inconsiderate friend

[claradancer]

Today started out to be a good day :happy, and then it happened. I went shopping and out to lunch with a friend. It would have been no big deal, I'd already talked myself into getting through it. Then she had the nerve to bring up my ed (which she thinks I'm completely over) in the middle of our meal. Not to mention that she opened her big mouth in front of our waitress, who then tried to coax me into ordering more food! I'm never going out to eat with her again! :reallymad Now I'd like to :kick her butt even more than this stupid ed's! I was doing so good lately too, and now I'm struggling not to cave. I guess maybe it's time for me to tell my friends the truth, I'm just not sure that I'm ready to yet.
:sad
aeramdancer

[Alie]

aeramdancer sorry about your lunch date with your friend, that must have been hard but you have to be strong don't let the ignorance of your friend send you into a tailspin. take it one minute, one hour, one day at a time.

keep writing and smiling

love Alie aka rainbow

[*star]

:hugonaeramdancer:hugoff
i know how tough it can be dealing with insensitive friends. for me, its insensitive family members :sad. they suck! oh and not to mention that waitress.. what a bitch! who is she to get into your business anyway.. hope you feel better and hope it never ever happens again!!

[cemmhs]

:hugon areamdancer :hugoff
Sorry to hear about your ordeal. As if it isn't hard enough to confide in a friend about an ed. Kudos for that. That is why I could never do it, because our town is too small and full of gossip, I know that they couldn't resist.
I wish more people understood this disease. The point is not to order more food. That is the worst thing to do to a bulimic who is trying to recover!!
Good Luck!!!
You have our :love and support
Keep fighting!
:turtle clair

[titian]

:hugon aeramdancer :hugoff
Poor you! People can be insenstitive. I don't think she should have mentioned it infront of the waitress, what business is it of hers?!
However, you did say she thought you were completely over it. Here's a quote which I love

"Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by incompetence"

People really don't understand how such comments effect an ed person - even a recovered ed person.

Stay strong! Don't hurt yourself to get back at someone else's insensitivity.

I really think you should try to tell someonethe truth. You don't have to tell everyone. Start by being honest with one person and see how it goes. Small steps.

much :love
e

[purple_tao]

:love :love :hugon a-dancer :hugoff :love :love

I see you found your own answer in your post!! True, your friend did some rotten things, but........ she thinks you're over your bulimia....AND YOU'RE NOT :surprise !! Now, depending on WHAT she talked about (your ED), that's not necessarily a bad thing -- you didn't mention the context of the conversation -- was she saying helpful things?

Now, to say schtuff to the waitress....... that was a major bloop. A giant razzberry award goes to her. I certainly hope you talked to your friend after that whole senario. It wouldn't have to have been about you still having your ED (you say you're not ready for that), but how insensitive you found it that she told the waitress. If she really is a friend, I think telling her you still struggle would be a huge step forward in your recovery. She might even be embarassed about the restaurant scene and humbly apologize !! I'm sure she wants to help you!

The waitress......... I can't even find words to express how I feel about her (and that's unusual). Well, here's one: :reallymad GGGgggrrrr :reallymad How's that for articulation!! My suggestion: NEVER GO BACK TO THAT RESTAURANT. There... ppfftt :muhaha

:hugon ang :hugoff ~~ Hoping you have a better day today :bounce

:peace

[Angel Without Wings]

Honey, I know how you feel. My mother is the same way. :ugh She thinks she knows everything......:kick

I think it's cuz she wants to feel like she can understand it or like she knows what's going on. Your friend may not have intentionally meant to hurt your feelings because she thinks you're over it. Yes, it is best to be honest with your friends, but do it when you feel like it's the best time.


I understand and I give many :hugon Hugs :love :hugoff to you. Please don't give up because you feel this way. You were strong and overcame-- don't let ignorance push you down. We are all here for you :yay.

:love to you

Sara, the :angel Angel Without Wings :angel

[claradancer]

:hugon Alie :hugoff
:hugon *star :hugoff
:hugon cemmhs :hugoff
:hugon titian :hugoff
:hugon purple_tao :hugoff
:hugon angel without wings:hugoff
Thank you :fishy's so much or all the :love and support. :happy
Titian ~ I love the quote! Thanks for that :bounce
purple_tao ~ Thanks for pointing out how I'd already found the answer on my own (I never would have noticed).:winky
Today I will have a better day, because I will make it a better day. :supergrin
Angel without wings ~ sure would feel good to :kick those know it alls, wouldn't it. :cute
:love
angela