I Need Advice

[JustinzAngel]

I'm seventeen,and i've been suffering from bulimia for two and a half years now.I really wanna get help,but i haven't told my parents yet.Any ideas on how i should tell them?

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:hugonjustinz:angel:hugoff
wow im glad to hear youve decided on telling your parents. i dont have any advice on how to tell them because i never told my parents, but i want to assure you that if you have a good relationship with your parents, telling them is really helpful. most likely, theyll be supportive and it will be easier for you to recover. good luck :clover

[titian]

Hi there JustinzAngel,
Nice to meet you :cheesy and a warm welcome.

You made the first step already by coming here. Welldone! It takes courage to realise you need to change! I hope you will find as much help, advice, support, encouragement, shoulders-to-cry-on, feet-to-kick-ass, and plain understanding and acceptance as I have.

Reaching out really is important to recover. There is some advice on how to tell people on this website - under the reaching out section. Basically, come prepared with some information for them and remember they might be very shocked or upset. I think parents can find it especially hard because they may feel they failed. Also bear in mind that they might be very ignorant - there's a section on helping friends and family on this site too. You might find it helpful cos it gives an idea of the kinds of things they might do or say.

I told my boyfriend quite recently and it was the best thing I could do. Such a relief, I don't feel so alone and it has really helped me

wishing you loads of luck - and let us know how it goes
much :love
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[BulNiki]

:hugonJustinzangel:hugoff

Hey there!!!! Wow, well the situation you are in is the same one I am in. But I am one year older than you. I still have not told my mom about my ed but hey, I am not strong enough yet. But I think that it is absolutely great that you are willing and that strong enough.

The best way to do it is to just sit them both down and just tell them what is on your mind. Tell them how you feel and how you want help and that you hate seeing yourself so unhappy. Tell them exactly how it is and I almost guarantee you that they might be upset, but they will support you.

Good Luck :clover

They are your parents, remember that!!

Much Love

BulNiki :love

[bambiichick]

is to just tell them. Sit them both down and tell them what is going on. If they are confused or anything....help them find information......most of all.....be honest with them. Lots o love and luck Bambii

[DeltaGirl]

Ask yourself what would help make this easy both for me to tell my parents and also for my parents to hear this?

When I told my parents my school guidance counselor was with me because it was easier telling my mother that way.

I would suggest maybe finding a good friend someone who you trust and taking them with you when you talk with your parents. Perhaps this would make you feel more comfortable.

The other piece of advice I would suggest is find a quite time where you and your parents can sit down and just talk for example during dinner or on the way to a game may not be the best time.

I would start by saying something like Mom and Dad this is going to be hard for me to tell you but I need to tell you and I need your support. This will allow them to know where you are at and that you need some help.

Good luck to you. Please feel free to e-mail me if you need someone to talk with. Please let us know what happens when you talk with them.

[Millificent]

I'm a big advocate of letter writing. That's how I told my parents last year, and it worked out well.

Letter writing has advantages for both sides.
YOU - You can really get your thoughts organized, and figure out just what you want to say. You can also print out some pages from this site to include (I recommend "What You Can (and Can't) Do" (http://www.something-fishy.org/helping/whatyoucando.php))

THEM - They have a chance to absorb the information and talk together before sitting down with you. My step-mother thanked me for allowing my dad the privacy of reading the letter without me there.

:clover Millie