true self. I continuosly envy your self discipline. There is a whole other side of you that I am longing to get to know. A side of you that is vital to your true essence. I want to learn what your true wants an needs are, along with your deepest thoughts and feeling. So please Kristi, don't hold anything from me. Accept my love, and make me the happiest person on earth.

Yours forever and ever

[Jezebel]

Dear Jess,

Often times when I am around you, I am at a loss for words. Your warmth and care for other people is something I have rarely ever witnessed in others. You do things for others at the drop of a hat, without hesitation. You have shown me love at some of my darkest times, refusing to give up on me, even when I wanted to give up on myself. I treasure the time spent with you because I know you are completely genuine. I am lucky to have ever met you and even luckier to be able to call you my friend.

[idea]

Dear Amy,

It's been one long yet incredible year. I know you can keep it up. You're a wonderful mother, a loving wife and sister. Keep thinking and learning from the past.

Don't break the streak. :winky

Yours,
Amy

[renkaren]

Dear Karen,
You have been in a relationship for almost a year with someone who still respects you, tells you you are beautiful, and pushes you to better yourself. You have been able to care for him back. This year has been hard but you lived through it.

you have discovered the imperfections in yourself/others, to accept them for what they are.

You are a nice person who wants to be fair and reasonible. It makes since to take care of yourself and set your own boundaries.

You are caring ...

(this is the best I have so far... I am going to try to work harder on this one)good idea.
Karen

[FreyaFire]

To My Dearest Love: Angela,
I know I don't tell you often enough just how much I love you. I mean to tell you every minute of every day, but you know how life can get in the way of such things.
I want you to know just how beautiful you are. Your wit and humor can bring me to tears (in a good way!), and your own laugh can bring everyone around you to fits.
We both know that things can get rocky between us...especially when we don't really listen to eachother...but I want to reasure you that I will never leave you. You can always count on me to be there for you, to love you, to cry and laugh with you, and to steal all your books when you're not looking (just kidding :bounce ).
So, I'll wrap this up, because I know you have lots to do :smokin ...but just know that I love you more than some stupid letter can ever say.
Love,
Me

[JoJoJoa]

Dear JoJoJoa,

I know that things have been tough for you lately, I know that you have been struggling with things but there are some things that you should be aware of.

You are an amazing indivivdual, and although it normally doesn't register and you normally don't realize it, you have touched the lifes of many individuals. Look at how many people know your face on campus, how many people have sat in your room, look at how you have helped them with their issues and their concerns. You are a kind, generous, loving person, even though sometimes you don't even realize it.

You have big shoulders, and they carry the secrets of others well, but sometimes it is ok to cry to ask them for help in return. You are affectionate and passionate, you need to take some of that and give it back to you. You have a beautiful soul, and although you don't always realize it, you are stronger then you think. You work hard to be dependable, but you need to be able to depend on others, because sometimes you will falter. But faltering isn't the problem neither is how long you stay down, because in the end you always manage to get back up, to face challenges and overcome them, and with all stuggles they will eventually come to an end and make you a more beautiful person.

You love your friends and would do anything for them. You care so much that your heart overflows, to help those around you, and when you feel as if you have nothing left to give, you manage to touch someone in a way you didn't even realize was menaningful. Thankyou for being you, for being patient, kind and generous. Some day you will learn to let others in and trust them as much as they trust you keep working and it will come.

Love,
JoJoJoa

[sweetsugarbear]

:love Dear Lydia :love

I know I don't express my love for you like I should. I think you are such a loving and compassionate person. You are dependable and have been there for me during the good and the bad. I am happy to have you through "better or worse".

I want to remind you today that you are worthwhile. You are meaningful, and I don't know what I would do without you. You are loved and accepted. You CAN rely on me and I encourage you to trust me more. After all.....we have a lifetime ahead of us!

You are a :gift to me and I plan on treating you like one forever.

Love,
Yourself

[ebeanbag]

Dear Emma,

I think sometimes you forget your strengths focusing on your negative points. Having gone to an all girls' school, you have begin to put yourself down as many around you do, so as not to appear "full of yourself". However sometimes I fear that you have begun to believe it when you've told your friends you're nothing really that special. You are kind, intelligent and understanding. Nothing will ever change that. Just don't forget it!

Me xxx

[fiazzi]

dear sophia,

sweetheart (i call you this because it's what you call others - you deserve this sweet name from yourself, too)... what can i say?

i want to love you. i am trying to love you. this winter marks a year that you have been in a beautiful relationship with someone who loves you deeply and passionately - who wants to spend the rest of her life with you. remember how you knew for so long that no one would ever, ever love you that way? do you see, soph, how ideas like that can be challenged and changed? you never wake up anymore convinced that you can never be loved, because laura loves you every day.

in this way, i believe that i, too, can change the way i've felt about you for so long. i am learning that you are worthy of love and tenderness from me. i am learning about all the things that make you good and precious.

:sun you are tender, sophia. you approach the world with love. you are always looking to be loving, to open your arms to all who come your way. this is something about you that is beautiful and rare.

:sun when you allow yourself to "hang loose", you have a sense of humor, and it is a very special one in that is has nothing to do with mockery or diminishing others, but simply delights in being silly, in recognizing the absurd, in pure play. someday i hope that you can learn to let this part of you flourish instead of hiding and being silent for fear that others will think you're stupid.

when i let myself, i love you for these things. i love your dreams, your passion, and the ways in which you express yourself: through speech, through your poetry, in song. can i love you this way? i'd like to, i think, and that in itself is a step towards wholeness. i didn't always want to love you, sophia.

kiddo, you've come so far. you have so far yet to go. remember the little girl you were? you wrote stories and read book after book. you had such a vivid imagination, peopled with all kinds of characters. you had a herd of imaginary horses that ran behind the car when mom took you to school. i think you and i can learn to love that little girl - it wasn't her fault things were so hard, you know. harder, though, will be to love the teenager you were. i know you don't want to think about that - neither do i. but they tell me it wasn't her fault, either.
sometimes i look back at who you were (i was) then, and i want to cry or throw up. but you know what? that girl was still YOU - she was so loving and creative. she cared so deeply about everyone in her life. she was precious! in order to truly love who you are NOW, i think i have to love that awkward, dramatic, anxious, depressed, fucked up little thirteen-year-old.

so, ready?
i love you, little eighth-grade sophia. it's ok, babygirl... it's not your fault. i know you're hurting, but it's not your fault, and you will come through this. you work on getting through, ok, and i'll work on accepting you even though i'm scared.

i love you, soph. we'll be ok.
:love:love:love
me

[Karuna]

Dearest Maia,

Hello, beautiful... darling... gorgeous... all the names that others call you and that you don't take in. They mean them - I do too. You are so precious.

Do you know how unique you are? What the infinitesimally tiny chance was of you being born? How no-one in the entire history or future of the world will be exactly, or even nearly like you. Do you know that you are the only person who can fulfil your purpose in life? There are things that need to be done in the world that ONLY you can do. You are vital. You are a beautiful thread in God's tapestry, a tile in the mosaic, a crystal in the matrix.

You deserve all the love in the world. No-one should be loved less because they have done something wrong or made a mistake or because there's something they don't understand. Every soul, every human being deserves an infinity of love; to give and receive and forgive and heal in perfect love.

I could say these things about any human being - you must remember that they are as true for you as anyone else. No more and no less. In this, all beings are equal. Neither is it something you 'earn'. Grace and love are free. You can't grab a bigger share by being perfect! There *is* no bigger share than what you have already been given.

And now some specific things about you, my darling. I love your intelligence - the way you instantly grasp a new topic and link it to what you already know. I love your daft, wry sense of humour. I love your ability to write - to take the driest subject and turn it into something that is a joy to read.

I love you for being a trier; for being brave and overcoming; for picking yourself up and choosing a better life for yourself again and again and again and growing in kindness and sensitivity and maturity day by day. I love the warmth that breaks forth from your heart when you feel safe and dare to let it out. I love your emerging hunger for justice. I love the way you cuddle and the way you make love - you are an inspired and wonderful lover and when you gain your confidence in your body you will be even more awesome.

I love your creativity - your drawings, your sewing, your delightful use of colour. I love your playfulness and your mischief - I wish you'd let it out more often... sweet Miss Mischief. You are so talented, and even with things that are not natural to you, when you gather the courage to try, you can still make lovely, meaningful things. Do not care what others might say - create for yourself; share the things you want to. Let it flow and take joy in it.

I love you for your gentleness with B. She is so difficult and you are so patient and devoted and kind. I know there are mixed motives in there too, and I know she gives a lot in return when she's able, but that doesn't diminish all the sweet things you've done to lift her heart and soothe her soul. You have played a massive part in helping her to stay sober. You are her blessing, just as she is yours.

I love you, little Pippa, the baby who cried herself to sleep when no-one came. I love you, little girl, who was taught so many wrong things by misguided people doing their best. I love you, belligerent solitary teenager, who made it through and found a way for yourself with so little companionship on the path. I love you, clever young woman with a string of A's and First Class Honours. I love you, poor distressed anxious darling who discovered she couldn't manage as a teacher and lost her partner at the same time. I love you, dear brave survivor who overcame depression, who kept on doing what had to be done while the world fell down around your ears, who never let the enormous wave wipe you out. I love you, lost one, f***ing your way through the lesbian population of England to prove that you're desirable. I love you, pathetic submissive, who gave up your personality to chase an impossible dream and found it again on the other side.

I love you in each and every incarnation, no matter what you have done, or left undone. I love you anyway. And because of them. Because you are you, because you are unique. And you need to know these things. Only in love and unconditional acceptance can you grow and develop and shine in all your wondrous glory instead of only releasing a brief glimpse now and then. Be proud. Be strong. Know that *always* you have done the very best you could do with what you had and what you knew at the time. No-one sets out to have a sh*t life - everyone just wants to be happy. And you went about it the best way you knew how.

I will love you forever. Precious, dearest one. And I will protect you and put you first and give you all good things that are in my power. I promise to do my utmost not to criticise, not to punish, but even if I do I will love and forgive myself (for this is you talking to you so of course I'm also a dear wonderful fallible human being!) I will do everything in my power to give you the best life I possibly can.

Know that I love you. And I will do my best to remember to tell you so often in all the ways I can.

Hugs, kisses, snuggles and strokes,

Maia :rainbow

[trentisgodmas]

Dear Christina,
You are are a good person at heart. You really do care about other people but its time you started caring about yourself. You are really hard working. You never quit, no matter how hard it gets, and you manage to find good in everybody no matter what they are like. You are smart and really need to start believing that. Don't give up hope in yourself and you can become beautiful on the inside, not just the out.
Love,
Christina

[hunger_hurts]

Dear Holly,

I know I am always telling you how much I hate you, I know I am always insulting you, putting you down, and disallowing you to feel any kind of pride or self-worth. I'm sorry. I think the truth is you are the opposite of all the things I call you day-to-day. You are a wonderful person, always thinking of others, always there, a shoulder to cry on, you care so much about other people I know that it causes your heart to ache sometimes. You are a truly loving person. You are kind. You are gentle. You are beautiful no matter what, and anyone who can't see that is not worth having in your life. You deserve to be loved and cherished, not abused, or used. Please always remember that. You are unqiue and exquisite and you ARE worth just as much as the next woman or person. You have so much to give and there is so much joy to be had for you yet, joy which you DESERVE, so please, please, don't give up and dont let those who have hurt you win.

Keep fighting,

love, yourself xxx

[annaforever]

Dear Anna,
I think that it's time to say you finally what are my real feeling for you; I know that for all these years I never said anything good to you, and I never was as sweet with you as you deserve. May be you're surprised by what I'm going to say, but I love you, and I loved you secretely for all these years...I loved you by the first time I saw you: you were a so beautiful and clever baby! Than you grow up, and become the most sweet and sexy woman I ever meet. But life was not good with you: you have been alone in front of problems bigger than yourself; and you never gave up, you were strong and brave all the times.
May be you are tired now, and you need someone else to help you to stay strong and brave and beautiful and sweet and sexy and clever as you used to be for all your life.
I want to be that one.

With all my love
Anna

[iloveme]

Dear Katie

I thought I would write you a letter as I have not seen you around very much lately and on the occasions I have caught a glimpse of you you seem to dissapear before I have even had chance to speak to you. I know you have been having a hard time lately fighting your ED but I just wanted to say how much I love you and try and encourage you to come out and talk to me.

First of all I would like to say that you are truly a wonderful person and no matter what size you are you will always be very beautiful to me.

I really enjoy spending time with you and your home is always soooo welcoming, people are often taken aback by your friendly, cheerful, caring and non judgemental personality.

I miss you so much, life just isn't the same without you so please please talk to me. I know you are scared and confused but I promise that if you do come out you will be able to live the life you deserve to live and there will be nothing stopping you from following your dreams. You do remember your dreams don't you?

Again Katie I am begging you to come out and I am solemnly swearing that I will be there for you, I will not let you down this time and will help you get through this.

Please trust me.

Hugs and kisses

from

Your bestest friend ever

Katie :lubdub

[StrawberryKField]

Dear Allison,
Hi beautiful. I know you are having a hard day, but it is just ONE hard day. I believe in you. You are ready to walk away from this eating disorder. I love you. You are such an amazing person. You are very caring and kind, and you have a good sense of humor. And you are a great writer and one day you will be a great coach. All of the XC kids look up to you! They tell you how fantastic you are at cheering and Kelsey called you last night for summer training plans. See, people do like you!

