If you want someones attention...

[DreamingRecovery]

...then talk about THEM!! :grin

As far as I know, a persons favorite subject is themselves, so if you'd like someone to think of you as a great person, then say things that make them feel great. Compliment them. And be sincere! :love

Talk about the 'good' going on in their life. Let them brag a little. :cheesy

Mention their name a few times during a conversation. A persons name is one of the most beautiful sounds.

Ask for their opinion. Many people are flattered that you value their thoughts. :ear

Ask them for a small favor. For some reason people seem to think that if they do a favor for someone then they must be doing it because they like them. As strange as it sounds it usually works! :challenge You could ask them to keep you accountable for healthy habits!! :sly They'll associate positive feelings with YOU and want you to be around even more. :gimmehug Then when you'd like support they may be much more willing to help. :winky

Lotsa :love

[MegaVictory]

That is sooooooooooo true.

[bluesnow]

I would just like to add,

:stars Pay attention to what they tell you, then next time you speak and they mention someone or something you can say oh is that the person that did that or was that when you did that, people really appreciate it and I find are more likely to listen to you in return.

Love Blue :stars :stars xxx

[DreamingRecovery]

:hugon MegaVictory :hugoff

That is sooooooooooo true.
Get comfortable. Story tellin time! :bounce

I had bought a pair of glasses and was told that they'd be ready on a certain day. They were not. When they were ready and I came to pick them up, the manager said he was sorry. I told him that it was totally alright and that I understand the world is not a perfect place. I said things like this happen and it's okay. Then I said I forgive him even though I didn't blame him and that I was okay with not getting them that day because I got something important done anyways. He said I was a "true gentleman" and gave me free cleaner and a lens cleaning cloth.

I think this is a great lesson that says that courtasy goes a long way! :winky

:hugon blue :stars :stars :hugoff

Pay attention to what they tell you, then next time you speak and they mention someone or something you can say oh is that the person that did that or was that when you did that, people really appreciate it and I find are more likely to listen to you in return.
Yes, DETAILS, they MATTER!! People seem to :love when you remember the little stuff. It shows you were listening, and that shows you care. :gimmehug

Good Point! :yay

Lotsa :love

[ItxOnlyxGetsBetter]

:hugon DreamingRecovery and the Fishies :hugoff

:supergrin Those things really help. I like this post! Some people really don't think that a social life is conneted with an eating disorder really, but it can be! Also:

:stars Make sure you keep yourself calm and relaxed around someone. The more relaxed you are, the more relaxed they are--they don't want to spend their time with someone that gets them uptight.