I know its scary and I know it is hard. But it is so much better than bulimia. Sweetie, you deserve so much more. You deseve college and coaching and friends and family and maybe a boyfriend too. I will stand by your side and hold your hand all through recovery. I know how scared you are right now, but it will be alright. I promise you that I will not desert you.

By the way, you have beautiful hair, beautiful eyes, and a beautiful smile.
I want you to experience so many amazing things in life. I will help you do it.

I love you.
Allie

[bucky_china]

(This is really hard for me)

Dear Rachel,
ummm... ok don't know what to say

ok here we go again

Dear Rachel,

You are a sweet encouraging girl, you are a fighter and never forget that. You are intellgent, do well at school, and great with other people. You can get through this and you can get better. You have made it trhough some tough times. You are a survivor. You've travelled places other people haven't, you've helped people in a variety of ways.

Rachel

[elie]

Hey you!

I just want to remind you how much I love you!
I love your sense of humor, and how you're always able to laugh at things and find the humor in everything. You're a really good friend, and always there to listen and help others. I admire your independence. You're always able to do the things you want and make your own good time doing the things you're interested in, even if no one else wants to come along. You don't let people hold you back, and don't rely on others to enjoy yourself. You've been through so much and have been so strong! You care about others, not just people you know, but about the world at large. You see the worth and value in so many things that get overlooked. You're smart, and sincere, and creative, and I could go on all day!!!

[AmyLee]

Dear Jenn,
As you move though in life there will be people who don't understand your true beauty. You shouldn't have to be one of them. I love you for many reasons, and I want to share one with you. I haven't met anyone as selfless as you, you strive to help others, to take care of them. Your friends and family value that about you. I value that about you. Times may be hard for you, so you need to keep looking up and helping yourself sometimes. I understand why you always give, but give to yourself every once in a while. That way you don't feel ignored.
Keep smiling and open your heart. The road to recovery may be long and hard, but I know you can do it. You need to do it. So when times get hard, look back on this and remember. I truely love you, your family truely lovs you, and your friends truely love you.
~If you keep your mind on this love, it'll be easier for you. I LOVE YOU~ :lubdub

[The Rescuer]

Dear Miss Understood, :love

There is no one else on Earth like you. You are unique, special and have so many gifts to share with the world.
You have been through so much and you deserve to be happy. It is your birthright. :girly Dont let anyone, even your own inner critic tell you that you dont deserve self love and happiness.
:lubdub
You are currently working on your issues, and for that, I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! :gimmehug That is true strength and true intelligence.
Your inner beauty shines like a diamond. I am so glad that you are alive. :winky This world needs more people like you.
Dont give up on your dreams. You can do it! The universe believes in you and I believe in you.
Love to you!!!! :love
Miss U.

[Caelia]

Dear Caelia,

I would love to know you better. I know a little bit about you and I like what I know. You are analytical, your deep, funny, sensitive. You are intelligente, down to earth. You are a bright person. You are realistic. You know what you don't like. You are clumsy and quirky but that's ok...

You seem to think that you are damaged and no good...that's a lie. You are worth knowing and special. People love you and you are special to a lot of people. You hated school you graduated college. You lived through a nasty breakup, your brothers disease and a lot more.

You are a work in progress, let the work continue.

Learning to love you one day at a time

Caelia :penguin

[Lolagirl]

Dear Lola,

I just wanted to take the time today to tell you how very special you are and how much I love you. I know I don't tell you that, or honor and appreciate you as much as I should, and I'm sorry for that. But I do love you and I do care very much for you, eve though I have a hard time showing it.
You are such a strong young woman. You have overcome so many challenges and struggles in your life, and I admire you for that. You have gone through and come out on top of many things that not even older adults have come up against. THese things have made you wiser, more mature, more compassionate, and more able to take on the world with your own two hands- which you strive for daily.
I know that it's so difficult sometimes when not a lot of people understand what is going on, or disagree with you, or seem to be better than you, but guess what, dear? YOU are wonderful! You ARE enough! You are intellegent enough, funny enough, compassionate enough, wise enough, mature enough, beautiful enough. You were made in God's image, and He and I, and all those who care about you, love and adore you and are proud of the person you are becoming today!
I'm so sorry that I haven't been supportive and have had a lot of negative thoughts concerning you, but that is changing, and I will get much better with practice. I love you. You are strong. I know that you can make it through anything that happens in your life, or those of people you care about, because "We know that all things work for good according to those who are calling to His purpose." and "You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you!"
I send you many hugs and much love! I know that I can be very kind to others, but am not often kind to you, and this is quite a change... but get used to it, because as far as I'm concerned, I'm sticking with you and you're not gonna get rid of me, babe! :bounce

Love love love,
Lola

[rabbit]

You are beautiful. Everyone knows you are beautiful except you. You're passionate, exciting, random, and funny. You're also caring, creative, and intelligent. You really are unique whether you see it at the moment or not. You have a conscience and morals. You are stronger than you think. You can do anything you set your mind to. You just have to set your mind to it! And once you are sure of what you want, then I have no doubt that you will excel in that. I know you will because I know you. The only person who knows you better is God. I know you are capable. I know you can be determined when you need to. And I know that sometimes you are insecure, but trust me, you have no reason to be ashamed! You were fearfully and wonderfully made and you are loved.

[DarlingThisIsLove]

Darling Lizzy,

I Love You, I know you may forget sometimes and doubt me others but i do, unconditionally. I know right now that you're at a loss and are terrified that no direction will find you but it will and even if it never does, you are not less of a person because of it. You are not your body, you are the thoughts and feelings that well up inside you, let them out, let them pour from your mouth and your fingertips. You are worth knowing, you are worth being loved. You deserve to be happy, i promise.
Everything is going to be alright, you have such patience, use that and the strong faith you have deep inside you to get you through this. I believe that you are lovely.

Yours, truly.
(dictated but not read)

[MetalChick]

Dearest Lana,

Just about every time you have written a love letter it has been to another. Very rarely have you written such words to yourself. I know you have hoped beyond hope that Matt would tell you the things you needed to hear, but it is me that is going to tell you now (and I hope I suffice!!!). Lana, I love you so much. You are so beautiful inside and outside. I know you have been hurt really really badly by people in your life. But what I admire most about you is the fact that despite this, you still maintain your own faith in treating others with dignity and humanity. I know you are sorry for things that happened with Matt, but you can let go of this now, because the universe, someday, will allow such healing to take place, for both of you. It has already provide the seed of this with your mum! What more proof do you need? I support your dreams to finish your BA and to go into the police. I also support your dreams to have your own little place one day. I know you are scared sometimes of being alone, but I think tis fantastic that you are doing this alone, for yourself, and that you refuse to allow anyone else to take responsibility for nourishing your soul with love. Once you are ontop of ED, the sky is the limit. Despite the fact sometimes you feel dumb or a fraud, I can assure you that you are an intelligent young woman and that anything you put your hand to or energy into will succeed. Your warmth and charisma will also help you in the future in any task or job you may carry out. I cannot tell you the 'right' path, but I can tell you that your doing well. And you are just going to have to keep experimenting with what works and what is effective. I am glad you have let go of some hopeless relationships - I think this was best for everyone involved and in the end it will pay off. I encourage you to hold onto your vision. And to look forward to summer with enthusiasm - you will get to go back to the gym with sarah and bounce round having fun again!! Please dont be hard on yourself Lana, I know sometimes its real hard for you. But look at yourself - youre a beautiful eclectic mix, and one day you will find the peace and prosperity you seek. Never stop being an individual, and keep listening to that quiet, intuitive place inside. Nourish your soul and your spirit....Love still, like theres no tomorrow...do things your way, not the worlds way...read Donald Duck comics...Use this time to cultivate your identity, yourself, to become truly autonomous...strong...beautiful!

You will make a wonderful wife and mother some day.

I love you.

L xox

[savvyupgirl]

Well, here goes nothing...

Dear Rachel,
Thank you for your desire to get better; it will really benefit you. You have shown that you have a great potential to help people, to ride horses, to learn and to work as an academic. When you are healthy, you will be able to fulfill these potentials.
You have a wonderful horse who you saved from a terrible home and he loves you to no end. You have successful worked through his problems, why won't you work through yours? UP loves you and you two work well as a team; you do not need to be a upper level eventer with him, UP is your friend. If you were not something decent, UP would never put up with you (and you know that because he has told you when you act like an a*s).
You have shown people you have potenital, use it because you deserve to be proud of yourself.

Love,
Rachel

[Tiffy]

This feels a bit awkward, but here it goes..

My Dearest Tiffany,

I'm sorry that I didn't write this sooner to tell you how lovely you really are. I know you depend on others to make you feel better, but now it's time to realize for yourself just how amazing you really are. I don't think you quite understand how beautiful you are on the inside and outside, but I have hope that someday you will see yourself as others see you. You're way too hard on yourself, you beat yourself up everyday over things that aren't your fault. You love to take care of others, but you often times neglect yourself, and your needs. This is quite the challenge, but could you try to put yourself first for once? You deserve to take gentle care of yourself as you tell others to do. You say that everyone has a purpose in life and I want you to remember that the next time you feel like there isn't a reason to live any longer. You have a purpose. The compassion you feel towards helping people is amazing and I know that someday you will put that to good use, but you need to take care of yourself before you are able to properly help others. You might not be able to save the world, but I know how much it would mean to you just to touch one persons heart in a way you never thought possible. Don't let anyone make you believe that you're not capable of doing what you want in life. Don't listen to the lies because what I'm telling you now is true. I know that many people have been amazed by your strength and know from the minute they talk to you that you're going to do something amazing with your life. Of course there are also people who try to discourage you from doing what you want to do, there are some of believe that you can't do a damn thing right. But don't take any of that to heart. The people that treat you badly and don't have much faith in you are mainly the people in your family. You have grown to learn that their opinion doesn't mean shit and have gotten the "I'm going to prove you wrong" attitude which is going to carry you even further in life. The point is, you are loved no matter how unlovable you may feel sometimes. You are a good person. I believe in you and I always will.

My Unconditional Love,
Tiffany

[iKiwi]

Dear Maya,

Congrats on the new job. I know it's only part-time but it's a great opportunity to get to know people. See, I've been telling you for ages that people like you for who you are, and that the only person who is so negative about you is yourself. Silly! Of course they wanted you on the team. You did a good job re-planting those aloe vera yesterday. I think that, in the future, you could really have something good going with these medicinal plants.

Now, Maya, I want you to listen to me very carefully. I know you're not feeling too great today. I want you to learn to follow your heart. You're actually really good at that. Remember, before you started doubting yourself, you'd always know what path to take, what others wanted for Christmas, what to write your papers about, and you would do well. You've got to start doing that again. You've done quite a good job on the flat, although I know you'd be happier with more paintings and more colour. Why can't you take care of yourself the same way you take after your animals and your flowers?

Remember that your life is like a glasshouse - if you take care of your body then you will blossom and grow. Neglect it, and the weeds will take over, and what is rare and beautiful about you will wither and die. I know you don't want that. Already I see the most beautiful flowers growing up from the gashes in the soil caused by your old scars. Already I see you repairing the roof, turning on the irrigation system, adding the right amount of nutrients. You're doing a great job. Treating yourself like a precious object will make you strong.

I know it's a tough road but sweetie, just trust in yourself and you can achieve anything. You've already come so, so far. You've survived so much. You're doing well. People are happy with you. You have so much to be thankful for. Just let go of the darkness, and walk out into the light.

All my love,

Maya.

[littleredwagons]

Look at you, back for another round of fighting to get healthy. Have you noticed how far you've come since last time? You're closer than ever to putting all of that terrible stuff behind you and being free to live your life with joy.

You're amazing, the way you keep fighting. Sometimes you go down, but you never, ever stay down.

Let your heart open. It's safe now. Let the beautiful things in the world in. Let yourself move and play and be creative and find pleasure in living. Shed that clunky armor that's weighing you down and keeping the world out.

If anybody can do it, you can.

[balletboy]

I can't do this. This is hard. I have no idea what to say to myself. I feel like an awful person. Like nobody would love me. How can I write a letter to myself describing all the good things when I don't think there are any good things about me. I don't think I can even start to write. I seriously need to brainstorm and construct a list first! Everytime I think of something that is potentially good about myself I start to argue against it. My mind brings up past references to help with that arguement and it always seems to win. I really don't know. I think I'm going to have to work on this. I just felt like posting because I needed to express how this exercise made me feel: very sad and empty. :sad

[LufferOfDogz]

Dear Caralia,

I guess I have ignored all the good things about you. You have good taste in clothes, you are smart, you are a good friend. You also try very hard to overcome binges, and that makes me happy.


Thats all I can think of. :ugh

[Krystine]

Heya,

I wanted to write this to encourage you in this stage of your life. I wanted to remind you of a few things to continue to give you hope. All the times you cheered up college students who were far from home with your friendliness, and telling everybody "hi" and "goodmorning" whether you knew them or not. You cheered up so many people with your sense of humor and never excluded anybody from your circle of friends.
You have always been good at learning languages, and blessed many people through learning a few phrases in their heart language and then greeting them that way.
You love the elderly like very few people I know. You are compassionate and respectful of those who are truly the least of these. You are humble enough to clean up after the ill, and change diapers of people of all ages who need that help. You don't mind being drooled on, or taking a few extra minutes to listen to somebody who is lonely.
You play piano so well. You've been given opportunities to play not just for yourself, but for church and missions trips, and recitals. Don't forget the times you accompanied for vocalists who really needed your help.
You are a joy to your friends who count on you every early morning to run. You work hard and are dedicated, not just in running, but in studying and achieving the goals you set your mind to. You're incredibly persistent and determined. You do things when people tell you not even to bother trying.
You appreciate beauty- a pink sunset can make your whole face glow, and you look forward to the sunrise. You say hi to the rabbits and cows you see, and love animals of all kinds.
Don't underestimate your abilities to accomplish the goals that you have for the future. You know it's possible, you might not see the end now, but hey, you can do it. Go ahead, keep proving them wrong--the people who said you'd never be normal or healthy, prove them so wrong, it'll be fun. You're up for the challenge. Keep being strong and holding on. You can do it.
Love you lots.

Me

[summeryet]

It's time to write to yourself! The goal of this game is simple... Write a love letter to YOU from YOU! Tell YOU why you're terrific... tell YOU all the things you appreciate about you... tell YOU why you wish to get to know you better and about the things you already know and why they are such endearing qualities.

Dear Me-
I wanted to tell you how much I love you. I don't think you realize what a wonderful person you are. I love the way you care about the people closest to you, the way you love your son and are learning to be a great mommy. I love how you put your all into everything you do, although sometimes I worry you do too much and try to be too perfect. I want you to realize no one is perfect but what you do is beautiful and you dont need to stress. You have beautiful eyes and a beautiful smile. I love how you always strive to make yourself a better person, how you are learning to talk things through and that (most of the time) you are willing to admit you are wrong. You have an abundance of love and caring in your heart and I am glad you share some of it with me.
Love,
Me

(This was very difficult, felt very forced, and I felt like I was just babbling...ugh)

~Michelle

[MorningSmiles]

My dearest Audrey,

I am constantly surprised by how strong you are. You are truly amazing. Remember when we used to laugh to ourselves, and dub the women we admired " strong Amazon goddess women"?

You are one of those women. Atleast, very soon, you will be.

And so, my strong Amazon Goddess Nearly-Woman, I want to write and tell you how much I love you. You are so different -- different than anyone else I have ever met. I know thats hard for you sometimes. Its hard to be the odd one, the one no one quite gets, and its hard censoring yourself so that other people will understand/like you more. I hope that soon you can meet some different people, and you will be able to speak from your heart, and show them how quirky and wonderful you really are. You think such funny things, you wonder about how the earth works, how people work, you wonder about everything, you wonder about yourself. You are so introspective, and yet, you know that you are only a tiny fraction of this amazingly huge world, and you appreciate your smallness. You appreciate knowing how astounding this world is, how exceptional.

You are also so intelligent and kind. You "get" things ... Poems and novels and plays make sense to you in a way they don't to others. I think thats because you spend so much time exploring the inner workings of your mind ... It has opened yourself to understanding others, and their actions. You can always forgive, that's an amazing quality. Whenever someone tells you about a tragedy, you look at it from both the victim and the attacker's point of view. You have great insight. Your mother once told you that she is proud of the person you've become, because she knows that if some world tragedy happens, if another Holocaust or some other unspeakabley awful things happened, you would fight against it. You woudn't give in to every human's distrubing blood lust, or just stand back and watch, too scared to stop. She knows you would stand up for the helpless, and try and make a difference. I know that too. I know that even if you don't become world famous, or admired by all ... You will make a difference.

You are honest, and you take responsibility for your own faults. You are funny, although your sense of humor is rarely understood. But a few special people understand it, and by god, they think your funny. YOU ARE. They also think your fabulous, and eccentric, and interesting, and smart, and kind, and all other amazing things. And, YOU ARE. You are all those things. You are a complex human being, full of faults and amazingness, and you are a one in a million girl. Your entire life people have told you that you are special. You resist against it, out of fear.

BUT YOU ARE.

LOVE
ME

[vikta]

Dear Vik

Please don't give up on yourself again... It is never too late to fix things. Don't you want to see your son get married and have his own children?

You're intelligent and you try to be the best person you can be. You have great integrity
and honesty. You don't give enough credit to yourself. You have a beautiful soul.

Love always,

Me.

This is hard to do... Fishys, you should have heard the negatives I was adding in my head after each sentence.

[Bobolah]

Dear lovely Sonia,

I don't know how to begin to tell you how wondeful you are. You are so beautiful, inside and out. Your talent, inteligence, and compassion amaze me on a daily basis. You have accomplished so much in your short time on earth so far, it is just incredible. You are such a loving person; I don't klnow how you fit so much love into your soul, but it pours so openly and freely, and I am in awe. I am so grateful that you are in my life. You are so unbelievably special, so unique, so beautiful inside and out. I count my blessings every day that you are here with me.

You don't give yourself enough credit when credit is due. Please know that you are such an amazing, beautiful, sweet, smart, funny, perfect woman. You are all a person could ask for and more. When you look at yourself in the mirror take a deeper look and you will see what I see....a GREAT human being who is an angel right here on earth.

I love you. I always have. I always will. No matter what.

Love always,

Sonia
:lubdub

[balletlover]

Dear Sam,

You are a beautiful person inside and out. Your love and concern for others is what makes you so special and even if some people do not see that yet, they will. You are smart and it's ok to say so. You may not be able to change the actions of those around you, but you can change the way you react to them. Just remember that Mom does love you, even if it doesn't always seem like it. Being yourself is ok; no one is perfect and you don't have to be either. It's ok to fall, just get back up again. You deserve to be happy just like everyone else.

Love,
Your Biggest Fan

[crispysugar]

Dear Cristina:

You can make anyone smile or laugh. You have such a great personality that brings out the best in other people. You always know how to give support to other people, when they are confused or just curious about something. This is a very special quality because there are a lot of people who don't know how to do that.
You are very smart and organized- the strides you have made in being organized are really amazing. You could choose to be very proud for those accomplishments.
Speaking of accomplishments- you never want to let anyone down! You are so responsible with work, school and relationships with others. This is great and makes you a very compassionate and considerate person.

You also have a great love for life and are willing to try many things. Your love for life rubs off on other people and makes them enjoy it just as much. That's why people are drawn to you and want to be around you. You have a wonderful personality and are not afraid to approach people you don't know- you have excellent people skills and know how to use them. People enjoy talking to you because you are so friendly. You smile a lot at others and that makes them want to smile.

Please remember that you have this wonderful toolbox of skills, qualities and LOVE. Don't forget to use it, and use it often! You make this world a better place just simply by BEING YOURSELF.

:sun :love :rainbow Love, Yourself.

[her-own-wings]

To the one (I should!) love,

It makes me so sad when I look at you through my mirror on your down days and I see what I know is not really you. I look at your sunken eyes, your pale skin, your matted hair.. and it makes me cry. I know that you are worth more than this.

You have created miracle after miracle these past few months. You have fought to prove your point; you have proved those that said you couldn't do it wrong. Although for many reasons you have not been able to make it to school, you managed to meet every single deadline and get good grades. You have managed to catch up on work that the average girl your age wouldn't be able to catch up on. You have set yourself goals, dreams. You have planned your future and made realistic steps towards it. You have met many, many people that frequently tell you how much they love and care for you. You have a boyfriend that would do anything in the world for you.. you have a gorgeous, precious boyfriend that talks about his future with you as the main compontent. What does this tell you? You are worth this continuous fight. It will be over soon.

Until then, remember that you are loved. Consider what would happen if you were to die.. consider the hearts that would be broken.

Love always,
Me xxx

[Sunset_Soon]

Dear You,

You are a wonderful person. You appreciate those around you very much even though it might be hard for you to show it. I wanted to tell you that you don't deserve to be going through the tough times you are having right now. I am so proud that you are taking some major steps into discovering what you need to, to be a better, healthier person.

Don't get down on yourself, you are trying your best. You have a good personality filled with humor and sentiment. Your strong will and true heart will guide you into hapiness and you will find peace eventually. Good job on opening up to your friends about your problems and for making that therapist appointment. This year so far has been very tough for you and I am proud of you for not taking it out on your family.

Keep on keepin on

-me

[twinkle_kitty]

Dear Sarah,

Your such a beautiful, creative person. your so openminded and realistic.. you are so understanding and love to help people. :lubdub

i appreciate the fact that you are so open with your feelings. your really learning to be strong and to not be afraid to voice your opinion to others. i really like that you clean the house all the time, your so organized and neat. i really like that you have gained the courage to mend broken relationships and to apologize and forgive the people who hurt you in your past. im so very proud of you!

im looking forward to getting to know the REAL sarah more because you are already so wonderful, unique, & full of spunk.

you have such great qualitites that anyone who meets you is very lucky to have you as a friend. your always laughing and smiling, everyone gravitates towards you since you project such a "sunny" attitude towards everything. you seem to put people in great moods because your laughter is contagious.

your the best! and a very special girl that im so lucky to know :lubdub :lubdub

love, me
xoxo

[imightbeafool]

My Dearest Jennifer;

I know you so well, don't I? Already, you're rolling your eyes because I used your full name up here instead of the commonly used "Jenny" or "Jenn". You think you're in trouble now, no one uses your full name unless you're in trouble, Jennifer, but truthfully, it isn't as bad as you say it is, is it? You're afraid of the name because you're afraid of growing up, but you've already grown up, can't you see that? And that isn't as bad as you say it is, either.

Now you're thinking: I haven't grown up. I'm fifteen years old, I still have so much more to do, so many more places to go... Yes. Indeed, you do. You have so much more to learn, so many more people to meet, so many more experiences to take in. But at fifteen, you're already stronger than anyone else you know. Young for your grade, you're in the top ten percent of your sophomore class and deal with more academic stress than most high school seniors do. Finals are drawing to a close and you're getting to that point of apathy where you don't study as much as you should, but that isn't because you don't care enough to work hard, it's because you care enough to realize that you've been working hard this entire year. You know this. Trust me, you know more than you think you do, so much more than you think you do.

You won't doubt that for the rest of your life, I promise. You won't doubt that forever. You can't. Not with everything you've accomplished, not with everything you've strived for. You sit in your room and call yourself a failure and pinch at skin that means nothing except that you aren't going to die, that you aren't a skeleton. Honey, please. Look around you. How can you be a failure when you've gotten through so much?

For one, your writing is incredible. Sure, you can hide pages upon pages of handwritten dialogues from friends who want to compliment you or see what you waste your time on, and you can hide your face when your teacher reads your work aloud to the class, and you can mutter, "It sucks, I haven't edited it yet, It's on it's first draft, Some of the words aren't right," as much as you want, but that doesn't change the fact that you've got a skill, girl. You've got a skill that is going to get you farther in life than knowing how to graph sine curves freehanded or how to determine the pH of one mole of sodium hydroxide. You were published in the Long Island Press as a freshman. There it was, your article, your face, your name there, and they don't just do that for nobodies. You know that. Your English teacher gave you a hundred on your latest story and told you to continue writing, to never stop writing, and she doesn't just say that to people who try hard, she says that to people who she thinks are going to go far.

Speaking of working hard, I've never known you to do anything different. Don't roll your eyes at me. Don't bring up the nights when you should have been studying but you were listening to music or talking to your boyfriend, and don't bring up the afternoons when you couldn't keep your eyes open in Chemistry, because people need breaks, and you deserve them as much as anyone else. I'm talking about those nights when you studied derivatives until the clock struck midnight and you couldn't keep your eyes open. I'm talking about how you brought your Princeton review book to the school the day of the AP World History exam so you could go over just one more time period, just one more Chinese dynasty. They aren't kidding when they say you're a perfectionist. They aren't kidding when they say you try. You're going to Brown University this summer to further develop your political knowledge and your writing skills for three weeks. You had to apply for that. You had to send a transcript of your grades and teacher reccommendations. They had to look at everything you've done and decide whether or not you're good enough, and they said you were. The people at Brown University decided you're good enough.

That's because you are. You've got a boyfriend who can't keep his hands off you, a best friend who wishes nothing more than to see you happy, and a brother who would jump off of a cliff if you said you'd stop loving him unless he did it. You have three boys right there who think you're amazing, and even if that makes you feel a little weird, a little undeserving, they think so for a reason. You deserve whatever happiness they believe you deserve. You deserve everything they give you, you deserve to be loved and to be loving and to be everything they think you are.

All of that being said, you've got a long journey ahead of you. You're meeting with a therapist for the first time this week, and it's going to be one of the hardest things you've ever done. The road to recovery is opening up for you and I know it's scary, and I know it's terrifying. There are going to be some days when you want nothing more than to reach for a knife or to stick your head in the toilet or to just let yourself starve away to nothing, and there might even be a few days in which you give in to that. There are going to be more secrets, more lies, and more problems than you've ever faced before. But I think you're ready. I think that you're going to fight, but you're going to fight hard. And you're going to beat this demon, this beast of a thing that has taken over your life, and you're going to do it well.

Because you really do deserve it, Jennifer. You really, really do.

Love,
Me.

[DaniSec]

Dear Danielle,

I'm writing to you just to let you know how incredibly kind-hearted and loving you truly are. I know, it's hard for you to let people see that, but I know you are deep down inside.

Yes, you've made some mistakes. But, look where it's gotten you? You wouldn't be here without these mistakes. So, don't beat yourself up about them, instead embrace them and show everyone that from a mistake forms a bud, and as this bud continues to grow, it changes you from the inside out. And that makes you a great person.

Look at you and Dan. You guys have been dating for seven years and are getting married in July! Congratulations! It's a blessing to get that far and get along with someone so well. He's an amazing man, and you are an amazing woman. You both have each other. I know you're worrying about all the plans, and the house, and the BILLS....but don't. It'll all work itself out. You'll pull through.

Danielle, I miss you. The real you. I know she's in there somewhere. You know, the girl that doesn't care what people think about her, and the one who does what she wants to do but at the same time, respecting herself and her mind and her body. She's in there, bring her out. That's the Danielle everyone wants to see. Even though we love the one we see today, we want this part of you now to be just a past memory, and a lesson well-learned, and the other Danielle can come out and flourish from this experience.

Danielle, you're a very caring person. Don't change that. You care about so many things in this world that you can't change. Twist it around and bring it back to caring about you. That's what you need to do right now. You're beautiful, talented, smart, energetic and outgoing, I know you are.

I love you Danielle,

Love, DaniSec:girly

[Valda]

Hey Val.

I've never written a love letter before, so forgive the times I end up cracking a joke to cover my embarressment. You mean a lot to me, and I think it's important you realise that. I don't say it enough.

I love that you are so good at choosing and giving presents. I love that you get more and more fun loving as you get older. I love that you stick to your vegan principles, and that you care enough to do something like that. I love also that you don't ever try to force those principles on any one else, and that you're never squeamish about other people eating meat. I love that you are so thoughtful and considerate of your friends.
I love how you love to learn new things.

You're so good at helping other people through their hard times - I only wish that you could turn this around more often and speak to yourself this way. You so deserve some of that time and attention that you lavish on others. Emotionaly, with your friends and sister, and also at work, you're a really supportive person.

I really admired the way you 'bit your tongue' this weekend, not saying something that you realised might hurt someone who had acted with the best of intentions. I think this took a long of strength, and is a great sign of the ways in which you work hard to improve life for yourself and those around you.

Speaking of strength, it's incredible how hard you worked to get through your depression, and how hard you continue to work to get through your eating disorder. Recognising when you need that extra help and returning to the :bowl is so important for you.

I love you. For being you. I need you to realise that - repeat it to yourself. Go on. Outloud. I dare you :winky. Your work is paying off, and will continue to pay off. Take care of yourself,

:love Valda

[TLC]

Dear Tracy

You are such a couragous person. You choose to stand strong during adversity and fight battles no matter how diffiuclt they are. In spite of the people who have hurt you and tried to bring you down, you have fought and continue to fight to become a stronger, healthier person. When there seem to be no answers in sight and the road seems too long and difficult to travel, you press on and meet the many challenges with grace. You take the circumstances that could have ruined your life and use them to build character that can be used to aid others as they pass down a similiar path in life. Though others have tried to stop you from becoming the strong, beautiful woman you are, you have not given up and continue to look for the answers needed to overcome your battles. Some days you feel weak and defeated, but you are truly a very strong and corageous woman who should be proud of who she has become. You are loving, giving, and caring. Others see so much promise in you , and you can also see this promise if you remove the blinders that have kept the light from breaking through the darkness. You have learned to embrace the frightened child within whom you have been running away from for a very long time. This child is now blossoming into a women that has a promise for a bright future rather than feeling she has nothing to offer this world. This woman is miracleous. She is learning to love herself and recognizing that her imperfections do not define her. She is beginning to chisle away at the wall that has held her captive and kept her from blossoming into the wonderful person God wants her to become. She is forgiving her imperfections and embracing her strengths. She is slowly allowing others to see the beautiful creature she has become and no longer see herself as a monster that she fears. She has realized that she is not alone in her struggles. Others have gone down the difficult road she is traveling, and she is now aiding others as they begin this journey. While she does not know what lies ahead, she has hope for her future and knows she will continue to grow in character and strength. She accepts that she will have long, dark days and will survive these days. She knows the road will often be rocky and long, but she is determined to press on toward the victory. She will stumble and fall. At times she will need to be carried. At other times, she will stand strong. She will even have times when she will be able to carry others with her. While she does not know what her future holds, but she know who holds her. She is being guide by a loving Lord, who will never leave her or hurt her regardless of her choices. Knowing she will never be alone, she can accept what lies ahead. Yes, she has fears and doubts, but she still knows that brighter, more beautiful days lie ahead and that throughout whatever comes her way she will triumph and become the beautiful creature she is meant to become. Precious one, know you are loved, love yourself, and pass this love to others along the way.

Tracy

[theunlikelynominee]

Oh my darling girl, Eliza,

I am so proud of you. You really are a fighter, and I know you're working so hard to push us out of this dark place. I know it's a struggle, but you're so strong. Keep up your admirable faith and hope- you'll pull through with flying colors, as always!

I am overjoyed to see you starting to give yourself credit. Keep beating back those mongering thoughts that tell you that you don't deserve to revel in what you've accomplished. Embrace yourself, hold yourself up for all that you've done. You merit the praise one hundred fold!

Look at you, you hard worker! You're doing so much, every single day! Life is a balancing acting, but you're just like anybody else. We all stumble, we all fall. But you're so beautiful, you just keep getting back up.

Be patient with yourself and your body, sweetheart. Maybe this injury is a signal you need to slow down. You need to account for yourself, for your emotions, for you before going anywhere else. Start treating your body like the temple of God it's supposed to be.

Keep turning it over to Him, love, He's never ever let you down, and he's never ever going to.

I love you- no conditions whatsoever. Just as you are every single millisecond of every single day. Don't forget it! Keep being GORGEOUS, girl.

I LOVE YOU,

Eliza.

[anonymouscaller]

you suffocate your eyes in puffy white clouds of sadness soaking up your sorrows. but it keeps on raining. a box of tissues can't soak up the sky. stop crying. you can't waste away like this on these harsh cold tiles every night. you're going to drown one day and no one will even know it.

[guiltyangel]

To Stacey,

First and foremost, remember how much you are loved. No matter what happens, your family and friends love you. That's not going to change. And do you know why they love you? Because you are friendly and kind and thoughtful and you make them happy. You have a positive influence on their lives.

You have grown and changed so much in the last three years. For the better. You know yourself. You are surrounded by friends. Everything's good with your family. You are being watched over and looked after all the time. There is never a point when you are alone in the world. Everyone has such confidence in you-have some of that confidence in yourself.

I know that things are difficult for you at the moment and you feel unsettled and insecure but you are so strong. You can do this. Believe in yourself and smile that beautiful smile and all will be OK in the end. You know that things always work themselves out for the best so trust in that.

I love you implicitly. As do a lot of other people. You are beautiful and smart and reliable and successful and a great friend. Don't ever forget these things.

Love always. x x x x

[Damian]

Dear Sarah,
You're awesome!!!! You're funny and witty and love to make ppl laugh. You're sensitive and really only care about making ppl happy. While that may be one of your flaws, trying to help ppl instead of yourself, if thats the worst there is you're doing pretty good. You're assertive and are a good leader. You're friends often come to you for advice and trust the advice you give them. You stand up for what is right and don't take crap from ppl. You're silly and like to snuggle and play twister, while you can't do all those things at once taking the time to enjoy them all in their time makes you great. You're ability to enjoy the little arbitrary tasks, such as running errands, makes you special. Its empowering that you enjoy your alone time and don't need the company of others all the time. You are strong, mentally and physically, having both those assets in combination with sensitivity is very special and not all ppl have those qualities. I love you, you're as perfect as God intended humans to be, which includes your flaws.

[just_me]

Dear me, :gimmehug

Have I ever told you that I love you? I know its hard to see it sometimes and you wonder if its there at all but I truly and passionately love you. I think you're awesome. I love you when you smile and laugh, I love you when you're sad or depressed. I love you when you're lonely. I want to reach out to you and give you the biggest hug ever. I even love the parts of yourself you're ashamed off. I even love your typos. I love your mind, I love your body, I love your heart. I love the whole of you. You have so much to give and offer to the world... to the people around you. I love who you were, who you are and who you will become. You are uniquely you. You know I love you, right? Just remember that my love.

xxxxxxx :gimmehug

[The Becoming]

The Becoming

You've come a long way, sweetie. You have done it! I am really proud of how you continue to listen to your higher self, to challenge yourself and work to change your wiring so you can approach life with more love, more self-acceptance. It has taken a lot of courage and determination. You really are a good girl. Remember to Be. Just Be. Its really okay to just be you. Try it on for size. Keep stepping back from things and take a more Zen approach. you don't have to get it all right all the time. The sky won't fall. You'll find that you are actually like a beautiful garden that others come and enjoy, full of riches and treasures, surprises; thorns, fruit, fairies and flowers. You are not the barren, dry and unkempt soil you fear you are. Body, Mind and Spirit - work to balance these parts. Watch that ole sneaky ED approach to being in the world. Now you know its a signal for more love, more self-acceptance, more nurturing, more letting go. You are going to be fine. More than fine. You are going to be fantastic. Yours is a life worth living.

With love
TLCxx

[freisianfreak]

I just wanted to take a moment to tell you that I know you are struggling with a lot these days, and the past few years have been a living hell. I think the fact that you survived all the suffering and death all around you is testament to the spirit. Through it all you maintained your sense of humor and you ability to be supportive to people around you even as your world was coming apart. I wish I could have done more to help you myself as I know you went through so much alone without enough love or encouragement from me. For that I'm truly sorry.

And now you are once again feeling down and discouraged as life isn't turning out the way you'd hoped once your parents died. I know you never planned to give up your own life to be a caregiver to others. Things must seem so bleak sometimes. But you somehow manage to keep going, and haven't given up on yourself or others. Again, you are showing me again how strong and amazing you are.

I hope that someday you are able to see the person that I see, rather than the poor image that you were given by those who raised you. You are a kind and loving person despite what happened to you, and I'll always be proud of that.

[abbybelle]

Dear Abbybelle,
Hi beautiful. I know you have been through a lot over this past year. And I just want you to know I see the struggles you have been facing, and I am proud of you for chosing to recover. I know it's hard and I know it's a daily battle. I know that it isn't easy, but I want you to know recovery is worth it.
I am tired of you hating and belittling yourself, and I want you to be kinder to yourself and your body. You have so many things going for you, but your ED is destroying your soul and your body. You are so smart, so creative and your ED is preventing you from accomplishing everything you want to do. You can do anything... ANYTHING! You just have to believe in yourself and give yourself time to get better. You didn't get into this overnight, and it won't be over quickly either.
You need to be kinder and gentler with yourself. I hear the things you tell yourself, and it does nothing but bring you down. You are such an outgoing, funny, endearing person, and you need to treat yourself how you treat others. You have to take your control and your life back. You are such a determined, strong person. You have beat other demons and this one, you can beat this one too. You just need to pray and have faith in God to bring you through this time in your life. One day you will look back at this day, and you will say, Look how I've grown. Remember that you are not a victim. Take the power back and realize that God has a plan and there is a reason you went through this. You may not know exactly what it is, but time will reveal all.
You are beautiful, engaging, smart, loving, funny, friendly and you have that 'something.' ;) Believe in yourself again.
Love, Abbybelle

[crimsonbutterfly]

Dear Tarah,
I have so much to say to you :) First of all I want to say how proud I am of you becuse you have gone through so much in your life! You are a survivor of every type of abuse and two assaults. You have survived a horrible abusive marriage to now being with a wonderful, loving husband! You were able to get therapy and reach out for much needed support! You were even able to get rid of your fake friends and make new genuine friends! I am also proud that you are back in school and accomplishing so much and getting closer to your goal :) You should be very proud of yourself and your strength! You have become a totally different person and have changed alot for the better! You are smart, funny, nice, helpful, kind, and turning into a great woman! I know you are having a rough time because you are dealing with issues and trying to recover. I am there for you and will give you all the support and love you need! You can get better and continue to make a great life for yourself :) Surround yourself with positive people and love and know that things will get better!

love,
tarah

[Pisces_Girl]

Dear Pisces,

You are a precious human being, a unique and wonderful individual, I love you and I want only the best for you. You deserve happiness and joy every day, nothing gives me greater pleasure than to hear you laugh and see you enjoy yourself among your friends and family. I want that for you every day of your life. I want you to know and understand and TRULY BELIEVE that you are a precious young woman surrounded by people who love and care for you.

You give to other people and you defend those you love with so much more than you defend yourself. I love your stubborn nature, it's what keeps you focused on your goals; your achievements in the things that matter speak for themselves and you have the potential to do and be anything you dream of, because when you put your mind to something, you don't give in until you get there. If you could channel that quality towards big dreams it would be wonderful.

I want to get to know you better, to understand your emotional side, because you let it show but you won't let anyone in who might help you to understand what is going on inside you. You put on a brave face and show sunshine to the world and that is lovely, but I would love to get to know the darker side as well, because I am sure there is much to cherish and nurture there, to help lift some of the darkness and make that brave face a reality.

Love from
Pisces.

[kandymouse]

I haven't written to you at all and it seems very hard to write this as I don't know where to start. I love you so much because you are naughty, fun loving, smiley, people loving sweetheart. You make everyone feel special and you can with one wink, make wonders, like magic. And also for becoming a mother recently. Your little girl must love you so much and you should be so proud of yourself who you are and don't overlook yourself. Give yourself cuddles and mental bubbles because you are worth it.

[daisychain]

Dear L-L,

I am really sorry for all that you have been through. No one deserves to be abandoned, invalidated, neglected or ignored the way you have been. I know everything is confusing. I know you are doubting yourself so much right now. I know that you are doubting life and people right now. I know you are tired but this is not the time to lie down and give up. This is the time that you need to fight with everything you've got for your own life. And you will because you are so strong... you are a fighter. You have so much to live for. You have so much to give this world.

You are such a special individual. You have heart, you have soul, you have depth. You question the things that some people do not have the courage to question all their lives. You refuse to live life on the surface. You desire true connection with others. You make people laugh, you make people smile, but most importantly, you make people question the world, their lives and themselves. You help people introspect. You help people question and think deeply. That is a really powerful ability that is going to send you far in your career.

You are intelligent, deep thinking, analytical, articulate, kind, caring, compassionate, passionate, genuine, witty, powerful, intuitive, emotionally aware, influential, unique, sensitive, lovely, beautiful, sincere, argumentative, authentic. Your smile lights up a room. People always say how happy your smile makes them. You are an amazing friend to others. You are there for people when they need you. And you deserve to have others there for you also.

You care deeply about others. You care about the planet. And deep down, you care so much about your body and your health. Don't throw it all away to get acknowledged by others... in order to discover that you matter. They will never acknowledge you. But you need to acknowledge you. You matter so incredibly much... more than you will ever know. You are so loveable. I know your experience with others, does not make you feel loveable, but start to see it is because of their limitations and not a reflection of your worth, value, or degree of lovability.

You have such an ability to help others. I know you just want to be cared for right now, but all that you want from others, is right there inside you. I know you feel so alone right now. I know your parents have gone travelling in Europe, your friends care only about themselves, your brother and sister are too caught up in their own lives and your boyfriend has abandoned you so many times when he shouldn't have, and they all know how much you are struggling. I know it seems absurd and impossible that this is not a reflection on you. But you have to believe that this has nothing to do with you. It is completely them and it is their loss that they do not value or care about you more. You have to stay strong sweetie, muster the strength, hold your head up high and don't let anyone make you feel that you are not important, that you do not deserve love or care, or that you not do deserve to be on this earth as much as the next person. xxxxxxxxxxxx

:turtle:penguin:butterfly:bunny:bear:rat:peep:bug

[plantpot]

Dear me,
I think you should know how strong you really are you've been through so much and you still keep on fighting. Your kindness is amazing you're always willing to forgive others because you know that everyone makes mistakes and you can only learn from them, when will you learn to forgive yourself because it wasn't your fault. I really wish you'd stop blaming yourself there was nothing you could've done. I know what happened wasn't right and it wasn't fair but you have to keep going because things will get easier and things will better. Your smile really does light up the room you shouldn't be afraid to use it because not everyone will take avantage of you, honestly not all men are the same you've just got to have faith in finding a nice one. I know you push people away to protect them not only yourself but them aswell but I think once in awhile you should let someone in because you never know they might just do something like surprise you! Sometimes you need to let people go, I know you love him but that doesn't mean he deserves you. Your special and wonderful and if he can't see that its his loss I know it hurts but sometimes its better to get all the pain out of the way than let it drag on. I just want you to remember than what ever happens you do deserve love you do deserve to be happy and you will be.
lots of love
me xx

[images]

This is a very good one. Thank you.

Dear Images,

Hold on girl, it will be okay. I am here to for you. I promise, any time you need me for a hug or to listen just call- no guilt at all.

I can see how hard you are trying. The stupid food, the interaction, the exposure it shows you are pushing bravely. I want to help you feel better. Those horridable nights, moments, and days when your grown body disgusts you, when you are drowning in self hate, or when life is to overwhelming- I will take you in my wings and softly carry you away.

Many people say compliments about you. Your Dad says your pretty, your grades say your smart, and your dear friends from inpatient say you are a sweet sweet doll.

I know all your life you have been dreaming of an angel, a genuine, compassionate, caring person to notice you and think you are special and to want to take care of you. I am here for you now. I will not judge you, alienate you, degrade you, or ever make you feel worthless. You are lovable and I want to love you. I am choosing to.

With love always,
Images

.... I guess that wasn't exactly how it was supposed to be, I will rework it on a different day.

[somenobody.]

&$*@)$@,
You are the most understanding person I know. I love how you know whats going on, and why. You really are wise beyond your years, you've seen so much and you've gotten stronger from it. You are very "real." You have really beautiful hazel/green eyes, and really nice lips. You can always make me laugh, and your such a deep thinker it amazes me. I understand its the hardest time of your life and you think so hard your own thoughts confuse you. I understand the moods you get in where you need to do something bad. I get that you are losing a lot right now and you want to go somewhere you won't lose anyone. I want to hug you the days when your so overwhelmed and you just want to kill yourself. I know you want help, and I can't really help you no matter how hard I try. Do I even want to? I hear what people say about you, your the druggie, the wicked slut, the liar, the thief, you can't trust her, the lonely one, "that girl pukes everything up." she's so ugly. I know you carry yourself with confidence but your dying on the inside, its okay. It'll get better, I know your messing up now. I know you've been messing up. I'll be here for you though. I will always be here.
Much love, Much hate,
&$)@*$%@

[Girasole]

Dear Stefy,

I am writing this letter to let you know that you are loved. Yes, you are. I know for you it might be difficult to understand this, or to believe it, but it's true. I just have a hard time expressing and showing my love to you, because as you know I've always been very timid and introvert, but I want to open up more, because you deserve to be loved, you deserve to feel loved.

I know I'm making you go through something you don't deserve, and it's my responsibility to fix it. Please believe that I'm trying my best to understand me more, and understand what is going on.

Said that I really want to start telling you why you are so important to me, and why I love you.

You are special. You are unique in every way, because you are an individual. You try hard to solve problems and make people around you happy. You care about them very much and you should be proud of it, because it means you are a very caring and loving person, and I am sure you will reach your goal, which is showing your love to people. I know it won't be that easy, but you are strong, and I know you don't give up easily, so you will win the battle with yourself.

You are beautiful. You should see yourself as I see you. You are a beautiful person, inside and outside. Being in your company is so amazing, because you are funny and make people laugh. You are always ready for a joke, a laugh and a meeting with old friends. You are full of energy and you use this to help others and it really is a special gift. You are always in even for just a movie and a pizza, or for a talk while walking. You don't care what you will be doing with your friends, just being with them is important to you.

You study hard at University and you should be proud of yourself, I really am proud of you. You always try your best, and this is great, because it means you are ready for challenges, to see where and what you can do.

I really wish to get to know you better, because I already love every single thing about you and can't wait to discover all the rest, which I'm sure it's just as beautiful.
I am trying to know you better every day and if you'll let me, I think we could really be friends. I want to know the real you, the one that is deep inside and always hides. I want to see how wonderful that person is and how much her light is bright. It could be compared to the sun, the flowers which open up as they grow. I think you could be compared to a sunflower, for its brightness, beauty, strenght and its courage in following the sun wherever it goes throughout the day. It knows that there is light, that is the right path, and I'm sure it's not easy, but just like a sunflower who follows the sun, you follow your path, the path that will bring you happiness, real happiness, light and love. You are so brave to follow it even if it's so difficult, because it would be easier to just don't care anymore, instead you do, you challenge yourself, you know this is the right thing to do.

You deserve so much and I promise you to help you reach everything you wish from your life, because you are special and I love you.

Stefy

[aheartwellcaredfor]

Dearest friend (that's me),

There is so much I would like to tell you, so much I feel about you, that I just never get around to saying. Wow, just the thought of actually writing this to you, Kristen, has my eyes awash with tears. I can barely see the words on the page but I can sure feel them in my heart.

First of all...I love you. I love you Kristen. You are the strongest person I know and you are without a doubt deserving of the deepest, most cherished love. I appreciate so much about you. You really care about your family, your husband and children. They mean everything to you and it shows. You are such a good wife and a good mother especially considering the parental examples you had to endure growing up. You just keep fighting, you know. I don't often know how you do it but you just keep rolling with the punches and I know you get hurt and get knocked down but you get your bearings and you bounce right back up again.

I'm so incredibly proud of you for standing up to your mom and dad that final time almost **** years ago. I still can't believe you did it. I can't believe you stood up to them and told after your dad assaulted you. I know that was so very difficult for you, the hardest thing you had to do in life. But you put that aside and you did the RIGHT thing. You are a woman...a strong woman. I'm so proud of you for overcoming the fear you had of your parents. I don't know anyone else who has done what you were able to do and be okay on the other side of it. You amaze me.

You are beautiful. I know you don't feel like it. But you are beautiful. No one can take that from you. You've just got beauty in your soul and those who know you the best can see it shine so brightly.

I'm proud of you for taking pictures and letting others, even people you aren't so close to, see your photography. You are a true photographer, although I know you'll balk at that point too. The child in you comes out when you take pictures...and I dearly love the child in you.

I'm so blessed to have you in my life and I love you so much.

Kristen.

[chazz]

Dear Chelsey,

This week has been hard, this month has been hard, this year has been hard, but you're still pulling through each day. Because of that, I want to remind you why you're special.

You may not have many friends now, but the ones you have are there to stay. You've helped most of them through a lot and they all love you for it. This is what makes you feel good in return. You want that happiness, not more friends.

You are strong, stronger than you were **** years ago. You've grown so much and while things kind got out of control, everything has made you the person you are today. A loving, caring, crazy girl.

I am so proud of you. Keep on growing and loving and the world will do the same to you!

Love, Me

[purplelight]

This is hard for me but I want to give it a try!

Dear Light,

Life has always been extremely difficult for you and you have continued to use crutches that you needed a long time ago. I love you and I am proud of you for wanting to break these bonds that keep you from growing up and obtaining the happiness you deserve.

You are always thinking about other people and that makes you happy which is ok but I happy that you are learning how to take better care of yourself , to learn to love yourself

You are passionate about loving others and life. Be passionate about loving yourself, and continue to have passion in life, including discovering new things that you have hidden yourself from.

I know that you are scared about getting close to anyone. That is normal from your past, but what I hope for you is to overcome that fear and develop some healthy relationships and allow yourself to not only develop skills in that area but to believe that it is possible. Think about the kinds of relationships that you want, the people you want to be around and then go after it!

I know that you feel overwhelmed right now, that is normal. You sometimes feel like you have to just know things, to be perfect or others will not like you. Somehow you go the idea that you have to do it all in order to be worthy. I am here to tell you that you are worthy, whether you believe it or not right now. Mistakes are part of being human and that is the only place to really fit in- the human race. It is impossible to be perfect and all knowing so give yourself a break and quit fighting that so hard. You are ok right where you are.

I know that you are frustrated with your progress but you have shown over many years that you are a fighter and you will win this battle too. Take it one step at a time and reward yourself for accomplishments. You do have them.

I love the you that I know exists somewhere deep down, even though there is a bunch of junk on top which seals you in. Don't worry, the layers will peel off and you will see more and more of who you are and why you are loveable. In the meantime, accept it.

I am proud for you and of you for the progress you have made. You will get through this and see your dreams come true.

Love,
Me

[hockeygirl]

Dear Me,

I know you have been struggling lately, so I wanted to write you a note to tell you how special you are. You are a loving, intelligent, and strong woman. These are just a few of the qualities that I admire about you. Although you are sometimes hard on yourself, you never give up and always seek a better life for yourself. You make mistakes, but make a point of learning a lesson from those experiences. You are very thoughtful and generous with your time and energy. At this moment, you may not feel it, but you are loved by so many.

Take care of yourself.

I love you.

[Lisacam]

Dear Me, I'm glad to hear your getting back on track again, don't get disheartened when things go wrong, try to shrug it off, we all hit low's sometimes, it' just a part of life...
You are worth it, you are a good mother who love's her children dearly,
You are a good partner who try's to be loving....
You have a very special knack of mixing business ideas together,
You always help when friends or aunties need you.
Try not to retreat to your bed again darling, you are too good to waste your life under a duvet.
I love you loads and loads you are o worth it.
Phew I fel like crying!!!!!!!!

[torixo]

Dear Tori, I know at times things seem rough, and you get so discouraged. The thing is, it hurts me to see you hurting. You are beautiful inside and out, try not to let the cruelty of this world bog you down. You care so much about others, it's time for someone to say they care about you. Look how far you've come, it's a helluva long way! Keep your head up, and smile... you look beautiful when you're happy.:gimmehug

[logden]

Dear Me,

You are a fabulous friend and a wonderful daughter. You make your boyfriend really happy. You are strong and optimistic. You are very creative and passionate. You are graceful. You have good taste and most importantly, a good heart.

Love,
Me

[owl]

Amnie,
You are life- and you are a creation of God- you are loved- you have always been and always will be unconditionally loved by your creator- you have always been and always have had a place inside of you that is able to give and recieve love- that is how God made you and all of creation. But, right now this is about you and your creator- God has blessed you with the ability to see the beauty and feel love for others- but this isn't what this post is about it's about finding that in you. One of your gifts is hope- you are full of hope despite the years of pain and struggle that you've been through- you can look back at the pain you felt as a child and not regret that b/c that helped you to be more compassionate and empathetic and made you a part of who you are- the devil wants you to hold onto the lies- trying to fill your head with thoughts like you are clumpsy, "ugly betty", stupid- a laughable joke, and a hopeless wreck- but that isn't the TRUTH - so I declare right now devil those are lies and I will no longer listen to those lies- I am a divine princess- I am a part of God's family- my father is the father of all creation- and he created you and gave you the opportunity to love and you rejected that I declare that I won't be like you devil- my father bought me with a price- he shed his own blood- he is my prince and he saved me- he saved me from your lies, he saved me from addiction and all the chains of bondage- although I confess this is frusterating- I remember feeling so much pain in the past as a little girl and you kow what I got through it- and I don't regret it because I have an eternal gift that I got through the cross I beared as a child- I got the gift of compassion and love- my father has this amazing divine ability to turn anything that is bad and evil and use it for my good and the good of others- he can use is for divine good- and I praise him for that- I am not afraid to look into my past or future because I have a good God- he is more than good and his goodness will surpass all that I go through. God lives in me- he gave me his holy spirit- which is free for all to have if they truely want it- and I accpet that and will choose to let it guide me. Thank-you God for my strenght and for who you made me- I am an admirable strong women and will someday be a great witness of your love when I am healthier- and in your perfect timing.

[owl]

Amnie- I forgive you I forgive you for what you did last night we will get through today and we will treat your body like the body of truth- your body is the body of a princess and today and from here on out I will treat it and you that way- lets give you a healthy bowel, healthy smile, healthy skin and everything- you deserve to look your best and be your best- God gave it to you as a gift and it's time to use it- I know your tummy hurts poor baby- it's gonna get better- you are growing patient and even more full of hope and faith in the waiting process- you are even stronger- there is hope and it's not up to you to feel it on your own- that is what God is here for to fill you with hope and all the fruits of the spirit love, joy, peace, mercy, grace, kindness, goodness, and yes temperance- God has given you the gift of self control -you just have to find it with in you. It won't be like this forever- you will grow- ou are growing and you will move on from this- trust in God's word and in his truth- I love you sweetie and I am proud of you- you had a hard day yesterday- fainiting- kinda scary might fill you wiht doubt- pray God is there and is here he is with you everywhere- remember that day you did have- so you slept in but you awoke with energy- I was so happy for you and so proud of you- and so praising and thankful to God- you can connect with him again like that - and be at peace- you will find it

[wakingupkk]

Dear KK,
You are such a strong beautiful woman. You've come so far in life and you still have so far to go. I can't wait to see the things you'll get in to. Never forget how truly loved you are. You are a child of God and no one will ever be able to take that away from you... not even you. There is nothing you can't do.

[fruityorangepeel]

Dear Keesh,
I just wanted to write to tell you how much I love and appreciate you. You're such a sweet, caring person with a wonderful, inviting smile. I love how you accept everyone and want to help everyone. You're a faith filled person and I wanted to let you know that you are very inspiring. I love your wavy hair, and your hyper personality, and zany sense of humor. I love how you work hard to achieve the things you want to do, and that you never give up though the times may be rough. I love how strong, how persistent you are, how much of yourself you're willing to give to others. I love how mmuch you value other people and how much you value animals and your family. I love how you love to take photos and how you love to travel. You're such a friendly, warm person, and I just wanted to let you know that I love you. You are so sooo loved and valued. Always remember that.
Love,
Keesh:gimmehug

[nikki_d]

Dear Nikki
I know sometimes you find this really hard to accept in your heart even though you know it in your head, but I want to say that you are a good person and you deserve to get out of this. I want to tell you that you make many people around you happy not because of what you can do (although you do well academically and in your job etc.) but because of who you are as a person and the problems you have merely take that away and stop you seeing yourself as you are.
You are a good person and I know people have hurt you but it is about them not about you and I want to tell you that you are good enough and deserve to feel happy.
I wish you would get better because I don't want you to lose any more time than you already have on this pain and that you could have some time free of all this hurt and aching.
You are kind to people around you, you think of them and you are passionate about life. You are creative and you want to be a good person for others and for God. You want to make a difference in this life and you wouldn't hurt anyone. You are forgiving even of those who have hurt you. You protect everyone around you. I wish you would start to look after yourself and know that God is saying, no child not this way, because He loves you too but that ultimately only you can help yourself. And know that I am giving you permission to do so.
With love, sorrow that it has hurt so much, hugs and hope
xx

[monarch_butterfly]

dear butterfly,

i am so pleased and happy that you are healing. take time to give yourself self-care and love. don't rely on prince charming to come and sweep you off your feet. you are too big for fairy tales now. don't doubt yourself. you are pretty tough inside. you have been through hell that nobody knows about or would understand. take it one day at a time. you tend to worry a lot. don't put the cart before the horse. you are sweet, caring, and beautiful. you are also smart. you're a good writer. keep at it!

xxooxxx

[FedUpGirl]

Ahhh, I've been avoiding this one. I want to go in numerical order so this one is next though.

Dear A,

I thought you could use a little encouragement as you embark on this new journey. I've never really taken the time to tell you how much I appreciate you. You have a fun sense of humour that makes other people laugh. You are tactful and take other people's feelings into consideration before speaking or acting. Since you read some obscure news websites, you usually have a unique story to share with others. You're a good listener. I admire how practical you are and you have a good head full of common sense on your shoulders. And when others come to you for encouragement, you can always see the positive side of their dilemma. I hope that you can see how many wonderful qualities you have and begin to treat yourself with the same compassion that you give to others. You are a woman of faith and you believe that everyone is unique and that God created us for a certain purpose. I hope that you will be able to find your purpose so you can stop searching and start living. I wish you well on your journey.

Love, A

[MjTTmh]

Dear T,
You are the only one in my life whom I can trust and depend on. You can do anything as long as you find the courage inside you to pull through. You are strong, even when you feel you are not, because you know your weaknesses and you know your flaws. The next step after admittance is acceptance. Accept yourself for you who are and let yourself out of the shell you have locked yourself in for so long. Yes, you will have people who don't necessarily like you, but as long and You like yourself, they will respect you. If you keep yourself safe from harm locked up so tight, you will never experience true happiness. You will stay in the same cycle. So, T, it is okay for you to let your true self show because it is more beautiful than you can see.

You have a wonderful, loving boyfriend who is there for you one hundred percent. Let him into your world and do not try to push him away. When you feel like you don't deserve him or when you feel like you should hide from everyone, remember that he loves you. That's right, someone CAN love you, and he does. You also have a loving family. Do not get caught up in trying to be everything for them. They love you no matter what, even when you have hit rock bottom. They know you and love you for who you are and they do not expect you to be perfect. Only you do, so stop putting those expectations there for yourself. You are surrounded by people who love you even when you feel alone.

One last thing, T, I love you. Stop hurting yourself because you are all I have. You need to start caring about your well-being because you know that if something were to happen to you, everyone around you would be devastated. I know our relationship has had it's ups and downs, but in the end, you know that you are my one true love. You can be honest with me. Tell me how you feel and I will listen. Take a break from your day to talk to me, because we can get through this together. I love you.

Love,
T

[Ulyssessgirl]

Dear Ulyssessgirl,

You are a very special person... a unique individual who has long deserved this love letter! :love I want you to know that I think you are funny, kind, curious, insightful, and bright. You have so many other wonderful qualities too! You really need to know that you are loved and cared for... even when YOU don't think so. I wish you could see yourself the way that I see you... someone who deserves the very best in life!
My wish for you is to recover from Bulimia and never look back. You have far too much potential inside of you.

Lots of love,

Ulyssessgirl

[cherimari]

dear mari,

no matter what, i will always love you just the way you are.. imperfections and all.

[marikka]

Dear me,

Despite what you may think, you are a great girl. You are smart, athletic and very ambitious! Everyone knows you will always give your greatest effort in everything you do, especially running=]

You are a very generous and kind girl. I have seen you go to the end of the earth and back just to help others who need you. And even through all the arguments and breakups, I want you to know you will ALWAYS have people that love you and will be willing to help you.

You are a beautiful girl, with gorgeous curly blond hair and hazel eyes, so dont let anyone (including yourself) tell you differently. You are beautiful inside and out and i love you for who you are. So dont ever let anything or anyone change who you really are.

Please STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF and keep smiling! You have a very bright future ahead of you, so take good care of yourself and dont let anything get in the way of your dreams!


Love, Me.

[anksmom]

This one is very hard....I will give it my best

Dear Jen-Jen

You have the ability to make anyone smile when you do....your smile brightens up anyone's day. You always make me laugh and you leave my face hurting from laughing so much...you have a great sense of humor. You are such a giving and caring person and I know that you don't see that just yet but God works through you and he has given you many gifts such as your talent of writing, your gift of motherhood and your gift of your healing hands when you massage others to help them. You really underestimate your healing touch. You always put others first but its ok because I know God will reward you for all your good deeds even if others on Earth won't. Just be humble and keep on smiling. You really are a great friend...always there to listen and sometimes speak when needed. Your friends really appreciate you more than you will ever know....they just don't have the words to express their true feelings. God is going to continue to work through you so don't give up and know that I love you.

Love,
Jen-Jen

[SolaceSC]

Dear Sol,

It's been a while since we last kept in touch. I know that we haven't been on speaking terms since we last met and went through our prior differences, but I wanted to express my deepest concerns, but also my truest admiration for your strength during your struggles. I'm sorry for not giving you enough credit in our times together and so I hope I can make up for a part of that mistake by writing this.

There was always the glimmer of hope and confidence that you brought out in people. There was the strength you saw in yourself and in others, regardless of who they were or where they came from. You always were a genuine person who never wanted to mask the real personality with each conversation. With each new challenge which came about, you knew there was a way to handle it. Radical things always excited you and the spark lit within you always could inspire others. People have always looked up to you and knew you were someone they could turn to for help. You have always loved others without wanting to hold back. You always knew that relationships were always about giving to others and never taking. Without a lasting feeling with substance, you knew that it was not something truly worth feeling. Only the deepest things sink in for you and fleeting moments are too easily forgotten.

I only know of one person like this and that is you. These are no lies and I hope that you know that too. Please don't forget these words. I know there is a fear of letting others down, but fear has no place here anymore. It doesn't have a place for you and nothing else will keep you from being who you are. You've done so much already and you can do so much more than anyone can possibly fathom. Remember these words. Remember me. Remember those who love you. Remember yourself. Those are my thoughts to you, and never forget that I will always be here for you. I still love you and I want you to know that. There have been times when that called for second guessing, but please there isn't a need for an appeal or critique for that. I'm sorry if there has been some misunderstanding in the past, but let us make a new beginning.

We cannot change what has already happened, but we can change what will happen in the next minutes, the next hour, and tomorrow. Please heed my request to attain what you've also sought for so long. The return to normalcy and peace which was there so long ago. We can work together to find our common ground and work to build a better future. I want you to know that and I know that you can do all of these things because I've seen you do it before. We can have a normal life again and I want you to know that I want to help create that with you. Please keep in touch Sol, I want to see you again.

Love,
Sol

[MartyCaseyFan]

Dear Becky,

You are an amazing person. You should never let anyone tell you otherwise. You are talented and you have a darn good singing voice. You deserved the role of the reverend mother in the sound of music and you did a great job with it! Everyone ate it up with a spoon!

At times you feel less fortunate than others, but you actually have it pretty good right now. You're out for the summer and you're going to Peru and California in a little under two weeks, you have the best boyfriend in the world who loves you more than anything and tells you you're beautiful.

You also write amazing stories. I love Rock Star Dreams. It's a beautiful story and you worked so hard on it. You try so hard on things and as your father told you, it's better to try and fail than to not try at all.

Love,
Becky

[wallflwr]

Dear Katherine,

It makes me so sad that you always feel like you've lost yourself.
You've always been the same. You never got 'un-creative' and you never became ugly.
You never stopped being a good friend or a good person.
You never stopped being smart or insightful. Why do you think that all these things left?
You know you've been lovely this whole time.
You haven't changed, your identity has not gone anywhere,
and it certainly isn't defined by your problems.
I love you, even if you don't believe me, and I know you've been hurt,
but I'm here for you, and there's still a few people who care.
Don't forget about the people who make you feel good,
and don't forget that you are a wonderful person,
and you haven't changed.
You are still a good person.
Please remember this.

I love you. I know you don't believe me. Please try.

[WendyClear]

Dear Carly,

You do a lot for others. Not everyone would give their boyfriend breakfast every morning and drive him around when he decided to fix his car for two weeks. You are always there for your friends when they need you. You try very hard for everyone else to be happy. Well Carly, you need to be happy too. You deserve it.

You make the coolest friendship bracelets out of anyone else you know. You can sing beautifully, even if you are shy about it sometimes. And you can do some pretty great things with a sewing machine. Don't lie. And even though you don't always think so because you always compare yourself to everyone else, you are good at math. Not everyone can get B's in AB calc. Or get honor roll all four marking periods every year in high school.

You are brutally honest and that is what some people love about you. People need honesty once in a while with the world we live in.

You make people happy. You would like them to return the favor. You deserve it.

I hope one day you will love yourself. You are trying very hard. You want people to see you are trying and know this is very very difficult.

People always tell you everything. All their problems, everything. You keep everyone's secrets. Not everyone can do that.

You are truly unique. There is no one else like you.

-Carly

[Just Smile]

Dear Sarah,
You have had so many struggles throughout your life, but you are and have always been an amazing person.
You are selfless and always willing to help anyone with anything. You are kind and giving and there when anyone needs you.
You are very accepting and don’t judge anyone. Anyone can trust you. You understand and will listen to anyone. You are a fantastic person!
Me :gimmehug

[keepingthefaith]

Dear Faith,

I know right now you are feeling like nobody will ever love you unconditionally. Well, not matter what, I am here for you.

You are a wonderful person. You truly care about the world around you. Faith, you go out of your way to help other people and every day make the world a bit better. Your family loves you so much and while you might feel like you don't have many friends, you are still very loved.

Even in the face of adversity you continue to work toward your goals of finishing your university degree. You persevere through so much and while things may not always be exactly as you would like them to be, you never stop trying.

Keep going. You have your whole life waiting for you and I can't wait to see what you do with you. I love you and will always love you.

Faith:lubdub

[ashjw]

Dear Ashley,

I know that you are going through a very hard time right now. Everything in your life feels turned upside down and I can tell that you are unsure of how you present yourself in this world. Sadly, you are not capable of seeing yourself the way that you are...
You are compassionate...The care you have for animals is beautiful and, despite what others might say, that is nothing to be ashamed of...
You are so scared that no one is ever going to love you. You are different and have a variety of interests. You dont subscribe to the "los angeles norm", hence, have many moments of feeling not good enough and alienated. However, these qualities are exactly what make you so special. Just because your ex puts you down, you cannot take his criticisms to heart. There is a lot of history there and most likely, his crticism is a product of years of anger, regret, resentment, etc... I know it is particularly hard for you though because you always believed that he was the only one who "got you." Now, you are seeing that he doesn't get you either. Maybe believing that he was the "one" was the product of your own build up of feelings and insecurities throughout th years. Maybe you idealized him because it made you feel safe. I know this is going to be hard but take this as an opportunity to be free. Finally, you have the chance to see things clearly. Maybe he was a good guy and still is in certain ways, but, if you remember, he never made you that happy. In the beginning he was infatuated with you but,once he had you, life together was rough, unhealthy and unmanageable.
I say all this in order to help you see that his opinion means nothing. Keep on being the beautiful, smart, compassionate and caring woman that you are. DO NOT ever again give him the power to make you dislike yourself and resort to trying to change yourself through old eating habits or by denying who you are. Have fun. Enjoy your life. Do things that make you happy and proud and I PROMISE you that one day, your **** year battle with this man and his words and feelings will be a memory. A memory experienced while by the side of a worthy, compassionate and compatible man. A memory that will make you look at the man by your side with such love and passion;knowing that finally you have found the one who deserves your love.
So, get out of bed. Get dressed in something that makes you feel beautiful. Go to church and talk to God. Go to the coffee shop and work on your book. Remember who YOU are-beautiful, free, lovable, passionate, funny, smart, interesting, compassionate-and don't look for those things in the eyes of another. YOU are enough. I love you...

[jayzer]

Hey chica,
I want to apologize first the way I've hurt you in the past. I don't want to do that anymore, but if I do, go ahead & remind me that you don't deserve it. You're a special girl. You have talent. You are loving & loved by others. You are... even kinda pretty. Yeah. I know you don't believe it, but it's true. No one asks you to be a supermodel. Just be you because you are worth it. Love ya!
Me

[SoBlonde]

Dear Josh,

You are a passionate and caring person. You're a great listener and you try hard to take care of those that you love. You're very empathetic and that gives you a great ability to relate to those around you and help you guide them. You're a strong person for going through the things that you have. Never forget what has happened, but let the past go and work toward a better future.

[ekbaby]

Dear me,
I still see you. The real you. The little girl who was silenced. I have been quite for a long time now. Sometimes you do not see me. But I am there. I have become weak because you forgot about me, you stopped taking care of me, you chose to ignore me, to numb me, to shut me down. But I waited- patiently. I knew that you would come searching for me one day. I knew I could never let you down. You see I am the best in you. I am the love you could not seem to find when you felt abandoned; I am the positive cheerleader you needed when you were down in the dumps; I am your greatest supporter. But you needed to find me, you needed to search for me, you needed to embrace me.
I am tiny right now but I promise to grow if you feed me- I only want a few kind thoughts everyday, a few pleasant words, a few good deeds- it is not much to ask for... I only ask that you do a little everyday, day by day. You will be amazed by how fast I can become big and bold. Try me. I am your friend. I am the best in you. I will not let you down. I will only make you shine- for you and for the world.

[caustic_artist]

Dear self,

I just wanted to make sure you knew that you're a really cool person. You're taking a photograph of yourself every day for a whole year! Who does that?! You play the bass, which scores you some wicked coolness points. You aren't afraid to try new things. Remember all of that woodcarving you did this year, despite all of the failed projects and wood shavings all over the place? That was fun! Oh, and you've got a great sense of style. Don't worry too much about those jeans you put in storage, you can wear them again soon. They're damn cute on you. Especially with those dress shirts you're so apt to wear.

You've run into a few obstacles lately, a rough patch that is looking to throw you completely off course. Don't back down now. You're strong. You can do anything you set your mind to, and I know you'll do it well. You're worth it. No matter what anyone else says, no matter what you might say to yourself in your deepest despair, you are worth it.

Love,
Kristine.

[mchamb]

Dear Michelle,

Although it is hard for you to see it sometimes, I know that you are a fantastic person. You live life full of passion and enthusiasm. These qualities are rare in many people and I know they will lead you to make a difference in the world! You're always caring and have reached out to many people who typically get overlooked. I admire this. Although your stuborness has led you to a few quarrels, it has also allowed you to pave your own path through life. You've always had the courage to do what you believe is right and to stick to your values, even when everyone around you is telling you otherwise.

You're unbelievably special and I love you dearly :)

[aliasanonymous]

Dear (name withdrawn),
you really are a good person, despite what you tell yourself. you care about your friends and family. you try to see the humor in everything to distract from the sadness of real life.
you dont deserve what you do to yourself.
you are strong and brave.
love, yourself.

[MessedupMind]

Dear me,
I know you want to be the girl you used to be when you were little, the happy one that didn't need to rely on anyone else, the one that was happy with herself just the way she is. I know your heart is broken, don't be in a rush to fix it just because it needs to be. You can't go back to who you were, now it's time to not reinvent yourself because there is something wrong, but because hopefully going through this and living through this will help you be the person you've always wanted to grow up to be..
Don't be afraid to love someone, because the first few didn't love you back. Don't be afraid to open your heart when people show how much they truly care.

[PsychBunhead]

Dear Twinkle Toes,
Why are you doing this to yourself? You've worked so hard for so many years, you deserve better than this. You worked so hard in the dance studio, you had so many younger girls who look up to you, and you're giving them a crapass role model. If you were as bad, fat, or ugly as you want to think, they wouldn't give you a second glance. I know it's hard to be out of the studio, you've lost that release, but you know you can express that passion in other ways. Healthier ways. Four years in a row you were runner up for the ballet scholarship. Of all the styles, you were noticed in the most specific and demanding one. A notable choreographer remembered you by your dancing. That's not common, and you know it.

And what about Dan? What about your Simba? Does he deserve this? He's dealt with so much already, and after all that, he. chose. YOU. Not only as his girlfriend, but as his best friend. He's told you how many times that he needs you? That's something. And you shouldn't hurt the woman he loves, he's not a fan of his love being tossed off.

Dean's list, International Honor Society... can just anyone claim membership in either? No. Especially not in one semester. But you did it. You behaved, you worked your ass off, and you did it! You proved your parents wrong and balanced school with work AND planning an apartment in detail.

You keep saying that you're lonely. Whose fault is that? You can be such a good friend, why do you push people away? You LOVE being social! You LOVE being with other people, but you keep pushing potential friends away because you're scared that they'll see who you've made yourself into. Show them what you have to offer.

Why are you letting yourself be beaten down by food? You've survived so much more! It's not easy, I know that, but you work everyday at being stronger and better. You are a SURVIVOR! Not a victim. You can be so strong for everyone else, be that strong for YOU.

You love food, enjoy it... don't fear it, don't get angry at it. Don't blame it for what it hasn't done. Dan loves cooking, enjoy what he makes for you. Like the blueberry tart in the fridge. Have a piece. Love it, he made it especially for you, after all! Don't worry so much about your body. The only person who has to love it (other than you) is Dan, and he DOES! Don't be so insecure when you're with him, he loves what he already has. You should too.

You're finally getting close to Catie and Eric. Give them someone to love. Don't kill yourself over these fictitious worries.
Love you!!!
-the lost you...

[buttrfly]

Dear Tara, I know you are having a hard time right now and feel like things are never going to get better. I know that you feel depressed and ugly and sad (among other things). I am writing this to tell you that things are going to get better! You should be very proud of yourself because you are graduating college in May and than going into the teaching program. You have a great husband who actually loves you and supports you in everything you do and you have your family back. I know you have had a rough life and have been through abusive relationships, being assaulted and other really bad things but you survived! I am so proud of you because despite everything that happened you never gave up and you kept on going! You still want to help kids and have been working really hard to turn your life around! Even though you are still struggling in some areas you should be proud because there are so many things you have had to overcome to get where you are today! Soon, your medical device will be fixed and you can do more and be able to get around and move around more. And also, you will be feeling better with your anxiety and panic so that you can do all the things you ever wanted to do. Don't let negative people or your own negativity hold you back any longer. You are beautiful, intelligent, creative, strong, and you are going to be a great wife, mother, and teacher! I am proud of you for all the hard work you have done :) Never stop believing in yourself!

Love,
me

[sunflowerr]

Dear little Emily,

I'm writing to tell you how much I love you. I've been waiting a long time to write you this, and I'm sorry, but please take each word to heart and never forget it.

I love your spirit - You are endlessly excited about life and you see beauty and fun everywhere. You are childlike and innocent, and despite others taking advantage of this - you never stop trusting people or lose your optimism about life. I love your honesty - you are honest to others and learning to be honest about who you are. I love how unique you are - your sense of humour makes me laugh every day, you sense of style perfectly expresses who you are and you are interested in so many different things. You are never afraid to be different and to stand out from the crowd - I love and admire you for that.

You are so loving, you do anything and everything you can for those you love and you are fiercely loyal to your friends. You are intelligent and successful, stop pushing yourself so hard to do more.. there is no such thing as perfect. You have already seen what happens when you spread yourself too thin, you get exhausted and have to stop. You set goals and achieve them, you do your best to be a good person, to honour your god and live in accordance to your principles, you give whenever you can and you are constantly looking for ways to better yourself.

You are so intelligent and academic its awesome. You achieved the grades you needed to get into university over two years of your course in just one year.. how amazing is that??
You are beautiful and have a gorgeous slim figure that many people envy. Your weight doesnt dictate your worth.. you need to eat to live, please stop punishing yourself with your eating disorder. I am so proud of your progress in the past few months of recovery - You are so inspiring!

I love your pretty green eyes. I love your long brown hair. I love you. Unconditionally

Love always,
Emily xxxxx

[claudiacardinale]

Dear Celina,
I'm sorry how hard things have been the past year. No matter what, you are still you. A kind girl that can open up her heart and love unconditionally even when others do not do the same. You accept people for who they are and you follow your heart, rather than conforming to the norms of society. You are open minded, intelligent, articulate, and unlike anybody else. Never lose hope and always follow your dreams. Always know that there is always tomorrow. Despite what happened in March of ****************, you are still beautiful and you are still you. You can still photograph amazingly. Your lips are beautiful and your dark eyes that you should never change with contacts. You have full, natural eyelashes and an unbelievable booty. hehehe!

Besides for that, your writing skills are amazing. The professor said she had never seen anybody write like you. You have never received one "C" in your whole college career. Mostly A's and only about **** B's. You made it on the dean's list **** semesters in a row and in the honor's society. Nobody else in the family has ever accomplished this. You are a great girl.

Above all, as stated before, you are a loving girl who always forgives first and never holds grudges.

Love, Kisses, and Hugs! XOXO:bowtie:lubdub:kiss:kaoshappy

[ashesxx]

Ashley,
I'm so proud of you for all of the things you are accomplishing! You keep moving forward through all of the tough times you have! I love how perserverent you are. You deserve all of the wonderful things life throws at you. Let your wonderful boyfriend love you and love yourself! You have such a kind heart and you don't try to hurt others. Forgive yourself for your mistakes and be yourself, because it is a wonderful person deep inside of you. People love you and enjoy your company!
Love,
Ashley

[Blinkgirl]

Hey you! I just wanted to write you a letter to remind you of some things you may forget from time to time. First off, you are an incredibly strong person to even attempt recovery, let alone progress like you have. You know, you often focus on how "screwed up" and "broken" you are but you are not looking at the whole person, just a tiny fragment of your past. You have been through a tremendous amount in the last few years, a horrible break up, you graduated magna cum laude, you had a hard time adjusting to being away from home, learned to take care of yourself independently, addressed a pill/alcohol problem and put a DUI behind you. That is A LOT to do on your own. Those growing experiences were so hard, but you grew through them and they made you strong. Your so strong now that you are learning to walk away from your eating disorder. Thats seriously incredible, and it takes such a courageous person to do that! You have really changed in the last **** months. Just think about what you can accomplish now that you are getting stronger by the day! You have such a bright future ahead and you really deserve every thing you will have. You are going to move, meet an amazing man, succeed at a job, make a family, buy a house, and find the balance you crave so much.

You truly are an amazing person. You are so unique. You care about others, and animals, so deeply. You are always there for those who need you. You are smart and funny. Just look at how you blew college out of the WATER! You are always looking for something fun to get into, and all your friends love to be around you! You are so gifted at event planning. You are going to make the most amazing wife and mother! I love you and am so excited about your life ahead! You really are an AMAZING person, and there is no one out there that could replace you. You enrich so many peoples lives with your gifts and presence. You are truly spectacular! :supergrin

[apapization]

Dear April,

There is so much I wish you could see about you. How special you are even though you can't see it yourself. Sometimes you seem so confused about who you are, but I know if you look deep down you'll find all the strength you need. I love your determination. I've never seen you just give up. I love that you have grace, not in your movements, but more in the grace you have when you fall. You are never afraid to get back up and try again. I wish you didn't try to be perfect. No one expects you to be more than the best you. However I know eventually you will be the beautiful representation of you again. You will remember that you ARE perfect just the way you are. Because there is no other you. One day your going to come out of these struggles more beautiful then you could have ever imagined. You just need to keep your faith and hope. And you need to never ever give up.

Love always,
April.

[knutsoee]

I spend most of my time telling myself all of the things I hate about myself but right now I am going to try to tell myself the things I love about myself. I think the most important thing I can appreciate about myself is that I am a relatively healthy ******** year old. I love that I am a very strong person. I love that I am determined. I love that I don't let certain things bother me.

..I guess this is turning out to be harder than I thought.

[carribbeanfish]

Hey sweetheart,

What can I say? You're different, and I like it!

I like the way you ask interesting questions and approach total strangers with deep interest.
I like how dress for comfort, not style, unless you feel like it - and then you can really go all out.

I admire your commitment to really understanding yourself and what makes you fulfilled. I'm proud that those things are so good and so right - community, truth and equality - and I know you are going to have an amazing life once you start following your dreams.

You are talented, smart and deeply compassionate. Many wonderful people love you and I am one of them. Go, you!

me

[margaretmary]

Darling child,

you are sensitive and intelligent, humble, grateful and caring. Your niave innocence of your strong and compelling impact on others in your world is endearing yet I can see that it harms you too because you have no idea of the love and respect you generate. You feel alone but you are not, oh that I you could feel my love engulf you because I know how needy you feel.

Know that you are loved, admired and enormously valued my daughter even when you cannot feel or see it. Know that others believe in you :love:wand unconditionally.

[babymaddy]

Hey boo,
You need to get better, this is tearing your momma to pieces, you're not a bad person, it's the inside that matters, and on the inside you're beautiful. A bad person wouldn'tve won homecoming princess, your peers LOVE you. A bad person wouldn't do everything in her power to give to the homeless. A bad person wouldn't be there for the people who have burned them in the past. You are a STRONG girl. You're funny, creative, and a much better person when you're not sick. You are loved, and you have the biggest heart the world has ever seen. Keep fighting sweetness, your friends don't deserve this anxiety you thrust upon them, they'd love you if you were the largest being on the face of the earth, and YOURE not. You have it good! Be brave! Fight this! Stay away from porcelin, from pink boxes, EAT, reward yourself, you know you love your food silly girl. Don't restrict, LIVE.
Love, Me.

[funugan]

Meg,
Sometimes crap happens, and sometimes you cause that crap to happen. Almost a year ago you made a not-so-awesome decision and just now are dealing with the repercussions. Really you just need to remember a few things:
First and foremost, STOP CARING WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING. You don't even know these people half the time and they don't know you AND in like **** years this won't even come close to mattering to you. It's done and over and all you can do is roll with it. You're name is so delicious people just can't keep it out of their mouths lol
Second, you lost a friends and a half this year (not really sure what's happening with the second one:/ ) It hurts bad when people leave but both choose to go and walk out. Now you know for sure who's there for you and actually cares and honestly it's much better off now.
Third, remember what makes you amazing. You say it at least **** times a day that you're awesome, now live up to it.
less then **** you,
Meg



Not really a love note but I think it works :)

[noparenthesis]

Laura,

For what it's worth, you're a pretty amazing person. I know other people tell you this on occasion, but I know you don't believe them. You look at them and say 'thank you,' but inside secretly I know you disagree and think they're crazy.

Well, why? Really? Other people see something that you don't, I think.

I mean, come on. You're twenty years old, and look what you've done so far:
-you're in your third year at university and doing pretty well for yourself
-you know what you want to do (teach), and you're pretty damn good at that when you know what you're doing
-you moved halfway across the world for **** months, and you didn't know the language, any people, and somehow you're getting by and doing REALLY well
-you've become more outgoing and assertive since you've begun the recovery process, and you're back to your old sassy self
-you've gotten much better at making friends - social interactions really aren't that difficult or scary for you anymore!

But even more than that...life isn't what you've accomplished. Sure, that's part of it, but that doesn't encompass or even begin to tell the story of the whole, fabulous you.

Why are you awesome? Well, for one thing, you're empathetic and a terrific listener. There's a reason why people go to you with their problems and find you easy to talk to - its' because you listen to them, sympathize with them, and make them feel needed and love. That's an awesome skill to have.

You're passionate about teaching, and helping people, which you love to do and I'm so glad that you've chosen to do it for the rest of your life.

You've got some really supportive friends and family that care a hell of a lot about you - let them into your life some more! They're willing to be there and would do anything for you; it's okay not to be everyone's rock all the time and to be vulnerable.

You're creative, funny, talented, resourceful, and most of all, RESILIENT - you have been through so much, done so much to yourself, and been put in all kinds of situations, but somehow, always, you find a way to never give up and pull through.

I'm so proud of you, everything you've done, and who you've become. I love you.

-Laura

[KathrynTheCat]

Amy...why do you have to come up with such challenging games?!...:winky

ok...I wrote it in my journal whilst my son was swimming...here it is:
Dear Kath,
Such an amazing woman full of courage, compassion and strength. Such knowledge, experience and wisdom at a level well beyond your years, you've SO much to teach and share. I cherish the joy and light radiating from you, especially when you smile. I love watching the ease with which you interact with people and animals of all ages and from all walks of life. I admire your dedication and the lightness present in everything you do, every task you undertake, and in your dance, movement and voice. You show everything respect, whether rock or tree, car or creek, friend or foe; and you're always there with a kind word, or a story to make me laugh, or for a hug and shoulder to cry on, or simply a relaxing chat. You see beyond the masks and balance everything you can - No belief is wrong, no action or religion false, rather you hold true to your beliefs and endeavour to ensure you live by them in all actions and words. Such a strength and beauty, inside and out, like a lotus blossoming once the battlefield is stilled and silent.
I look forward to seeing you in full bloom, and learning evermore from and of you. Know you are loved, cherished and worthy.
Kath xxx
:ummm:cry:ugh ...(((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) hugs to myself...that was SO hard, and I wish I believed it now, but I guess in time I will, and deep inside I know it's true, and it's me (at least part of me)... :cry:shy

[gracelikerain]

Dear Emily,

I-I really don't know what to write to you. I don't know if it's just that I am too gun-shy to express myself to you openly in a letter, or because my mind has left me at the moment. Probably a little of both. I write letters to everyone else, but it seems that I have neglected you. Sorry.

This may be kind of hard to read but you need to get over whatever it is that's got you stuck in the mud. You have potential, and Lord knows you have a purpose in this world! Why are you so hard on yourself? Don't be. You're exhausted and are making yourself sick.

Stop being angry with yourself and show the world what you're made of. Who cares if no one notices your talents and unique abilities? (It's OK to care, but is it really that important? Important enough to punish yourself?) What really matters right this moment is that you notice them-your talents, achievements, and abilities-and are confident in what you have done and will do.

I love you. No...don't give me that look. I know you don't believe me, especially after I made you stare down that yellowing toilet bowl this afternoon and intentionally abused you this morning. But I do! I do! I do! I love you and wish there was some way I could make the pain go away instantly. However, I can't. But I will say this: it's up to you whether or not you are willing to "get well". Have you become so comfortable with your ED that you would rather stay in your current situation? Or are you willing and ready to allow God to take control? Remember: your ED is not a part of you, and you are not a part of your ED. Your identity is not wrapped up in this. Let it go.

Whenever you're feeling down in the dumps, know that you aren't alone. You are loved. Take a break and go pamper yourself. You deserve it. Forget about being "perfect" and breath. Go crazy live on the wild side every now-and-then. Relax. Enjoy life. Pray. Love. Hope. And have faith.

Kisses and Hugs. xoxoxo

Love,
Em

[berr]

Dear Berr,

I just had to write to you to tell you how much I admire and respect you as a person.
I know you probably don't realize that I feel this way about you, but I do.

I think you are great because I know you hold so much love in your heart that at times you don't know how to show it enough to those you love.

I also am really blown away by how easy you forgive others...or at the very least, make every effort to do so.

I like how you do not let material wealth and success change the core of who you are - you know what's really important.

You have overcome so many obstacles in life, yet you are still able to see the world in a happy and loving light.

You are hopeful that happiness will be found by everyone and that each one of us makes a difference....well it is you who has made the difference for me and I am so eternally grateful for this.

Myself.

[Ulyssessgirl]

Dear Ulyssesgirl. :love

I think you are a very special person and there is no one in this world like you. That is why you must keep fighting the good fight. You are really strong. Sometimes you don't think so, but I've never met anyone who can endure and keep going and keep laughing like you. You bring joy to people when you laugh and smile.

One thing I really like about you is how sensitive and caring you are. You always want to help other people and make them feel better. You try to instill hope in others. That is such a good quality. Alex thinks you are an angel. :angel He says he's never met anyone with as big of a heart than you. I think you're starting to maybe recognize that a little bit.

I love how curious you are. Always wanting to know details. Always wanting to learn. Don't ever stop this- It makes it really fun to talk to you. :cool

I also like how fun you can be. You like to explore, be spontaneous, try new things, and challenge yourself. We always have a good time together. :muhaha

You're definitely an individual. Always wanting to be herself. This shows in your fashion sense and how your carry yourself. I think you're super cool. You're also a really, really, good Mom! You try so hard to do your best and I hope that you feel proud of yourself because your son is such a good kid. Well done. :supergrin

You've had a rough time as of late, but you're a fighter. Things are coming around. Everything happens for a reason. Someday you'll understand why. Until then, believe me when I say that you're worthy, have value, are unique, are special, and are destined to have wonderful things happen to her. I love you! :love

[rockergirl]

Dear Meg,
I wanted to send you a letter to remind you that you're amazing.
Yes, you've been through hard times and yes you've slipped many times. But that's because you forget about all of the amazing things that make up the beautiful person that you are.
You are creative. You are amazingly talented. The moment you pick up the guitar, you're a new person, outgoing, open and honest. You're vulnerable for once, and that vulnerability is priceless. Close your eyes and listen to yourself play, don't forget that when you sing, when you play, you're finally allowing yourself to open your eyes to the things that you tend to shove away.
You are intelligent. You're capable of absolutely anything. You've gotten amazing scores on tests, great grades throughout high school and got a full ride to college. You have to stop putting yourself down, the more you say you're stupid, the more you doubt yourself. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Don't let your negativity bring you down. You're amazing.
You are beautiful. You have a boyfriend that cares about you, that would do anything for you. You are beautiful. You're quirky and cute. You're adorable. Your laugh is contagious. You're a lot more than you give yourself credit for.
Don't give up on yourself. You've got too much going for you to give up now. Have faith in yourself. Be honest. Allow yourself to be you. Let go of all of your inhibitions, they're the only thing keeping you from accomplishing everything you want to.

Love always,
Meg

[Aehtela]

Dear Aehtela,

I know that right now you want desperately to hold on to your fears and your anxieties and all your disordered habits because that is what is familiar to you and is comfortable and is all that you feel you deserve at the moment. However, I also remember a time when you loved your life and you loved yourself.

Remember the girl that you were when you first left home for University and how full of life, of love and of pride you were. That girl is still inside you - you are you and you should be proud of who you are and love yourself a little more. You have a generous heart and deep inside you are positive - it's just hard to let yourself feel that positivity at the moment.

I know that you feel like you are utterly out of control of your life but that is an illusion that you set up for yourself - getting back on track is not an overnight feat - it takes time and you should be proud of each small accomplishment. Don't let one guilty event make your forget about all the other things that happened that was progress.

I know how scared you are of letting yourself feel the pent up emotions that you have bottled up for all this time - it's ok to let yourself feel emotions. Anger is not your enemy, nor is sadness. If you are not perfect, you are not an embarrassment to those around you. Your friends won't leave you if they find out about your ED.

And as for how desperately you want for someone to take care of you for once and love you for once, that will happen - but first you have to take care of yourself and love yourself more.

You can do it. I know you can. No matter how many times you trip as long as you are still breathing there is more right with you then wrong...

Love,
You

[criminalmindslover]

Dear Meg,

Today is a new day, it's your decision what happens. No one is in charge of you. Don't worry about what happenend you don't deserve that. You have had far to many years of pain. You are an amazing person, friend, student, and daughter. You have so much power to make something happen! You are so creative, I have not meant someone as creative as you. (I am not bragging, it's true). Smile, you look beautiful when you do. You are beautiful. I am so proud of you!! Can you believe that one semester of college is over.

Good luck with all you future plans, you can do IT!!!

Love,
Yourself :)

[recoveringinwi]

Dear Me,
There are so many things I want to tell you that I have needed to say for years. You are amazing! You are a fighter and a survivor. You have lived through things so difficult that many would have given up long ago. You have proved your doubters wrong, (even those with an MD behind their name,) through your strength, endurance, and faith.
Throughout all these struggles you have stayed true to who you are. For as long as I've known you, you've always been honest, compassionate, empathetic to other's pain, and caring. These qualities are beautiful. My only fear is that you will get so caught up in taking care of others that you will forget how important it is to care for yourself.
I'm so sorry I don't take the time to tell you these things more often. You deserve to hear them.

With Love And Concern,
Me

[grugger]

Dear Angus,
I apologize to you. For the times I have hurt you, told you your worthless or stupid, a loser and a nobody. You are a somebody. Maybe not a person pivotal to human kind, but pivotal to the lives of those who love you. Your efforts to be a better brother to your siblings never goes unnoticed. Your love and support for your youngest brother is much appreciated, even when he cannot see it himself.

I know you've been having an awful month. But hang in there. Thiss too will pass

[MagdalenaJane]

Hey girl,

You fight. Because you care. A lot. About everything. You are a passionate advocate. And every day you wage battles about things that you care about deeply. You work hard to live a meaningful life. Not everyone can say that.

You never back down from a challenge, though you're slowly learning how to say no, and that's a good thing too.

You have survived some ugly stuff. Yet every day you laugh and smile and forgive and love. That's brave. You've let yourself be vulnerable because you believe the joy is worth the pain, even though you have a deeper understanding of pain than you should. That's amazing.

You are a woman of faith and morals, and you fight for what you know is right. You have dedicated your life to it. Remember who you are.

Remember that your greatest strength is your passion. Remember that passion must be nourished. Remember that your passion is rooted in love and forgiveness - for the whole world, including yourself.